My life is so disorganized right now what the hell am I going to do. I feel as though I have lost my complete being of what I used to be and now I am not sure what to do. I lost my great sense of fashion, my edge that I used to have, and among other things I just feel like a loser. I feel as though I have been in the same position for the past two years and have nothing to look forward to other than becoming a firefighter. I usually don't do things like this, but this weekend really had me thinking and I am so unsure of myself that I don't even know what to do anymore. I am hoping that somebody that has felt the same way before can give me some advice or something of that nature. ANY thoughts negative and positive would help.

I was like that last year. I didn't have a job, wasn't in school and I felt like none of my friends got me. But once I got a job && was keeping myself busy, everything sorta just flowed together ya know? I'm sure that will happen to you, just stay proactive. Don't let your mind rest and you won't think about all those negative things like being a loser, i'm sure you're not brohem.

Sometimes I feel that way though. Like I have completely lost it. At one point I was on top and I had everything going for me. Now I am out of school and I have a job but I just am not happy. It seems like I am only happy when I am drunk or shopping, and money doesn't last forever.

Seems as though you're going through a quarter-life crisis. I had the same thoughts as you do when I was 18, and I had no idea how to balance my priorities. I went to a university in the East coast, and I ended up dropping out after my freshman year because I decided that college wasn't going to get me anywhere I wanted to do in my life. It was probably one of the best decisions I've made, albeit everyone thinks I'm an idiot for doing so. I've severed ties with a lot of my family and so-called friends; I'm planning to move in with my boyfriend after he finishes college. I basically can't talk to anyone but him. So on and so forth, it's been nearly two years since my decision, and I can say that I'm definitely a happier person.

So, the only advice I could possibly give you is to stick with it and do things. This is going to sound incredibly cheesy, but "follow your gut," is the best thing I can tell you. Don't succumb to other people's notion of what's good for you. Do what you think is the best for yourself. I don't know what's going on in your life, so that's the best general response I can give.

I feel this way sometimes. It comes and goes but it usually happens when I have a job I hate. You have to be happy in your work to be happy in your life.

A friend of mine just sent me a message that said almost the same thing you said. He decided to go back to college for astrology rather than engineering. He realizes he will probably make less money but he would rather love his job. Maybe you need to do something like that

Yeah I am actually going to major in news reporting with a minor in fire science for the fire department. Two fields that I would love to get into.

^^ I totally feel you with the school thing but it seems like I just feel so low and I literally just sit around sulking. I have been this way for about two or three years now. I almost have nervous breakdowns daily because of it. I'll break out in cold sweats and not eat for a few days and just different things. I used to have all the answers and I used to be as tough as they come, but somewhere along the way, I lost it all. It is definitely a struggle to try and gain it back.

I felt like that last year. When I screwed up my knee I wasn't able to play sports and I really identified myself as being an athlete. That whole year I really didn't understand who I was. I still haven't recovered from my knee injury so I still feel apart of me is missing. I feel like I'm stuck in this long journey to recover while I'm just going through the same old motions. School, speech, homework and then repeat. The only reason I don't let my grades slack is because of my parents. I know I have a good life and all, but I can't but feel I'm just stuck in this place. College is coming up and everyone keeps asking where I want to go to school and what I want to do. I have noidea about anything these days so I just keep doing what people tell me to do.

It's like an identity crisis or something.


Point is yeah I know exactly how you feel. This is going to sound lame, but maybe you need a journey of self discovery and reevaluate who you are as person and realize it's not your profession or anything else that defines you. Maybe you need to really go back and think about your ambitions before you felt this way.

I really hoped I helped.

Wow. Thats gotta be tough. I'm sorry to hear that. I know its hard to think positive right now, so the best I can say is just take a breather and take things one at a time. Of course these issues may not be able to be resolved overnight, but we can solve them if we take baby steps. Someone once said, that in the end, everything will be alright. If it isn't, then it isn't the end. *corny* Just relax, dude. And take it slow. Thibgs will get better!

^^Yeah my ultimate goal is to be a firefighter. It has been my lifelong dream. It is the only thing that gets me pumped.

^Yeah I definitely need to take it slow. At the end of '07, I felt so burnt out it was just a busy year. I have been feeling really spent, but I am going to just take it easy and hopefully rediscover what made me so good in the first place.

things may seen bad right now, but eventually life has a way of turning around. just wait and you'll see. if you want to be a fireman do it!

Yeah I definitely feel you on that one. Things are SLOWLY but surely starting to look up.

It's good that you stopped caring about fashion... it seems like you hit a change in your life. Almost like mine... I lost all interest in stupid shit like trends, tv, radio, materialism in general, I stopped caring about the shit that I wanted and realized I only cared about things I needed. So take this privilege now to learn about yourself, this is the perfect time while other shit in your life seems useless.

I went through the same phase and I took advantage of it... and it definitely bettered myself as a whole, regardless of what these chumps here say.

I see your passion for being a fire fighter, don't let anything discourage you homie.

Tama you make very good points. I have been trying to find myself a lot over the past few months, but I will admit, that I am still into fashion.

That's fine... but keep in mind that if you lose interests in certain things, it's not a mental problem.. you're not depressed, it's just realization... something is tryin to get you to forget about the useless shit that keeps you (us) mentally preoccupied. And hopefully you'll have that epiphany that'll only make you stronger in every attribute.

Exactly true. I have lost interest in a lot of the old stuff that I used to do, because I realized that I had dumb stuff occupying my time because I had money. Not having the freedom that I normally have, has made me realize that I took value in the wrong things.

There we go homie... self-realization

Yes, and it is still an ongoing realization as well.

Oh of course... one day you're gonna be sittin there listening to one of your favorite artist... and you gonna be like... W.T.F. am I listening to (this is how it was when I was deeply into listening to music on MTV/BET), and you're gonna end up wantin to find something new, fresh, and different.

Just don't go off and mess with the negative ish... stick to only the positive things that makes sense and only benefits you.

I'm stuck in one of those spots. But I think the situations surrounding it is a little different.

We all must got through this stage to get to the next level imho.