In light of recent events and the majority of the cB community generally wanting to bring together a closer community, I took the liberty of re-starting a thread that BrandonSaunders started a while ago. I thought a new one should be made, to start fresh and new and this way we could all get closer. I think this is one of the few topics where we SHOULD have a version 2/3/4 and so on, because it's a topic where I am asking, as Brandon asked that we all share stories and opinions and feelings and interact.

Reference to his topic, and ideas of questions and such to ask can be found here : http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...=115046&hl=


As Brandon said :




This time, you could start by asking me something, or asking someone else something that you've always itched to ask about.



Im Isabella. Im 14 going on 15, but people usually mistake me for somebody 16-19. Not really because I have an 'old' looking face but because of my general appearance and demeanor. I know online i seem childish and immature to many of you, but that's becase this is the internet and I dont give a f**k. But to people I know in person, they see me as very mature and grown. Maybe it's because of events in my life that have made it hard for me to have a normal childhood. For instance, I used to find solace in gang life and activity because I thought it was somewhere I could fit in and find respect and power but then my long term boyfriend and whom i believe to be my first love was shto and murdered and I realized this wasn't the life I wanted to lead, living each day worrying whether or not it would be my last or if I'd wake up tomorrow. I was molested, physically and sexually abused by 2 different boyfreinds and a friend of a friend. I look for love and reassurance in all the wrong places because my parents are ... the epitome of a failed marriage. All i have known from my parents is hatred. All they do is fight and yell and take it out on the children. Im also not exactly poor but yet, my family barely manages to live paycheck to paycheck. Any questions ? Does anyone want me to go into depth about the gangs, the abuse experiences, the family ? Feel free to ask questions.

You had a tough life didn't you?

Here's my thought on this: It's a good idea, but why do we need to have one single thread where everyone post something interesting that happens to them, or has happened to them? I say, if something comes to mind, post a new thread! It might not get tons of replies but at least it will get some discussion, and maybe help people get to know each other better! There's no reason that individual threads have to be general—they can be specific and personal. Give threads personality.

I guess you could say so. In comparison to many others I guess I have. But I am learning to appreciate that I have had a tough life because it makes me stronger in the long run. At the time of the events, I felt alone and weak and worthless, stupid and naive. But now, years, months, weeks later I look back on the experience and take as much wisdom from those experiences as I can. Many, many of my friends come to me for advice and say that they think i have all the answers, and many refer to me as their therapist because I always help them with advice one way or the other because I have been through a lot. I think people who have had easy lifes, lives that they just sail through from one great thing to another are cheated of a better living. As the saying goes, you can never be truly happy until you've been truly sad. Without something to make you appreciate what you have, how appreciative can you truly be ?







Well, then lets do that as well. If someone gets an idea for a new topic in here, then feel more than free to do so. I didn't mean to imply that this should be the thread where everyone talks and interacts. By all means, make as many threads as you feel might bring the community closer.

Wow, I can't believe all that I'm sorry to hear about all that you've gone through. How long ago was he killed?

August 23, 2003. ( I know I was young, but young love is pure and where I grew up and the atmosphere of my schools and neighborhood and such it was truly not out of the ordinary to have a steady boyfriend at a young age. ) We were walking to the park with his little sister Linda and it was a drive-by. It's a miracle me and Linda weren't shot as well. They got him to the hospital but there was nothing they could do. His family moved away and I lost touch with Linda. This year would have been his 16th birthday.

Bella: You are one of the strongest people I know. To have gone through so much and take something positive away from it is awesome. You are a truly amazing person.

Alrighty, let's give this a shot.

I'm Shauna. I am half-way adopted. I am the product of a rape, my "biological father" was never found. Due to the fact that my grandparents are extremely religious, my mother wasn't allowed to have an abortion, which is why I am here. This has caused tension between my mother and I, which is why we aren't close, and why I can't be around her side of the family. My dad's side of the family doesn't like me because I'm not really a part of their family. I've gotten over this fact, and it makes reunions more interesting when the old people throw mashed potatoes. I'm not liked at school much for my blunt attitude, but I'm anti-social. Basically, all of this has taught me to not care what other people think. I have two younger brothers, the youngest of the two is Autistic. My mom is at work, and my dad is at school, leaving me to clean up and watch over my brothers. We don't have a lot of money, and they argue a lot, but I've taught my brothers the phrase "Hakuna matata", and they blow it off now, because their fights are stupid, like when someone spills the coke on the kitchen floor. I live in Indiana, surrounded by corn and soy beans, and there is a beaver in the cornfield next to my house.

It's a very irritating beaver.

Aaaw Lauren. That warms my heart Lol. Thank you. That really do mean a lot. And, not sure if you got the message on Myspace but i'm glad you found Jenny.

But to get the topic going.


What would any of you say was a life-altering experience ?

Bellllla. I know you've told me about your past before but I'm still very sorry.

I admire that you are so open to everybody. Forreal though. I coudn't do that. I don't even open up to my cloesest friend about what I've gone thru in my life. As much as I would like to share like you asked.. I can't.

