Alright,

I have a relationship problem.
I have feelings for a person. That person knows. That person feels the same way about me. Normally, that would be the end of story. But ... This is very complicated ....


-We are a few years apart age wise.
-This person's friends don't approve of me.
-My friends don't disapprove, but that arent too supportive of my feelings for the person.
-This person's parents are against it as well.
-I have limited time to see this person each day.


I have known this person for about three years. I have been attracted to them for about six months. I know this person is very truthful and honest. They would never use me.

I can't call this person, because they have been forbidden to talk to me. So, if I called their house, I would just get yelled at.

Even though we share our feelings, we can't technically "Go Out", as in have a title as Lovers, even though we both act like we're dating.

There isn't any sex, but we hold hands, kiss, we used to talk on the phone for hours.

To top things off, this person's younger sibling has had a "crush" on me for about a year and is totally against me having a relationship with their older sibling. So, it makes it harder in general.

Please don't say something along the lines of, "Just face the facts", or "Deal", because I won't give up on this, no matter what.

I just don't know what I should do. I am totally devoted to this person, but it's hard when there are so many things against us.

Sounds exactly like my "relationship". How many years are you apart?

I don't think you should give up just because people don't approve. Why don't they approve? Because of the age difference? Also, I wouldn't worry about the time you see them. If you see them every day, then that's pretty good :)

I don't think you should care about what other people think and just go on about what you both think is right. Otherwise you will regret it and always wonder "what if?". And that question kills.

Are you asian?

About four years apart.
People don't approve, because of the age difference.
I don't really get to say much to them when I see them, because their little sibling is usually around.

I don't care about what people think, but I don't want to have the person I care for become unhappy, because their family is being difficult, making their life much worse.

Like I said, I'm very devoted, but I only want what will bring happiness to the the most important person in my life.



-How does race change anything in this topic?-
It doesnt.

Who gives a f**k what people say and who says it. If you REALLY want to be with him you'll find a way, vice versa for him.


How old are you, and how old is he ?

He?
Who said anything about genders ...?
Are you assuming I'm a girl?


Well, back on topic, like I said, "I don't care what people say". I've gotten threats and I've been yelled at. They have landed themself into some trouble over this as well. The few times I do get to talk to this person, are enough for me, because I really do care for them.

We are both legal, if thats what your asking.

Oh shit, you're not a girl ? I thought you were


Why are you avoiding all the questions, can't you just give the number age ?
What kind of "threats" have you gotten ? Are they going to kill you, or murder your family ?

No, nothing like the mafia attempting to kidnap my best mate or anything along those lines.
I've had Anonymous threats sent to my emails and cell phone saying what a sick person I am for having feelings for someone, not my exact age, saying if I didn't "get a grip", then they would make my life, "A living hell".
The threats don't really bother me, but I would like to know who sent them.

No worries, everyone usually assumes I'm a girl, or a gay guy at one point or another. [I won't admit to either, lol].

I am not trying to avoid all of the questions, but I think the more specific I get, the harder it is to see my point of view, which I know sounds very stupid, but thats just how I'm thinking.

Is he willing to make it work?

Ooh yes, I see. A good point though.
But why wouldn't you confess to being a guy or gay ? It's okay to be gay (: As it is to be a guy Lol.


Well, as for the threats. No one can make your life hell unless you let them. And, for sending them anonymously, the person who did it is a scared ass bitch. If you ever find out who the person is, stab them in their throat and you'll be alright. I'm just assuming you're the older one ( correct me if I'm wrong ) but you can't help who you fall for. Tell the people who are opposed to this to get over themselves and accept it.

HaHa,

I love this, everyone is so nice.

Well, I could always be a bisexual female or a homosexual female. The same goes for being a male.
Or I could be straight.
It's much more fun when people don't know, really.
Oh, but for the record, I'm a huge gay rights supporter. I do debates on the subject and such.

No, I wouldn't stab them, I'm much too mature than that, but if I did choose to harm them, I would tie them to a chair, and leave the chair in a closet. Then ship them to My lover's house, where they would be beaten and maimed and so on. My lover can be very agressive when it comes to people hurting me mentally of emotionally. If they hurt my physically, I'd kill them myself.

Yes, (I do love the title of "lover") my lover is oddly protective of me. Not Overly-protective, but enough to make me laugh at times.

I would tell the people to get over it, but some of these people mean a lot to my partner. & I wouldn't in my right mind tell off their parents. That would be rude and their parents are entitled to their own opinion, just like everyone else.

Once again, to adress this matter, who said anything about genders ...?
The person I am talking about has been trying to make it work for a while and I'm sure is willing. But, if they wanted to give up, I would be very upset, but their happiness comes first. If it were me in their posistion, I would be stressed too.

Why do you even care? Me and my boyfriend are 8 years apart. And frankly, I don't give two shits about what people think.

You shouldn't either.

I'm thinking that krnxswat asked if you were Asian because some Asian parents are extremely strict about their children dating. They don't want them to date at all, want them to date other Asians only, or limit their children's time with their boyfriend/girlfriend so that they can concentrate on their studies.

I think you should try your best to go on and keep the relationship going. Age difference really doesn't matter; love comes in all forms and the people around you need to learn that. If you haven't already, tell your lover's younger sibling that you're sorry, but you can't help it that you love their older sibling. Tell them that s/he should move on and find someone who isn't taken.

It sounds like what you're going
through with your signifigant other is difficult.
But if you feel like this is something you don't want to let go..

How can anyone tell you otherwise?
From my point of view you understand
what's working against you and what's working for you.
And it seems like you are holding off strongly,
just continue to do so and do what you want is all I can advise.

I also feel you are highly capable of working
your relationship issues/coping it fine from your posts
compared to some of the whining little teens
I see moping about small flaws their relationships
(I'm actually one as well ).

With that said. I think all you have to
do is check with your guy and see
if he's ready to take on everything
that tries to stand in your way
if you have your mind made up.

Good luck to you friend. I hope you find createblog
slightly helpful and for the best outcome in your situation.

Thank you for the support, sometimes thats all someone needs to hear.

& I am very flattered that you think I am handling this well, I like to think so.

Well, with the Asian issue, no thats not the case. It isn't because of race or religion. My parents don't have anything against the relationship.

Once again, I really never said anything about genders...
^_^;;

I know, I will deal with the younger sibling very carefully and I will be as gentle as possible.

It's just hard sometimes, knowing I can't have a "normal" relationship (If there is such a thing) because of everything going against us, but I will give it my all. I think of the person often ... It's been 11 days since I have had the pleasure of speaking to them, I feel terrible being cut off, but I really will manage.

Once again, if the age doesnt bother either of us, then I don't see why it should bother anyone else. Everyone will learn to cope it will just take time to show that both of us are mature.


EDIT [:]

It has been more than twelve days since I have last gotten to see or speak to the person I am dying to talk to ... I've found I've been a tad bitter and I have missed them greatly. I always tend to get a low self esteem when I don't talk to them and I always question their feelings for me. Things like, "I don't deserve to be with them", pop into my head, & then I remember that I'm not with them. They could easially go out and get into a relationship asnd I would have no say-so in it. It gets me very down. I know, I need to be clear headed when it comes to things like this, I just need to vent every once and a blue moon ...