i really want to break up with my boyfriend because i suddenly realized [yes literally] that i didnt feel what i used to feel toward him.

and im really not comfortable in long relationships either because i dont like serious commitments. i think im a bit weird like that I'd very much rather have "flings" with guys. im starting high school after the summer..
his personality is OK but its all so PHYSICAL. not that weve been to second base or whatever but he always does PDA with me and we get told off soo many times. and its getting SO annoying. also he sucks at kissing and he smells. lol.. but ya you know thats not the real reason why.

im bothered by all the girls commenting on his Myspace. how theyre al from where he is at the moment in the US for summer and theyre all beachy and pretty and blonde. He also has a history of cheating on his ex-girlfriend [i just found out] who is a semi-close friend of mine, but a friend of mine all the same.

its also.. just me im just the kind of girl who'd rather be "free" and not committed/stuck with ONE guy for such a long time. it scares me. and he wants to rent a hotel room for us i mean what the hell..?!?! i played along and sounded all excited and crap.

ive realized just in the airplane (lol) that i dont want a relationship with him anymore. and im not exactly ready for all this. cause im only 13..

another problem is.. ive developed a crush for another guy. god.. but i dont want him to break after seeing me with anonther guy right after him you knwo?!? but i wantt to have the opportunity to date different guys. not having a relatioinship exactly but just having funn.

soo. how should i say it.. when should i say it.. where should i say it..??

and dont think im not scared and nervous for breaking his heart.. cause i am=( id feel mean to break up with him RIGHT as high school starts cause weve been messaging alot lately and hes going on about us & highschool. noo.

im not experienced at all, since this is my first. so help me pleasee!!

[and itd be good if you could give me examples of your own breaking-up experiences, thankss]

hey, i've only had one breaking up experience.
it's pretty hard, but you have to play tough.
what i did was write out on a peice of paper everything
about why i wanted to break up with him,and how we could be friends
and blahblah all that stuff.
then i called him,and read it .. but i tryed to make it sound like i was saying it ya know? not just reading it even though i was.

that way that i wouldnt like freak-out while talking to him you know.

and looking back i'm pretty surprised at myself for not getting my friends to do it.


goood luck.

the f**k? you need to stop kidding yourself...your way to young to be in any type of long term/ serious relationship and i am wondering how old is the guy? this is a joke.

but let me give you some advice anyway...can;t believe in giving this to a middle schooler.

best way to let him down is the all famous line. "let's just be friends"

heck you're only 13 of course you're not ready for this. tell him what you told us minus the part where you'd rather have flings and the part where he sucks at kissing and he smells

tell him as soon as possible

Your soo young,you still have time to find your soulmate.Tell him how you feel.

^i agree... gurl you are WAY TO YOUNG to be with a dude rite now i mean COME ON? of course to hell you are not ready to do anything with him and he should not have to pressure you either your just 13 lol hell i didnt go out with a dude until i was late in freshman year!!. just tell him "lets just be friends" you can flirt with other guys but come on give your self sometime you dont HAVE to go out with a dude especially showing P.D.A around the hallways of ur skool i dont blame your teachers i dont remeber ever seeing a lil 13 year old making out .... and if you do break up with him i think that you should not go out with this other dude take some time and hang out with your friends you still have a long time to think about realtionships..( God only knows that at your age i was still watching Digimon and Dragon Ball Z lol)

GOOD LUCK!!!!

just say i think i'm a bi.
i wanna see my other options.

woah this is somewhat weird
extremely similar experience happened to me.
very recently.
what i said was
'listen i have been thinking, it would be better if we just were friends. i think you are a great person, but this would be the best for both of us at the moment.'
or something to that point.
he was somewhat upset, but understanding of what i wanted.
so that's why i wanted to be his friend still.
just say something about how right now you aren't really for a strict relationship, and going into highschool it might be better for us to be single...
when & where is up to you...
the sooner the better...
if you feel so bad about "breaking his heart"
do it over the phoen...
but i would say try for in person
unless you are really that uncomfortable
like everyone said, the relationship couldn't really be to serious based on your age
no offence or anything.
just let him down easy & say you'll be friends & whatever else you'd like to add
and you should be good to go
hope this helped a bit.

exactly... tell the truth... theres nothing worse than being lied to!

i agree....your only 13....don't worry about relationships...

tell him that high school's gonna start and you really want to start fresh. and be able to meet more people. that's what i'd do.

I don't call what you "had" a relationship.

You don't want a serious relationship, so what do you want? Kiss as many guys as you can, then judge them?

It's okay, I don't judge you about the smelling thing. Personal hygiene should be important! Tell him it's off. It's not like you guys had anything serious, am I correct?

write it down on a note everything. then give him the note n let him read it

1- tell him you're tired of being a piece of meat for him to suck on.

2- tell him he smells and kisses badly.

3- tell him you like someone else better.

Look, I don't really like you that much... You are all over me all the time, You smell, and you are gross... although I'm breaking up with you I do want to thank you. You have narrowed my choices for finding my future hubby... I'm breaking up with you.

O_O <-----his face...

^and then you walk away.

hahahahha

TELL HIM.

He'll get over it. It's high school. There will be other fishes (or gupies) in the sea (or pond).
I've had 3 day old boyfriends in highschool. It's better than PRETENDING.

But since you're in high school. PRETENDING does not come as a surprise.

here:

you: let's talk
him: ok!
you: i don't feel the same way anymore. sorry--it was fun. it's over.


and just elaborate afterwards! GOOD LUCK! everyone has to do it someday!