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 Aug 9 2006, 09:18 PM
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your first is always hard to get over because that's the first time you let someone into your heart. The break up is hard to get over, why wouldn't it be but you learn to move on and find someone so much better
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Aug 9 2006, 09:24 PM
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 I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
I don't know that the first is always the hardest...I've never been dumped, but I always hate having to break it off with people. My last boyfriend is freakin' insane and he was PISSED. But I think it's hard on both ends. Don't worry, you'll be fine.
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Aug 9 2006, 11:59 PM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Aug 9 2006, 7:32 PM)  Keep yourself busy, and try to hang out with your friends. Do things, go for walks, wright down your thoughts, work out... try to do phisical things. Also, talk to your friends about it. Don't keep it in... the more you let out, the less time it will take to get over the situation. What was it that caused the breakup? well technically we dint break up cuz we were never going out but it was as close to going out with out having labels ...we've said "i love you" to eachother tons of times...but it wasnt like old already that it lost its true meaning...we both said it everytime with full meaning...but yea so what caused this whole "rift" was 1)we stopped talking as often and 2)me n my sis were invited to a party...and so was my guy...and he brought a friend..a girl...and me n my sis were talking to this girl cuz my sis is also friends with this guy so we were being nice to his friend and she mentioned that shes liked him for a while and theyve been hanging out alot lately....so that explains why me n him stopped hanging out.... |
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Aug 10 2006, 10:16 AM
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depends on how good of a boyfriend he was... if he was an ass then probably not too hard i would suppose :)
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Aug 11 2006, 10:41 AM
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QUOTE(blurrr @ Aug 10 2006, 12:59 AM) well technically we dint break up cuz we were never going out but it was as close to going out with out having labels ...we've said "i love you" to eachother tons of times...but it wasnt like old already that it lost its true meaning...we both said it everytime with full meaning...but yea so what caused this whole "rift" was 1)we stopped talking as often and 2)me n my sis were invited to a party...and so was my guy...and he brought a friend..a girl...and me n my sis were talking to this girl cuz my sis is also friends with this guy so we were being nice to his friend and she mentioned that shes liked him for a while and theyve been hanging out alot lately....so that explains why me n him stopped hanging out.... Ok, I'll tell you one thing. If he loved you he would have told you he was falling for someone else. You may have loved him (It's possible), but just hearing what you told me. It all seems to fabicated. I think that you guys were just infatuated with eachother. This creates and illusion of love. Your feelings are so strong you feel as if you would do anything for them, but when it comes right down to it. He meets another girl, falls for her, and doesn't say anything about it to you. If I was ever falling for another girl. I would tell Holly. Although it's difficult for her, and it sucks. I would tell her becuase I wouldn't want her to have feelings for someone who doesn't have feelingstowards her. I respect her, and that's why I would tell her. The most important thing is to realize that not everyone in life is like that, and there is someoen else out there that will treat you the way you need to be treated. No matter how hard it is to realize that, you have to try. You have to believe it. You need to learn for this too. Maybe next time be more careful about loving somone. Guard your heart, and don't give it to someone because your desparate for love. Wait for soemone that you know will love you. |
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Aug 11 2006, 02:04 PM
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my first bf? i didnt have any trouble at all to get over him.
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Aug 11 2006, 10:14 PM
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 I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
^ Yeah me neither, seeing as I broke up with him
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Aug 13 2006, 01:13 AM
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first love, yes...first boyfriend, possible but if you left him, you most probably are okay..
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Aug 13 2006, 06:41 AM
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Yes, and I say this from experience.
Of course it depends on how long the relationship lasted and how serious it was, but the first time you break up with someone it feels like the end of the world. In later relationships you'll know that you can move on. It gets easier. I hope you feel better soon. 
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Aug 13 2006, 07:41 PM
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QUOTE(magicfann @ Aug 7 2006, 9:07 PM) look, why don`t u go rob a store or something lol nobody noticed that? |
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Aug 14 2006, 02:41 PM
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yah I hate those first loves!! I know its hard to get over, but just try to keep yourself busy. Go hang out with friends, go watch a movie, go find a job, or even just sleep! Just don't let yourself have time to think of him cuz that's when you start getting all depressed and stuff. The most important thing to remember is that he is your first love, but he won't be your last, you will always find another guy. It just takes time to mend the heart!