Sounds like an interesting family reunion. What is autistic ?


Lorenaa. It's all good. I'd NEEEEEEVER speak openly about all this in person though, so it's good to talk so freely of it to you guys. Nobody I know in real life really knows anything I have ever shared on cB about me.

I know forreal. I don't share a lot about my life on cB but it's definetely more than I ever tell my friends.

This stupid cB controversy has me thinking that I'm spamming .

It's not spam. It's a reply to a reply. It has something to do with the topic and has general relevance to the whole thing.


I just dont like sharing my life with people I know, because I feel they are judging me and I then feel vulnerable. I hate, hate HATE that feeling of vulnerability.

I hate it too, I once told one of my friends what I typed up on here, and she told everyone, and they all started treationg me differently.

Autism is a mental handicap, if you will.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism

Hrm, I'd have to say that being diagnosed with diabetes type one has been the most life-altering experience for me.

I'd have to say being mugged at knifepoint. I know that sounds bad, but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Before i was always mopig and whining about how my life sucked, and afterwords...not so much.


What would you say if the best skill/ability you have?

SAMFDFDLFM. Post edited.

Keeping secrets..I guess. Either that's my best or one of 'em.

^ Yeah, same here. I think I'm really good at keeping secrets. It's funn because most people think I'm the kind of girl who loves to gossip & talk shit about people. Once they get to know me, they're opinion changes completely. I mean I don't mention it right when I meet somebody but yeah.

I'm so sorry to hear that.
He died on my 11th birthday too.

Ok, here we go.

I'm Sandra and I'm 18 years and 21 days old. I was born into a very abnormal family. My dad abandonned me before I was born. I was raised by my mom and grandmother.

I'm not going to say my life history but meeting my dad was a very terrible thing BUT I learned a lot from everything. I've been through depression. I actually think I'm stronger in life.
Things got so bad that I actually took refuge in sex. Some old members might actually remember me constantly talking about sex. I still do, but way less.

Anyways, that's all. I'm tough, weird, annoying and a bitch. Stay away from me.

Wow bella I just gained so much more respect for you

Hi, I'm Jackie. I just turned sixteen. My family is a bit messed up, but nowhere near as bad as some other people who posted. Basically my mom isn't fond of me (i don't like her either). She is always on my about appearence and weight even though I'm over 100 pounds less than her. She's very critisizing, condesending and basically not there. My father is amazing, I love him to pieces but he is always working. My grandmother makes up for all that. SHe is my best friend and I love her to death. I have severe ocd, bdd and I've struggled with anorexia/bulimia for years. I'm always here if someone ever needs to talk about their experience with that, or needs help.

life-altering experience: I don't know, probably this past school year. The people I considered my best friends just stopped talking to me completely. It was my first year of highschool, and I didn't know anyone. My grandma was in and out of the hospital and my anorexia kind of sprung back up again. I became almost silent throughout all of my classes, which is a big difference from non-stop talking and constantly being told to be quiet.


skill/ability- Physical wise dance. I live and breathe it. But personality wise either listening/comforting or arguing/proving a point

What is your biggest childhood dream?

Wow...reading all these has made me think...
What is your biggest childhood dream?
There's a question I was actually able to think of an answer to. My biggest dream I guess would be to become a proffessional dancer, but I'm somewhat given up on that...when I was young, I switched between types of dance and took a 6 year break from traditional forms of dance (ballet, jazz, etc.) and took Polynesian. I regret that, and wished I had stayed in it all because I took up ballet again this year and I love it and I'm not at the level I could be because of that break...and I'm not saying I'm a bad dancer, but I know I could be so much better, but at this age and time, its so hard to improve and because of university next year & lack of time/money I have to drop most of the classes I take now.

Thank you. (:

And I know what you mean by your mom botehring you about your weight and struggling with bulimia and anorexia. When i was a kid, my mom worked nights and my dad was usually drunk and didn't bother with me or my brother so I'd go eat something and sit in my room, which led to me being overweight, and my mom would come home and fight with my dad for letting me eat, and after the fighting was over she'd come into my room call me a fat pig, threaten me with diets and forcing me to excersize and then repeat the cycle. I always feel inadequate and unworthy when im with her, like no matter how much i do to try and get her to notice all the good things i have done all she focuses on is the bad.


When i was a kid, my dream was to just have a normal functioning family. I used to think that all families were the way mine were. Then i started making close friends and started telling them, and they thought it was crazy that my parents fought and that my mom yelled at me and my dad was always drunk or just didn't care. Other than that, I've aaalways wanted to get into forensic science and crime scene investigation. For the longest time i've been really into death and murder and rape and how and why anyone would do that.

My mother is somewhat opposite of yours...and not quite as extreme though. She always complains and bitches at me for being too skinny, and I'm not. I'm at a healthy weight and everything, but I can tell by the way she bothers me about it is she's jealous. She's constantly complaining about her own weight, and she's not even that overweight. Slightly, but she's a lot better off than some of her friends but it drives me nuts.