so the past couple weeks..i've been feeling like david (my bf) has been ignoring.. and i cant remember the last time he told me he loved me.

and last night, it had all built up inside of me and burst. david was joking with me about how i didnt know what something was. "OMG, i dont know you!" he said.. and for some reason, i said he acted like "he didnt..and i started crying. he was pissed because i didnt know how to take a joke..when really it wasn't the joke i was crying about. but he didnt get it and decided to ignore me crying and continue doing what he was doing. and one of our friends, kyle, was there too. and he came over at wrapped his arms around me for awhile while i tried to get a hold of myself and stop crying. and then david completely freaks and says he cant deal with this shit anymore and leaves after saying "f**k you" to kyle

and then he emailed me and said:

"wtf u just crying out of flippin nowhere... i mean flicking seriousely it was a flippin jk...


and since you seem so comfartable in kyle's arms, go be with him from now on cause i dont want to deal with this crap anymore

i am tired of u just crying out of flicking nowhere and having the nerve to say that u love me whenever your in another GUYS arms....

if u want to be that way..be my flippin guest cause i am done with this for good"

and i replied:

"i feel like you have been ignoring me...and t hat you dont care and dont love me........and for some reason i just burst. i'm sorry.

i'd be a lot more comfortable in your arms...i'd sure as hell rather be there than with kyle. he just actually decided to try and comfort me.

i love you so f**king much david! and it really hurts to feel ignored, especially by you. thats why i started crying, i can't remember the last time you told me you love me.

but what i do know, is that i love you. and i cant lose you..."

which he replied to:

"then u should have just flippin told me instead of just crying out of flicking nowhere over a good for nothing jk i mean u laughing at me when boell was making jks at me but when i do it to u, its like oh so totally diff i c......

i am so flipping tired of this life and i dont know if i want to keep going with it anymore

oh and do u thnk srry is gonna change how those ppl in the drafting room when u decided to cry will change how they look at me huh???

i dont thnk srry is gonna cover it this time...

and personally just stay with kyle cause atm i dont ever want to c u again

oh and wtf u being ignored...whenever i actually have a problem with my weekend and i talk to u about it after u ask me...all u say is "oh" and u like skip it...so dont flipping tell me that i am ignoring u cause u have always been ignoring me"

and i said:

"i told you that wasn't it didnt i? but maybe i didnt say it clearly enough. its not the joke, i could have laughed that off...but i was border line on tears already.

why should i stay with kyle? he's just a friend to me. the fact that he is a guy makes no difference. i would have done the same thing if he had been jenni or vicki

sometimes i dont know what to say...or i'm afraid what i'm gonna say is really stupid and isn't going to help any so i dont talk. just because all i said was 'oh' doesnt mean i was ignoring you. i invite you, next time you feel like talking to me, to go on even if all i say is oh. because i do care, i'm not ignoring you. i never would!

i couldn't control that i started crying, if i could of i wouldnt have ever started crying because i dont like to cry.

and it will blow off what they might have thought eariler today, they're all probably gonna forget it by monday. and if they don't i am sorry. if i could have chose any other place to break down, it definatly wouldn't have been there in front of everybody.

and i wouldve told you what was going on if you stopped for a moment and asked...

i'm sorry. i should have said something to you without having a complete breakdown

i love you, and i really care about you. i reallly dont want to lose you just because i had a really dumb ass moment.

when your ready to talk and maybe come to some sort of agreement or whatever, let me know. i'll always be ready to talk to you.

i love you soo much"

which he didnt reply to..

and so i feel like shit..and i cant do shit about it.

EDIT: i didnt realizee this was so long...sorry

david sounds extremely immature. you should've talked to him a long time ago if you thought something was up or if you two were getting distant and such.

and this kyle fellow sounds nice and all but HELLO SOMEONE ELSE'S GIRLFRIEND, you don't do that. arm around shoulders, a hug, sure. but whole "wrapping arms around thing" is .. eh, no.

it really sounds like he isn't worth it.

Hes word picking and using your crying as a excuse to get out of a relationship that he didnt really want to be apart of.

Move on and maybe find comfort in that someone else because obviously this a-hole didnt cut it.

I agree with both of you. He sounds incredably inmature and if he wants to start blaming things on you, that he did. Its just stupid. You will be better off without him. And for this Kyle person, he seems like he actually CARES for you more then your own boyfriend, who gave you a hug? Kyle. And who just acted like nothing was wrong?

personally he sounds really annoyd and all he seems to care about is his reputation dont be to easy, talk to him dont beg him

hes putting the blame on you
since he cant deal with the fact that he didnt want to personally end the relationship himself, you know, dirty his hands.
So he found an escape hole through your outburst
and wants you to deal with the mess

-_-"
what a pussy

I say.. I know you love him but if he's going to be like that you deserve better. NO ONE deserves that at all.