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Aug 14 2006, 04:58 PM
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Yes for me it was my first TRUE LOVING girlfriend dumped me and it took me 3 years to get over her
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Aug 14 2006, 05:12 PM
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Wait aren't you only 13?
 Not that it is a bad thing but I had that kind of girlfriend when I turned 14 and you said it took you 3 years to get over her so you were 10. Wow. Okay whatever.
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Aug 14 2006, 08:17 PM
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QUOTE(lindAAH @ Aug 14 2006, 6:17 PM) -sigh i think once you get your second boyfriend youll forget about your first one. I don't know... it depends on whther you date to get over him or not... If you date someone just to get over this relationship, it will only make things worse. Wait until you are over this relationship before you start another one. It doesn't mean you can't make friends tho ;) QUOTE(The E-Man @ Aug 14 2006, 6:12 PM) Wait aren't you only 13? Not that it is a bad thing but I had that kind of girlfriend when I turned 14 and you said it took you 3 years to get over her so you were 10. Wow. Okay whatever.Yeah... i agree.. you were pretty young.. at 10 years old it's hard to believe you could even understand love... |
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Sep 27 2006, 11:16 AM
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QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Aug 7 2006, 4:24 PM) No. The first person who you love, however, will be. yes i agree. if its someone you really love, then that will be the hardest. if your relationships were short and didnt really love each other. i'm sure you will probably get over it. |
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Sep 27 2006, 11:35 AM
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My current boyfriend is my first love and I can't get over him. We've broken up A FREAKING LOT of times but always came back together, I just can't get over him even if I wanted to.
I don't know how I can help you, I'm sorry. Goodluck though. 
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Sep 27 2006, 12:10 PM
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For me it is (girlfriend), I have too many regrets, but then again I learned a lot from my mistakse.
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Sep 27 2006, 02:05 PM
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For me my first boyfriend wasn't the hardest to get over.
Probably one of the easiest to get over actually. However, First Love is different. I really don't think anyone ever gets over their first love. I think they will always love each other in a way. It's hard I know. But the pain does get less over time. |
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Sep 27 2006, 06:21 PM
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Not neccessarily the first boyfriend you have, but your first love. I know how you feel and I know its hard. What you need to do is try your best to forget about it--even though it sounds hard. Take some time from boys and hang with your friends, enjoy laughs, watch movies.
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Sep 27 2006, 10:40 PM
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-shrugs- I don't really know, I think its more or less how it ended. Or how the relatiosnhip was. It took me a little bit to get over mine, but not because I was fixated on him. Matters how the relationship was, and if you truly want to get over it or not.
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Sep 28 2006, 12:09 PM
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 imitation is suicide. Group: Member Posts: 33 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 110,799 |
QUOTE(candy_coated_kisses @ Aug 7 2006, 6:51 PM) Aww I know it hurts believe me. You just have to let yourself hurt for awhile, even if its hard. Then you just have to remind yourself that there will be other guys, and there really will be. It takes awhile, especially with first loves. If the physical pain doesnt go away after awhile, you should probably talk to someone you trust about that. Otherwise, hang in there! she's right. i've only been with one guy, my first and first love. i know how you feel. we were together for like four months and come on grad. night for me we broke up. it was the saddest thing in the world, and i still miss him terribly. especially we you see people all lovey-dovey, it hurts, the memories come back at you. but i look at those memories at figuring out what went wrong and how it could have changed, don't worry we're all here for one another. and trust me - if the guy can't find one thing beautiful for you but looks, but as a person he's not ment to be. |
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Sep 30 2006, 08:30 PM
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 thanhnie Group: Member Posts: 240 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,059 |
First loves are horrible. I'm trying so hard to get over it right now, too but it's not really working. I hope that you feel better soon about it and to keep your head up. =]
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Oct 1 2006, 03:03 AM
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i didnt have any problems with the first one..i guess i made a mistake with him since i went out with him while he was hella sprung ("in love")with this other girl. it kinda made me mad so i left him and went to my "best friend" and he was my second. so my second was kinda hard cause i actually liked him a lot and gave him my first kiss and i miss a lot of memories with him
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