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AngelinaTaylor
post Aug 17 2006, 01:12 PM
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How do you force yourself to fall out of love with someone? Is there anything you can do? Or will it just go away with time?

I'm sorry if there was already a topic on this. I searched but nothing really came up :\
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 01:47 PM
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You meen how do you become dissattached... well, take every precaution not to talk to them ever again. Start doing things, get phisically active... take every chance you get to do soemthing that will take your mind off of the issue. run from your problems and issues, and eventually you will run so far away that you just don't care about it anymore.
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 01:48 PM
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I dont really think that there is a way to fall out of love? You have to let it go slowly. Its not like you can just snap your fingers and BAM! You love is gone. That would be like whoah!
The hard thing to do is to hold on to love.
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 02:15 PM
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Yeah, I don't think that you can make yourself fall out of love. That's why it's love and not a crush--it lasts, and you can't make yourself fight it.
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 02:18 PM
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I don't think you can make yourself not love someone anymore, but you can do things to preoccupy your time so you don't think about them as much, so maybe it would be easier to not be attached anymore. You can't force your heart so change how you feel about someone, but maybe you could just stay really busy so you don't have time to think about them anymore and you drift apart... you know? This is a tough situation mellow.gif
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 03:52 PM
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1.Distance yourself.
2.Call him or her and ask, “Do you want to continue to see or talk to me?” This is the straightforward and sometimes the ultimate way to know when to let go of a love interest.
3. If you no longer feel the chemistry or you are not happy, let it go. There’s nothing worse than being in a relationship where you are not happy.
4.If you don’t trust him or her, let it go. Trust is a must. If you know that your love interest is seeing you and someone else, let him or her go.
5. If you have to give up your identity just to be with him or her, let it go. This is a must let go situation. If the person that you’re interested in doesn’t like certain things about you and constantly criticizes you for them and does not positively reinforce ways the both of you can work on both of your habits, likes, dislikes and lifestyle, let it go.
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 04:18 PM
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simple to fall out of love just dont talk to that person and look at other boys/girls there so much ways
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 06:13 PM
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Try a love spell. Sorry. Random adds on the bottom of the page. Anyway. Find someone with a similar personality. Someone you can relate to. You may think you love someone but friends in the same situations usually start to grow close and can fall in love very easily. You will completely forget about this other one.
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 09:09 PM
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QUOTE(The E-Man @ Aug 17 2006, 7:13 PM) *
Try a love spell. Sorry. Random adds on the bottom of the page. Anyway. Find someone with a similar personality. Someone you can relate to. You may think you love someone but friends in the same situations usually start to grow close and can fall in love very easily. You will completely forget about this other one.


^ Actually, that's what happened to me and that's how I kind of got over my ex boyfriend. But now that I've fallen for this other guy, I don't see a way out; just because we would've been so perfect for each other. He's exactly someone with a similar personality and someone I can relate to very well >.<

Uronacid, I'm not talking about getting disattached.. I'm talking about actually falling out of love. But I guess with time it will fade away. I'm planning to get occupied actually.. As soon as September starts I'll have two jobs and two schools, so it'll all be good.. I hope that helps.

Thanks for all the replies..
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 10:33 PM
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u can't force that. believe me. i wish u could
 
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post Aug 18 2006, 01:24 AM
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Imagine the person you're in love with taking a dump! always work for me! hahah JUST KIDDING! laugh.gif
 
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post Aug 18 2006, 11:51 AM
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I dont know falling out of love can happen it all depends somtimes you lost intrest or the connection is just not as strong as when you were in love with a person then you slowly begin to dfrift away from that person and then boom! you fal out of love.
 
