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 Jul 6 2006, 07:19 PM
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 cookie monster! =]  Group: Member Posts: 204 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,492  |
My bf and I have been together a little more than 6 months and we still have a problem that's been with us from the start. My bf constantly questions me on how I feel and wants me to share my feelings to him. The questions are more related to the heart (no...not the thing that keeps humans alive), and I have a hard time telling him how I feel.
He expects that it'll be easy for me since I'm a girl and stereotypically, girls tend to spill out everything on how they feel. Everytime it comes to this conversation, I end up hurting him since I can't-...more like I don't know how to tell him how I feel. Therefore, I feel like a selfish gf because I can't answer and tell him what he wants to hear.  I don't know what to do, I don't know how to share my feelings to anyone. I was taught to keep things to yourself as a young kid. |
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Jul 6 2006, 07:54 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
yea i know how you feel. he always asks why do i love him, or why did i choose him, if i love him. or how do i feel about us....and i always draw a blank. swallow your pride and answer him. let him know straight up that this makes you uncomfortable sometimes though...
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Jul 6 2006, 08:06 PM
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Kick that foo in the balls and tell him that You've told him everything sheesh, Like give him weird descriptive words!
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Jul 6 2006, 09:09 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Tell him straight up what you just told us.Tell him you can`t open up right now because you were taught to keep things to yourself.I`m sure he`ll understand.
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Jul 6 2006, 09:32 PM
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cookie monster! =] Group: Member Posts: 204 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,492 |
QUOTE(xbabyboo @ Jul 6 2006, 9:09 PM)  Tell him straight up what you just told us.Tell him you can`t open up right now because you were taught to keep things to yourself.I`m sure he`ll understand. I have, but he still doesn't understand. 
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Jul 6 2006, 10:36 PM
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 i'll spend forever loving you. Group: Member Posts: 571 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 431,524 |
QUOTE(x-klutzibabi-x @ Jul 6 2006, 5:19 PM) He expects that it'll be easy for me since I'm a girl and stereotypically, girls tend to spill out everything on how they feel. Everytime it comes to this conversation, I end up hurting him since I can't-...more like I don't know how to tell him how I feel. Therefore, I feel like a selfish gf because I can't answer and tell him what he wants to hear. I don't know what to do, I don't know how to share my feelings to anyone. I was taught to keep things to yourself as a young kid. if you do have strong feelings for him that he assumes you do i'm sure, but it's just hard for you to explain, let him know that. be like, "my feelings for you are completely indescribable." i mean, that's a good thing, mention that it's a good thing, yet indescribable. some things are too good for words. let him know that how you feel doesn't have any words to define it. (if that's how you feel i mean.) 
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Jul 7 2006, 12:13 AM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
Just look him in the eye and assure him you love him. Apparently since he's asking you so many questions he's having some insecurities. Make him feel secure by giving a solid answer like, "I love you no matter what." "Don't worry." Or ask him the same questions back and see how he responds. If he's put in a situation where it's hard for him to respond, he might know what kind of situation he's putting you in and stop. Tell him you're not the "stereotypical girl". He should understand if you're not comfortable spilling your thoughts.
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