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preciousbabyrae
post Jan 3 2008, 12:30 AM
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Hm, okay so my boyfriend and I had been together for 3 months now. He's a very good kid and whatnot. But yeah, he's never touched me to where I felt uncomfortable and whatnot. Well so, on monday was the first time i saw him in a week (because of winter break for school) and i hung out with him. I gave him a hello hug and he hugged but like his hands was on my butt. He's never done that before until that moment. So then later on that day, he was touching it everytime we hugged and yeah. Soo, what does that mean? What might be going on in his head?
 
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post Jan 3 2008, 02:06 AM
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He obviously wants to go further with you, if he's trying to grab your ass, or anything of the sort. Guys are horny and most of them can't contain themselves. If he's touching you and you're uncomfortable with it, tell him and be serious about it. If he still does it even without your consent, tell him to go to hell. A good boyfriend is one who will respect your wishes.

But, if you like that sort of attention, then by all means go for it. I wouldn't want my boyfriend of 3 months to grope my ass out of nowhere.
 
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post Jan 3 2008, 02:21 AM
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Yeah, I would never go farther to where it leads to sex. I'm not that type but yeah.
 
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post Jan 3 2008, 06:22 AM
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If you don't like it then tell him, don't "put up with it", because he'll take that as an "ok" and will try to go further.
 
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post Jan 5 2008, 02:04 PM
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he probably want to know what its like to touch a butt
I think you should tell him if you don't want to get sexual with him.
 
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post Jan 5 2008, 09:24 PM
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Since the girl who usually says this left like years ago, I'll say it. Communication is key. He can't read your mind and you can't read his, so you should talk to him and tell him how you feel about this.
 
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post Jan 7 2008, 07:36 PM
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Really, butt-touching isn't that big of a deal. That doesn't necessarily mean he wants sex. There's a big jump from touching your butt to sex. Because it isn't really a debate most of the time, he may not know what's on your mind about it.

Why do you feel so uncomfortable about it? Evaluate that first before you talk to him. He may feel like you don't trust him if you just come out with the subject. He may feel at fault, when really, he doesn't know what the boundaries are.
 
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post Jan 7 2008, 11:46 PM
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Touching butt is not a big deal.
 
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post Jan 8 2008, 12:55 AM
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he wants to go further,
tell him to stop if that makes you uncomfortable.
try and work it out.
 
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post Jan 9 2008, 05:13 AM
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QUOTE(yrrnotelekktric @ Jan 8 2008, 02:55 PM) *
he wants to go further,
tell him to stop if that makes you uncomfortable.
try and work it out.


Yep. thumbsup.gif See how it goes, I highly recommend it. But be smart about it.
 
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post Jan 9 2008, 12:42 PM
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You definitely need to tell him how you feel pronto. If you give off the wrong signals, and continue to let it happen, then he will think that all systems are go. Then of course that will lead to even bigger problems eh.
 
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post Jan 9 2008, 01:15 PM
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QUOTE(preciousbabyrae @ Jan 3 2008, 12:30 AM) *
Hm, okay so my boyfriend and I had been together for 3 months now. He's a very good kid and whatnot. But yeah, he's never touched me to where I felt uncomfortable and whatnot. Well so, on monday was the first time i saw him in a week (because of winter break for school) and i hung out with him. I gave him a hello hug and he hugged but like his hands was on my butt. He's never done that before until that moment. So then later on that day, he was touching it everytime we hugged and yeah. Soo, what does that mean? What might be going on in his head?


HE WANT SEX!
 
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post Jan 9 2008, 01:16 PM
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Not everyone is like you, Eddie.
 
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post Jan 10 2008, 06:23 AM
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But who doesn't want sex.
 
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post Jan 10 2008, 06:29 AM
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QUOTE(Call911Quick @ Jan 10 2008, 08:23 PM) *
But who doesn't want sex.


Thou shalt not speakth of sexeth. shifty.gif
 
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post Jan 10 2008, 06:30 AM
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Yes father.

Just wondering. How come priests are "fathers" but priestesses are "sisters"?
 
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post Jan 10 2008, 06:33 AM
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QUOTE(Call911Quick @ Jan 10 2008, 08:30 PM) *
Yes father.

Just wondering. How come priests are "fathers" but priestesses are "sisters"?


I'm not sure, that's a good question. huh.gif
 
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post Jan 10 2008, 05:41 PM
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QUOTE(Call911Quick @ Jan 10 2008, 06:23 AM) *
But who doesn't want sex.


Indeed
 

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