I know theirs already a topic on this but I wanted to take a poll.

**Im not saying im going to do it, im just wondering what some people think**

No.

My boyfriend and I of almost a year now, started having sex when he was almost 13 :S

i know that sounds horrible, but he's REALLY mature. And i'm not so much. I'm almost 17.

So it was my 15th birthday yesterday and i know ALOT of 14 year olds that have had sex, it isnt too bad because they had all been with each other for over a year, i think if it is rushed into it is wrong but if you have real feelings for the person then i dont see a problem, just remember though you dont always have to go all the way, you could always use types of foreplay to erm... satisfy yourselves :P toss him off, finger her, blow jobs, licked out??? hope i helped

Hahaha.

As for the original post. Their business, their risks.

if ur ready then do it if your not dont..thats how i feel!

It's just stupid. I mean, the kids aren't even fully developed physically, not to mention mentally. I feel sorry for them. Everyone should have a childhood/teen years. Why would you want to ruin it by trying to be all grown up?

yes ... way to young

i think it is but my friend 14 and she starting having sex and got pregnant and was going to keep but lost the baby in like the 5th or 6th month

This is a very important issue. One that you should talk to your parents about. Our opinion is that 14 is to young to handle the responsibility of a sexual relationship.

We believe that sex is a good thing that should be enjoyed and that everyone should be comfortable with. No matter what your sexuality you should be comfortable with it. You should be able to discuss sexual issues with your parents and not be ashamed of it.

This is not an issue of morality or right or wrong. It is an issue of responsibility. There is a reason fathers are so protective of their daughters especially at the vulnerable age of 14 through 18. Most don't want them to have a sexual relationship until a bit later than that.

Your bodies are starting to develop you are turning into a woman and your hormones are starting to flow. You get sexually aroused and curious about boys and for some even girls. Which is perfectly fine as well. You naturally want to experiment and experience new things. Most womens bodies will not be fully developed until they reach your mid 20s.

It is best to know your own body and how it reacts to sexual stimulus before you enter into a sexual relationship. Masturbation and discovering the different parts of your body and how they react to different stimulus is natural progression. Thats one reason privacy is such an important issue for young teens.

Bottom line. If you are still in school Middle / High school or even college. If you are still living under your parents roof. If your parents are still paying any of your bills (Thats Tuition / room and board / credit card ANY OF YOUR BILLS). If you are not able to handle any amount of alcohol in a responsible manner. If you do not have a job that you can support yourself and at least one other person on completely. If you do not have your own house and are on any type of government aid. You are too young for a sexual relationship.

You have to be ready to accept the responsibility of a sexual relationship and the consequences of it if your judgment is compromised. Such as with Alcohol.

What surprises me most about this thread is that everyone is talking about Pregnancy. While this is a Huge responsibility and a very important issue, and the ultimate reason for the human sexual desire. It is preventable by some measures (Birth Control is not 100% nor are condoms and any other contraceptive device).

Not one single person has brought up the subject of STDs. A Sexually Transmitted Disease can END YOUR LIFE. A pregnancy just complicates it. If you happen to get an STD you just don't get rid of it, many stay with you for the rest of your life, or worse KILL YOU.

You never know who has one. The person you are having sex may have an STD and not even know it. Herpes, HIV, and others stay with you for your entire life. You will be required to disclose your STD status to a prospective sexual partner. Now think how hard it will be to meet someone and devlope a lifelong rewarding loving relationship with a person if you have Herpes or HIV / Aids?

STDs can be transmitted through Oral sex and mutual masturbation (Fingering and manual stimulation by your sexual partner). You have to take many more precautions with new partners to avoid contracting an STD than you do getting pregnant.

It is not inappropriate to ask a prospective sexual partner to get tested. In fact it is a very responsible thing to do. If you desire to enter into a sexual relationship it would be responsible to go with that person and get tested together. Then go together to receive your individual results and share them with each other. If you are not ready to do that you are not ready for a sexual relationship.

