Do they bother you?
Are you disgusted by them?
Have you been called one?
How do you DEFINE the word slut?


Yes, I am sexual active. And no, I do not call myself a slut. And yeah, I don't a boyfriend. And yeah, it bothers me whenever girls call each other slut.. the terminology 'slut' has been defined like, over and over again.. mainly for the purpose of keeping the damn fundamentals on how women should be.

Well basically, I want to point out using the terminology 'slut' downgrades women, you don't have to be a boy to downgrade women because if you believe so I would slap the fck out of you. And it bothers the hell out of me a girl can be called a slut if sexual active when she doesn't have a boyfriend, but it's ok for a boy to be so because he's a boy. I've three girl friends who have gone pregnant, and don't you even dare call them sluts, and they have been because of that.

Now here's the real question:

How do you suppose to call a girl a slut if you don't really know how they are sexually active?
Are you going to change the way you treat a girl if you believe she's a 'slut' when she doesn't have sex with you?
Are you going to let your own personal beliefs affect some other people when they have nothing to do with you?

DISCUSS!

This topic's purpose is to widen girls AND boys knowledge about women, and to stop sexism AND generalizations. I hope it works..

i dont hear that word that often. i normally use whore, [but i normally don't swear] so, lol. slut seems to sting more, idk.

if someone calls me a slut, they don't REALLY know what is being put between my legs. so why be THAT offended.

But the girls I call sluts I REALLY know, and they know I know.
I wouldn't say it to a girl that gets drunk at a party and makes a mistake, but I would say it to a girl that makes the same mistake at every party I go to with different guys.

People just call girls sluts based on the stereotypical stuff. Like if they wear revealing clothing or if they hang around a lot of guys. I'm not disgusted by them, I mean its none of my business what they do.

i think girls should just do whatever they want and not be called a slut. unless she sleeps with someones boyfriend. thennn...

How do you suppose to call a girl a slut if you don't really know how they are sexually active?

if you don't know, then don't say it and mean it. if you say it and don't mean it, then make sure they know.. i don't completely understand what this question is asking.

Are you going to change the way you treat a girl if you believe she's a 'slut' when she doesn't have sex with you?

can't really say, because i don't try to get girls to have sex with me.

however, when other people, even my close friends, tell me that a girl is a slut without justifying it, i'm not going to believe it. saying "she's skanky" doesn't work for me. however, if someone i know was really affected because some chick was sleeping around with her boyfriend and our friends, then ... yeah, i'd think she was a slut.

off the top of my head, i know two girls closely affiliated with some of my friends who've definitely slept around with a good number of my friends. for one girl, i hate her guts. the other one, not so much. it really just depends on the person.

also, i'm horribly biased like that because the girl i can't stand used one of my close friends for sex, threw him off, and then used my best friend for sex, and then used another one of my close friends again. she ruined a lot of close relationships for me for a couple months.

Are you going to let your own personal beliefs affect some other people when they have nothing to do with you?

theoretically, i try not to.
both girls that have gotten around have had everything to do with me and my relationships with others. one of my relationships isn't totally repaired still, so i guess you can say it affected other people... but since her sleeping around did have to do with me personally, i doubt that this applies to the question.

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on the rare occasion when i get called a slut, whether jokingly or seriously, it doesn't bother me very much. i know i'm not, and the people whose opinions i care about know i'm not either. sure, i'll flirt with people because it's what i naturally do, but if you even start me talking about my boyfriend or if you know what's gone down between us even partially - it's obvious that i wouldn't be with anyone else.

First off, there are male versions of sluts.

Man-whores
Pedophiles
Frat Boys

A slut is defined as a girl who:

- talks/dresses preppy
- has an orgy on her sweet 16
- has not been in a relationship for more than 2 months
- ***deliberately reveals genitals in public***
- does drugs (ecstasy, mainly)
- visits a club every other day
- goes binging one night, wakes up the next morning naked (often)
- high school dropouts

Now, about the ***. Don't talk to me about "freedom of expression" and how a girl can dress. If a girl doesn't wear underwear, and wears white v-necks and a miniskirt around, she's intentionally showing off her breasts/crotch. She's sending out a message. Either it's "I'm hot and you can't have me," or "Come and get some, I'm not busy tonight."

Both are considered sluts, even though the former doesn't sleep around. She is taunting others, and challenging other girls. Both are looked down upon, except by the slut's male counterparts.

lolz
should peds rly b considered sluts?

i think you should add male strippers lol.
And playas, theyre sluts. They just got a snazzy name to cover it.

Some of these things have NOTHING to do with being a slut. I've done ecstasy and plenty of other drugs but I have only had sex with two people. One of whom I dated for 3 years before we had sex, and the other one I am marrying. Being a High School dropout? Are you serious? I finished High School but I know plenty of people that didn't. Are they out hoein' it up? NO! They are going to get their GED. And, finally, just because someone dresses "preppy" doesn't mean they are a whore (although in my experience a lot of them are) It's not fair to judge ALL of the rich kids by the actions SOME of the rich kids take.

yeah thats profiling
or labeling rly

who doesn't label someone when they are teens or something. everyone does.

i kno im guilty.
But labeling is BAD MMK?

doesnt mean no one does it, ever

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- has not been in a relationship for more than 2 months"
damnnit lol

LOL i duno you guys make it seem like a big deal.
People just call people sluts because they think their shirts too low or small or even if they just flunt themselves around other boys.
The word slut is used in everyday life with girls so i don't think it's a big deal. And if you do then you should get used to it because girls are nasty little creatures and will do anything to make you feel uncomfortable and get under your skin. Just don't think about it =]

like why do they do it? i mean is it because they just hate them? or bc they're jealous
cause there's this chick at my school calling me a whore but yet she's the one who was preg. and has a kid and couldn't even figure out who the daddy is..and she still isn't sure about it. and yet she's tryin to call me a whore
i just don't understand why they call ppl whores..

Well, maybe she's having trouble admitting to herself that she is one. That's why she is busy calling you one instead. Then the attention of who the whore is, isn't focused on just her.

I know that when I seriously call a girl a whore, she either is one, or I'm jealous.

like with me the only time i have called a girl was when she was one.
but i don't see why when they are the ones out being whores why they call other ppl a whore

look in the 'slut' thread

Because.

Did she say it jokingly or was she serious?

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This topic is getting on my nerves...

yeah, I've been called slut/whore/whatever before
and the fact that someone's name-calling doesn't really phase me
but it's the mindset behind it which bothers me.
for example, i hooked up with this one guy at a party and both of us were single, both of us had fun, and we both partook in the same level of sexual activity that night (won't go into details here..hahah). but for some reason (generalization/stereotyping/sexism, whatever you call it), only I was called a whore and he got away with pats on the back and people calling him a pimp, which really isn't fair, considering we were both on level playing fields and neither of us acted "sluttier" than the other. only difference? gender.
now if we were both called whores or whatever, then I wouldn't be complaining

as for my definition?
I don't have one.
or actually...
someone who doesn't mind having some FUN and getting some ASS while they're at it!
so go ahead and call me a sluuttt(:

I think in order to be a SLUT u have to conduct yourself as one.. if u have sex with your partner and one partner i dont think its trashy.. but if u have a different partner every day or everyother week it looks trashy...

I dont know why but this topic feels hella old to me.