A lot of people at my school think it's okay to have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. And a lot of them do. I just don't think it's right. Isn't it just the same thing as cheating??

No, it's not right. It doesn't matter what your orientation is. You should never see two people at once.

They are bi sexual, so it means the best of both worlds. As long as both relationships are not serious, then why not have both the same time. So many hetersexuals do it, just choose to lie or hide it

I remember a few kids at my school were doing this, and in almost every case, someone, or all three ended up hurt.
I probably wouldn't do it, but it's not up to me what others do.

Nope.
My boyfriend is bi. He doesn't have a boyfriend though.
I'm bi as well and I just have him.

I'm sorry, I don't think it's right
It's kind of selfish to the boy and the girl they're dating. Relationships mean commitment to just one person, and if they're not satisfied with just a bf or a gf, then I think that's not good. Especially if their bf and gf are committed to just them.

no. regardless of sexuality, i think it's wrong to date more than one person at a time; boyfriend or girlfriend.

It seems most everyone who's posted is very much against the idea of having a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time... My question is, if everyone involved consents to it, what's the problem? Now, if not everyone in this multiple person relationship knows about the other members, I can understand the problem with that, but why is just the idea of anyone being with multiple people so wrong to you?

I'm not saying I support multiple person relationships or even think they're a good idea, I'm just wondering. I mean, most of you also commented that you've never so much as known someone who has been in one of these relationships. So how can you make judgements?

I have been in a three person relationship, and I dont really think it was a good idea. I mean, I enjoyed it while it lasted... apart from all the problems with one person paying too much attention to one over the other... and crap like that. It was fun. But I still dont think it was worth it. It ended up ruining the relationship I had with my bf before we added the gf on. which is sort of ironic cuz I agreed on the three person relationship partially to try to keep him from leaving me.

I really dont think they're a good idea, but if you want to be in a multiple person relationship and everyone involved consents to this (genuinely consents... not meaning they agree out of fear that they'll lose their bf/gf if they dont agree) then whatever, its their lives, they can do whatever they want.

^ agree.

If it's what they want, and are truly happy with it, then what's wrong with it? It's not quite cheating now is it, if both the gf and the bf knows about the existence of the other. Isn't cheating only when you HIDE the other relationships from your bf/gf?

I say if they can handle the consequences, and if the relationships aren't too serious, then why not? Dating IS about having fun, and if being in a 3 person relationship makes it fun, then what's wrong with that? Also, dating is also about experimentation...which is what they're doing right now? So I don't see what's all the fuss is about.

uhh.. thats a little weird. No I don't think that is right. how can they be fine with that??

i had a girlfriend
but everyone thought we were
bestfriends. this guy asked me
out and i still continued with the
girl i had and him. nothing
wrong... as long as they know.

It's not cheating if they all agree to it. Then it's called a 'threesome.'

I don't think it's right at all, in spite of whether it's serious or not.
Seems like a pretty selfish act.

Well, if all three of them know what's going on and it's okay with it... Well I guess it's their choice.

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i agree...

There's nothing wrong with that in my book.
I for one have been in a relationship like that and it's called polygamy. All three of us were all involved with each other.

But polygamous relationships don't work for everyone and I really don't think it could become a long-term thing either. I mean it was a good experience and all but now i'm just working on settling with just one person.

if all three involved know about it and are ok, i see no problem.

maybe its just me, but ive been in situations where i wouldnt just be datin one guy. i mean they didnt know about each other, but at the same time, none of us wanted a serious relationship either. maybe ill sound old for sayin this, but i understand that at a younger age, all relationships are takin seriously, and i was like that too. but once i was older, i continued to take all of them seriously, until they started lettin me know, they arnt as serious as me. its basically how seriously those involved take the relationship, if they call it that at all. datin to me, is just seeing people, to be involved is to be exclusively seeing him/her. thats just my opinion

i think it's just wrong and exactly like cheating

Ok first the f**k all.

Being f**king bisexual does not mean you f**king HAVE to have a boyfriend and girlfriend.

That is jsut some filthy stereotype.
This topic is outrageous.Sorry if im overreacting but im so sick of this f**king stereotype.

i dont think they meant this as a stereotype. i think it was generally accepted to act that way at his/her school and the person asked our opinion. i actually never even heard of a stereotype that says bisexual people have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend, both at once.

LOL damn your school seems fun j/k

back to the topic:

I think it's all about the bi getting their "cake" as they say. Which I do not agree with. Stick to one, plus too much emotional drama people ask for there.. and I honestly can't see how that would work, either the guy and the girl of the bi would feel at competition if they ever "share" the bi.

Wtf? As in a guy that is homosexual, yet 'strait' too, and has a bf and a gf and vice versa with a girl?

No, that's never right, Not at the SAME TIME That is. Do it by all means separately.

I would cheated on if I had a gf who wanted to date a guy whille dating me...I wouldn't shun anyone else for doing it though...

Ditto. I think if the person is sneaking behind the backs of the bf&gf then it's cheating. But if the bf&gf knows the person is dating both of them and they're ok with it, then I guess it's alright. Whatever floats their boat.