Many teenagers have gotten drunk impairing their judgment, were convinced by someone, a boyfriend or even a stranger in the heat of the moment to have sex with them and ended yup with a Life threatening STD or pregnant.

Talk with your parents. Make sure they talk with you. Do not be embarrassed by the Sex talk. Make sure that you ask plenty of questions. Do not be afraid to ask questions. I would rather my daughter ask me or my wife about sexual issues that learn them from friends, on the Internet, or by watching porn.

Always remember Sex is good. You should be comfortable about your sexuality. If you are Bi-sexual or or gay you should feel comfortable and discuss those issues with your parents.

One thing we do well in our country (The USA) is repress sexual thought and feelings and make them something that is meant to be shared with no one. This is a problem. If you can not talk openly about sexual issues that you are curious about with your parents because they are embarrassed or offended, then they need help.

One of the reasons these questions about sex come up and young teenagers get themselves into trouble with sexual relationships is the serious lack of parental involvement in all aspects of their lives. Parents should be good Roll models, Guides, Mentors and best friends to their children.

I hope this helps. Remember Sex is a responsibility that should be enjoyd between two people who respect and trust each other. It is fun and should be shared openly with your partner only when you are old enough and ready to handle the responsibility of the end result.

SHOcouple

If you have any questions or feel like you need some advise or just want to discuss an issue feel free to PM us.

yes

^Agreed. People did it in the olden days at much younger ages

It may be too young for nowadays modern soceity, but never wrong. Why else would some people get their periods in 5th grade?

It depends.. really. But, at the age of 14, sex should be the last priority.

I don't understand why you would even want to think about that right now.

Why not just focus on school and have sex when it's more like an afterthought then a need?

Hm...I would nope not. :X

I'm 15. I love my boyfriend. We started discussing sex and i was kind of getting used to the idea and started being okay with it. Just recently he admitted to caring too much about sexual activities and probably not enough about me. We've changed that. I'm so glad we didn't have sex because once you have sex, there's no going back. Having sex in a young relationship increases the possibilty of people getting used and the relationship getting boring. If me and my boyfriend never would've stopped and discussed this issue, we probably would already be broken up.

So I'd so Yes. Don't do it, there's no rush. If he loves you, he'll understand and respect your decision.

I vote yes. I think 14 is wayyy to young to be having sex.

I think it depends. If that 14 year old is capable of handling the risks that come with sex, than go ahead, its your desicion.

Also, I think maturety have ALOT to do with it.

14 year olds shouldn't because 14 year olds aren't emotionally or [sometimes]physically ready to do that!



16 and 12?! gahh. [/horrified]

Thats not what she meant. :/

Yes. That is so wrong... in our country. ü

Yes. It's very wrong. It's very stupid. I don't care how mature you are. Be more mature and get married first.

i voted yes. but at the same time i wanted to vote no.

but i voted yes because i think it is a really young age to have sex.

um. i dont think it would be wrong at all. its their body and their choice. they may regret it when they get older but then it would be their fault for not thinking it over carefully.

But it's not their bodies just yet, lol. Not under the law it's not. It's not really your body till your 18. And why put your body through something like that anyway? It's not even fully developed.

It's shit like this (that children think about such as sex and drugs) that makes me sick to my stomach and only fuels my ambition to leave the United States. I would have to assume that if God indeed existed, God would sooner or later strike this country with a plague worst than AIDS.

But in all seriousness now, if I couldn't leave the country for whatever the reason may be... I'm not daring to have children. NEVER EVER! I've noticed all these younger generations are becoming worst and worst. I thought my generation was bad, till I found out my friend's lil brother (10 years old at the time) had sex with some lil skank. And my friend was all proud of his little brother like it was the norm, I felt like I was in a twilight zone.

lol in my opinion, i would like to say that, please do not have children... as already i can tell how badly you lack self respect, dignity, honor, morals, and any sort of parenting skills.

with that mentality, you'd only raise a human disease.