I mean my boyfriend freaks out when i cry on the phone and tells me im stupid for crying because he doesnt know what he did wrong and doesnt know what else to do/say but in person .. he hugs me and tells me he's sorry and ends up crying too.

I seriously think you deserve better. I know it hurts but hang in there and if you wanna talk to me PM me :D

I've been to hell and back with relationships and i'm only 15 but trust me.. i know what the world has to offer .. good.. and bad.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Sorry, I just laugh at everyone before I post in the relationships forum. First of all, grow up. Don't come to more immature people about your problems. Go to some one who has been through it. Usually a parent or some one older. It kills me when people go to others for advice and those people are younger or are f**king dumb with giving advice.

You want my advice? Shut up. You don't want to kill yourself. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. OVER A KID????? Because he got mad at you. Wow. Have some pride in yourself. Killing yourself is not gonna fix the problem. I find it funny to hear people say they want to kill themselves because they can't deal with this shit. Weak. That's all I gotta say.

Maybe he's angry because you LET other guys hold you and stuff, and is jealous. U two should talk in real life.

THE GOOD JOSH:

I see so much wrong with this... people do dumb things when they are in a relationship. What ever, *rubs hands together* lets make sense out of this.



I can see why he's upset about the whole "You're in some other guys arms" situation, but at the same time you definitely weren't doing anything wrong. After all, what would make you want to jump into the arms of the a-hole who was cussing you out for what seemed to be you trying to express yourself.

This kid has to learn that girls like to cry and flip out once in a while. It's not bad if it doesn't become a habit, but if it's an every day occurrence it can become a problem. I highly doubt that you have been this "huge problem". It sounds more like you try to avoid being a problem, and in return you're not saying enough.

My advice here is, be yourself. You can't hold everything in and burst, hold everything and burst. You need to be yourself and just talk about how you feel with people rather than being afraid that you'll be a problem. I'm not saying you go out and burden people with your feelings either. You do need to give people a break sometimes, because listening to others and trying to understand them can be overwhelming and unattractive if over done. The best thing you can do is learn to find a happy median between both extremes. This takes experience, and you're going to have to accept that you will make mistakes.




You're bursting because you aren't expressing yourself. It sounds like the small things he isn't doing are turning into big things because they're all adding up. Even when he ignores you in the slightest bit, you're going to get upset because he's been doing it little by little so often.



Personally I just think he's being a douche bag here. He's just mad and he's taking it out on you. He does have a point about the whole "you not saying enough" thing at the end of his text. You do need to shy away from trying to avoid a problem to the point of being anti-social.



The truth comes out, I think it's both of you. You're both ignorant and immature. It sounds like you're "typical girl who gets walked all over because she doesn't talk enough" and he's "typical guy who is upset because he doesn't understand you". It sounds like you don't talk enough for him to understand you. You need to open your mouth dear. Don't be so afraid to let things out. People are going to walk all over you if you don't let them know how you feel and what you think.

Conversation takes practice. You'll probably suck at first, but you're going to get better with time. I think it's better for you to make mistakes and develop social skills than to not say anything at all and develop nothing.

THE BAD JOSH:

I agree with Jake. Grow the fuck up. Killing yourself? Oh my fucking goodness, you seriously need to grab your balls. You're problems are on such a small scale. Look at you guys. You're boyfriend is upset abotu how he will look in "Drafting Class". Fuck off.

Mmmhmm.

Sorry to say, but no boyfriend should be such a dick.

Ever.

Uronacid took the words out of my mouth.
You shouldn't have bottled up these kinds of things in the first place. You should tell him when you feel ignored, because you know what? Small things like that can end up to something as 'huge' as in breaking up with you cause guess what!
Most people can't read people's mind/emotions/feels. especially when they hide it. tell it to them straight forward or suck it up.

Anyways, you just need to sort things out, don't do it over f**king email, thats just really lame. talk to him face to face.

Uronacid's a douche. :D DOn't listen to him. Just try to sleep with him as much as possible before you guys break up.

Oi, self respect.

I collect douches. Jake is part of my collection. :D

David sounds like a jerk. But what you two seem to lack is communication. He seems to have made his decision when he replied to you the first time on email. Besides, him not answering after your last email can only mean one thing. I thinnk the best thing for you is to move on and walk away. It's hard but at least you learned something this time: don't let things build up and just communicate when you start seeing a problem. And even if there isn't a problem, communicate anyway.