What would you guys consider a large age difference?
Or do you think age doesn`t matter at all? I always ask people these questions.. i just wanna know what you guys think.

Well, in all actuality, the core of it depends on the maturity of both people. That's not to say that people won't look at you both weirdly if one is sixteen and the other twenty-six or something. When one of the people in the relationship are under twenty and the other is well over twenty years-old, it's kind of iffy because most people really aren't that mature. When people are well over that age group, age doesn't really make a difference anymore.

i think 5 or more years apart

I personally don't think age really matters. Unless its a big enough difference and maturity levels that you know it can't possibly work or you know somethings wrong in someones mind. Like if a guy that was around 18 wanted to date a 11 year old. I mean once she got older and stuff and was in her high teens or twenties I think it would be better. Your maturity levels would be closer then when your 11 and 18

Anyway I'm dating a guy thats 5 years older. So age doesn't exactly bother me.

I do think age does matter a little bit. You wouldn't go out with someone say 6 years older than you, or I wouldn't anyway, because he'd be having experiences that I couldn't relate to, and we'd have nothing in common. That is, unless he was incredibly immature...

The oldest guy I've dated was three years older than me.

Na, my parents are 6 years apart and it doesn't affect the relationship in any way.

In my opinion when someone is 80 and the other 25, thats just a big .
So personally, age does matter to me I guess. I`s say the largest for an age difference would be 10 years.

^yeaa, I agree with the whole 80 to 25.
Thats a little scary. Although my dads girlfriend's dad is dating a girl thats the same age as her.

It's not really years apart that define how far apart two people are, it's where the two people are in their lives. Some may say a younger person can be mature, but maturity does not make you older and does not give you more life experience.

For example, I think a 14 year old and a 17/18 year old is a rather large difference. The younger person has just entered the teens and high school, while the older person is about to venture out into a new phase of life. Therefore, that relationship really is like a child and an adult, even though there is only a few years difference.

However, a 17 and 21 year old may be fine because the younger person is making the transition into adulthood, while the older person is still wandering around as a young adult.

I do not believe a teenager under the age of 15 should think about dating someone 17 or older.

The biggest thing is maturity. Age is a factor in maturity becuase everyone should mature with age.

I think it best for me to say nothing about the whole phase thing. That's something that is between me and Holly. Let's just say that I really don't find it all that bad.

I see the whole age thing in %'s.... I mean:

I generally don't find it good to go anything less than 80%. meaning.

If your 20, I don't recommend dating anyone less than 16 years old (this doesn't mean that there are special cases... like mine... erf.. but I also have alot more self control than most people). Because they have had less than 80% of the life experience that you have had. I don't know, I just look at it that way. If your 16 I wouldn't recommend going any less than 13.


here's a forumla I wrote for the way I see it (written in vb6).

Dim intx as interger
Dim inty as interger
Dim strans as string

IF intx / inty > OR = 0.80 THEN
strans = "GO FOR IT!"
ELSE
strans = "NO DON'T DO IT."
END IF

^^Yep. If you're going to go out with a guy over 5 years older then you, be at least 20. My mum started seeing my dad when she was 22 or something. They're fifteen years apart.

i'd actually only date a guy that is no more than 1 or 2 years older than me :P.
and age does bother me a bit because, like someone said, they would be way more mature than you. :P. but i'd prefer only a year difference =)

My parent's are 15 years apart. It always grosses me out that my mom was 25 when I was born and my dad was 40.

I'd have to say that when it matters is age of consent. Of course maturity (which has already been mentioned) and priority. I mention priority because if someone who's in his 20's starts dating a girl who still has a couple years of high school left they obviously have diff. priorities. Also, in my state, that's illegal if they're having sex.

But I think a lot of things come in to play, as with any relationship (no matter what type).

I think that if the two are consenting and able to make their own decisions they should be able to do whatever they want to. Of course a 25 yr old and 80 yr old dating is wrong, maybe even morally wrong, but they're both adults and have decided to be together (even though there might be other motives behind it). They should be able to do as they please.

Well your going to be surprised when you hear this but on television they wereshowing this document of how a 20 year old and 12 year old fell in love with eahchother .I know it sounds sick but this is going to make my piont even better,anyways ofcaorse the 20 year old went to prison but at soon as the 20 year old got out of prison the 12 year old was all grown up and they got married right away not they have 3 kids together and its great.



Age is just a number when it comes to TRUE! love.I believe that much.



BUt you have to really be lucky to find love so strong.

my parents are 10 years apart..

they are so different. i really hate it. cos of the arguing and stuff..

but i know some adults that are 10 years or 15 years apart and they have no problem with each other..

I agree with a binch of people here. Once you reach a certain age, a reasonable to even a large age difference doesn't matter, like say an 19 year old with a 26 year or a 28 year old with a 51 year old. But at 14, you shouldn't be dating a 19 year old. you've got to reach your own maturity point, but lets keep it sane.

And btw, my cousin is dating someone 2 months younger than me and I turned 18 in January. He turned 32 last month. It's kinda weird.

It depends on each person's maturity. Seriously. If you disagree, I'll come back with examples - because I have quite a few.

I'd say around 10+ years would make me feel a little bit awkward. Of course if you're under 18, that's just not right PERIOD .. but if you're above 30 or 35, I don't think I would care or even notice the difference sometimes. >.> At least they were both old enough to experience life by that age, hm? It doesn't make me that disgusted unless one's like 25 and the other's 40.

QUOTE(yrrnotelekktric @ Sep 10 2006, 4:59 PM)

In my opinion when someone is 80 and the other 25, thats just a big .

Yeah I agree with that. That's something I have to care about. ugghhh.
My real dad is as OLD AS MY GRANDMOTHER (68 I believe?). My mother is 44 as of yesterday. Even when they had me, they still had some huge-ass difference in their age. Ugh. That's where I've learned to not date a guy 10+ older than meee.

in teen years, i'd say 3 or 4 years is a big difference. but as you get older, i'd say 10 years

my friend has been together with his boyfriend for about 5 years already. his boyfriend is 39 and he is 22. pretty crazy. i think thats a huge age difference. but just as long as they are happy, age i just a number.

Depends on how old the couple is. If the youngest person is 14, he/she has no business dating someone that's 24. But if the youngest person is 24, it's not a big deal at all to date someone who's 34. And progressively, the older the couple gets, the smaller the gap seems.

So I guess what I'm saying is that when you're young, a small gap such as 2-3 years seems huge (and it is). As you get older, the gap has to get bigger and bigger to seem like a big deal.

so true. like ashton kutcher and demi moore. Even tom cruise and katie holmes.

You're going to get a runtime error if you try to spell "integer" as "interger".

Age doesn't matter when you get to a certain point, like for example my father's 49 and my stepmother's 39. Obviously my dad's not going to date a 9 year old when he was 19. Pretty much it's a stage in life thing.

Really is just depends on where you are in your life. Age difference is going to be a lot harder for people younger. I believe that if you are still in high school you most likely dont want to be dating someone who is out of high school- just to hard because then you two would be in two different stages of life. But once you have found out who you are, and are happy with yourself then age really doesn't matter. My boyfriend is over a year younger than me, i always forget because we are both dealing with the same issues and such.

But then again i grew up in a household where my parents are 19 years apart. Its a bit weird to think about, but their relationship is just fine. So that has helped changed my perception on age.