Possible Problem?, too good for my own good? |
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Possible Problem?, too good for my own good? |
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![]() cvchango ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717 ![]() |
Background:
I like this girl a lot, and I've already asked her to prom. I've been hanging out w/ this girl every weekend for a while now. Usually we see each other about 2 times a week out of school, because she comes to my soccer games. We've become pretty much best friends, and soon I will try to take our relationship to the next step. I guess if there would ever be a good problem, this is it: When it comes to hanging out, I think going out to movies/malls, late night ice cream runs, watching movies together at home, and other usual activities are lame, boring, and old. Let's rate these ideas a 2/10. I try really hard to think of fun and different things to do, and I've done a pretty job of it to this point. Let's rate my ideas a 9/10. The problem is I am not sure if I can keep coming up with cool things to do. I am nervous about running out of things to do and becoming boring. I think she has raised her expectations and expects me to be creative. Is this a decent fear, or am I overreacting? Basically, is this going to turn into a problem for me? and I've been on cb for about two years now, still haven't figured out how to search. I'm sure there are plenty of topics on dating/hanging out ideas, so if anyone can post the links, it'll be much appreciated. |
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![]() Resource Center Tyrant ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 ![]() |
You're overreacting. It's not about what you do, it's about the person you're with. She's not with you because of your creativity, for crying out loud. Instead of trying really hard to find something to occupy yourselves with something to do, occupy yourselves with each other.
Go on a walk; make dinner and talk. Something like that. Watching movies is stupid. All you do is sit there and stare a screen, where's the intimacy in that? |
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![]() The Resident Drunk ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 ![]() |
You're overreacting. It's not about what you do, it's about the person you're with. She's not with you because of your creativity, for crying out loud. Instead of trying really hard to find something to occupy yourselves with something to do, occupy yourselves with each other. Go on a walk; make dinner and talk. Something like that. Watching movies is stupid. All you do is sit there and stare a screen, where's the intimacy in that? Agreed completely, but if I may add, this is what guys get when they try to bust out of the gates with champagne as opposed to just water. You never ever, EVER, show a girl all the goods up front. If you do that, you get caught in the situation which you are in now. She is expecting you to bring her the top notch things every time, but you are instead running out of ideas. A word of advice young pup, would be to always start off with the small stuff and then work your way in. Try to relax, and remember what got you this girl in the first place. If you try to hard, it will be a turn off, and she will drop you faster than Jenna Jameson drops her panties. |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 682 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 580,818 ![]() |
as "MissHygenic" said, you need to relax a bit, and as "DoubleJ" said, you need to take it slowly...you shouldnt be hung up on thinking of creative things to do, you should be hung up on each other. whether its just sitting on the couch talking or going to the movies, Its that time you spend together thats important, not what you spend that time doing.
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![]() cvchango ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717 ![]() |
Agreed completely, but if I may add, this is what guys get when they try to bust out of the gates with champagne as opposed to just water. You never ever, EVER, show a girl all the goods up front. If you do that, you get caught in the situation which you are in now. She is expecting you to bring her the top notch things every time, but you are instead running out of ideas. A word of advice young pup, would be to always start off with the small stuff and then work your way in. Try to relax, and remember what got you this girl in the first place. If you try to hard, it will be a turn off, and she will drop you faster than Jenna Jameson drops her panties. Well, yea, I know that using all tricks in the beginning is never good, I should pace myself. I planned all these fun nights together, because each week, I had planned to ask her out and told myself I would. My thinking is that great night = better chance of her saying yes. However, I could not muster up enough courage to do it, so a missed several opportunities. Here's how it went: After hanging out about 15 nights in about 2 months, I was ready to ask her out. After an amazing night, I got scared about asking, so I told myself to ask her to prom first (she said "she'd love to"). Two weeks later, I was going to ask her out, tripped up on words, and somehow, I ended up asking if I could have the pleasure of dating her (she said "ofcourse, we're pretty much dating now"). So that's where we are now. I've come to the conclusion that she likes me back, and it's up to me to take our relationship to the next step. Then I realized that I might run into the problem I wrote about originally, but reading the three post above, I think I'm overreacting. I truly believe she likes me for me, so thanks for the responses that helped me see this more clearly=D. |
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![]() Resource Center Tyrant ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 ![]() |
Haha, you're so awkward, it's cute. I really wouldn't worry too much about the fact that you're having a hard time finding activities to do. That's not what a relationship is about, that's what friends are about.
I'm glad things are working well, so far. |
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![]() Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 ![]() |
Wait wait wait. You went out with this girl fifteen times and then asked if you could go out? What the hell do you call going out?
She better put out. |
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![]() tell me more. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 ![]() |
All I can is, she doesn't expect you to take her on a rocket ride to the moon.
Just be with her. |
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Member ![]() ![]() Group: Ask Alice Posts: 26 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 601,954 ![]() |
Some of the best and most interesting times with a person can be spent simply talking to eachother on a couch. That being said, it's normal for a couple that is just blossoming to go out and do things all the time. You may consider those things boring now, but the more time goes on and the better you get to know eachother, just staying in and watching a movie with some Chinese food sounds more appealing. I really wouldn't worry too much about it. You should try just simply hanging out with her sometime. You may be surprised at how well you guys get to know eachother through conversation.
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