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post Aug 18 2006, 08:01 PM
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It's a really hard thing to do.
Basically, there's those first few weeks/months you have to realize, what you "have" to do. And it hurts. ;l
Then your feelings slowly go away.. la la. But this is only my experience from taking a person out of my life completely, if you see/have contact with a person you're trying to fall out of love with, I have NOOOO idea. ;/
 
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post Aug 18 2006, 09:07 PM
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i dont believe in "falling out of love" .. its like you were never really in love in the first place... theres always just being "distant"... idk how to explain it, i just dont think you could fall out of it... it just seems all "fake love" if u do or try to
 
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post Aug 18 2006, 09:16 PM
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It will go away with time. But it took me 1 year to fall out of love... ermm.gif
 
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post Aug 19 2006, 12:41 AM
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i think it happens when you lose interest.
which takes time. mellow.gif
 
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post Aug 19 2006, 10:04 AM
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There is no simple, quick, painless way to fall out of love. Love, when real, usually takes time to fall into ergo the process of falling out takes some time as well. It hurts like hell too. I thought of all the wrongs he had done, ie cheating on me, choosing the boys over me, etc etc. The more I focused on how shitty he was, the less I focused on how I missed his smile, or the way it felt when we kissed. I also surrounded myself with new people, my job, and just having fun. It sucks and it's going to suck, but it works. Now, I don't feel even an ounce of what I used to for the kid and the thought of ever being with him makes me sick, sooo good luck!
 
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post Aug 19 2006, 10:44 AM
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You can't force yourself out of love... Then again... you may be able to. You pick and chose to love the person you have feelings for. So could you technically chose to not love them, and in return loose your feelings for them?

I don't think your trying to fall out of love. I think that you are trying to make yourself become dissattached to the person you are talking about in this post... If you choose to stop loving someone, eventually you will lose your feeling for them... This is still just a thought though. You would accually have to try and do this before you could ever see it work... I you do try this, tell me... I want to see if this works...
 
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post Aug 19 2006, 01:17 PM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Aug 19 2006, 11:44 AM) *
You can't force yourself out of love... Then again... you may be able to. You pick and chose to love the person you have feelings for. So could you technically chose to not love them, and in return loose your feelings for them?


Uhh, I didn't "pick" or "choose" that person. It doesn't happen that way. If it were up to me, I would've never fallen in love. It's not something you just decide.. "Hey, I'm gonna fall in love today! With THIS person!"

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I don't think your trying to fall out of love. I think that you are trying to make yourself become dissattached to the person you are talking about in this post... If you choose to stop loving someone, eventually you will lose your feeling for them... This is still just a thought though. You would accually have to try and do this before you could ever see it work... I you do try this, tell me... I want to see if this works...


>.< I AM trying to fall out of love. I already am disattached because I don't see him anymore. I'll get over it, sooner or later. I guess.
 
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post Aug 19 2006, 01:18 PM
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Think of all the things you hate about him.. aka his flaws. :-/

Im sorry but i think once you love some one you will love them for the rest of your love.. its not a love kind of love but a friend kind of love. You know what I mean?
 
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post Aug 19 2006, 01:23 PM
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^ Yeah. But friend love (i.e. caring for that individual) is way better than romantic love. Hurts less wink.gif
 
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post Aug 24 2006, 06:17 AM
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Just keep busy... plain and simple. When you're not busy, you think about recent things in your life.... that would include your Ex. So just make alot of plans to get someone out of your head and to move on.
 
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post Aug 28 2006, 01:36 PM
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you cant force yourself out of it. you might just have to find somehting you really dont like aobut him. and it might just turn you off
 
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post Aug 28 2006, 02:38 PM
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QUOTE(soo x nyc x @ Aug 28 2006, 2:36 PM) *
you cant force yourself out of it. you might just have to find somehting you really dont like aobut him. and it might just turn you off


That's not goin to work effectively. Because if you balance the negatives with the positives... the positives should outweigh the negatives of that person, thus is why she fell in love with that person to begin with.

Just do whatever you can to keep that person out of your mind... plain and simple, it works :)
 
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post Aug 29 2006, 06:32 AM
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Whatever you do, you can't shake it off.
 

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