right, and here's my opinion... CUTTING IS STUPID

I loathe the idea and the act of cheating on someone. If you can't be loyal, then don't be exclusive. Period.

That kills me, seriously. My last relationship ended a few weeks after he told me he had slept with another woman (a co-worker of all things) and had discovered that he was going to be a "daddy." He was so ridiculously emotionally selfish about the whole thing. I was actually willing to see him through it, but with all the "poor me" crap he was dishing, I couldn't deal. It was hard enough knowing that he went to work everyday and would see her. I just didn't (nor do I now) have patience for the type of pathetic weakness he so often showed. Seriously, I don't want that type of self centered behavior around my son or myself quite frankly. On a side note - I haven't been able to trust anyone since.

Regarding the cutting commentary - Chii was just saying that he shouldn't blame himself for a girl mutilating herself because of a break up. Don't begrudge her speaking her mind as I don't believe you would appreciate being cut off (no pun intended) from speaking your mind.

i got dumped over aim once

told my ex gf i enlisted. got a slapped to the face and siad it was over

HAHAHAHAHAHAH.. im sorry for your loss but I also find this funny.

Is that like wrong?

Well the worst is yet to come .. Me and my bf broke up for a week and then got back on 4/20 and we have been doing better ever since.. and Im so happy but when we do brake up ( NOT SAYING WE WILL).. it will be very hard on me...

uh just thinking about it makes me wanna cry :-(

.. You should watch what you say when you jump to conclusions.

My Worse Break-up so far,

He just totally ignored me. I called him, but he refused to answer. After sending him several messages, then only i received a freaking short reply. So, i finally got the 'message'.. And so i decided not to contact him anymore. Few months later, he came up to me. Surprisingly, he apologized to me and said that we are not meant to be and some stuff.. so i told him that it doesn't matter anymore coz i dont need you to make my life complete. I can survive without you in the picture..

Well, i'm happy we broke up though..
And i'm happy with the one i'm with right now.

And to the rest, always bear in mind that break up is not necessarily a bad thing. At least u get to learn something from the previous relationship, get wiser and move on to search for the right one..

It may be wrong..
matters why you laughed.

if it was because i laughed
then well i don't care.

Forgive me for asking and I don't know if you have mentioned it on the boards before or not, but how did you ex die?

ehm
car accident.

fun fun.
it was a while ago.

^^do you miss him/\??

not so much anymore.
I did incredible much
but you eventually get over it.

same here, except he never replied. also without the coming up a few months later and apologizing. he said "sorry" a couple weeks ago (it's been over a year since we broke up) but nothing about sorry for what or sorry i made you cry in class for two weeks and broke your heart and.. lol.
grrrr ok lol. im still bitter. it was.... very.. very traumatic. i'm still kinda scarred and paranoid sometimes.

but having my current boyfriend makes up for everything bad my ex ever did to me.

Hmmm
Well i truly did like him not yet love but he meant so much to me..we dated during the summer then he left a message on my house phone & told me he wants to go back out with his ex gf so we were over..then school started again. We dated again, this time is lasted awhile actually. i was surprised. Then we broke up. i was kinda feeling that he didnt wanna be with me. Then about a week or 2 later he hooked up with one of my close friends. I told her, he would do the same thing he did to me..find someone else. She didnt belive me, well he did, he dumped her after 2 weeks. Then got together with one of my bestfriends. Even though i was angry, i warned her also they lasted hmm maybe 5 months, she thought & i thought & everyone else thought they would stay together forever but like i said..he dumped her..Ha. i actually laughed at her. She would do things just to hurt me. Like make out with him right in front of me & laugh. Well now im laughing. & from what i herd he dumped her over texting & told her he found someone better. Well not as horrible as the ones i read above but my heart was crushed.

Worse break up? ...
Ugh this guy my ex .. sure i dated a few guys before him,
but i had to admit he was my actural first love .. We dated
for 4 months. And it was hard for us because I couldn't get
out much and he went to a different school. So apparently
we talked less and less and then BOOM .. he used a girl that
was his friend to tell me he wanted to break up. &this was how
she said it .. "Oh he told me he wants to break up with you."
f**k and he was the one who asked if i will wait for him too!
Wtfu*k is up with that .. It didn't hurt as much when i heard it ..
but the sh*t screwed with me for months later .. &you know what
else sucked? The guy had the nerves to date another girl like a day
after we broke up ... I never want that to happen again ..
it hurted so much .. and to pretend it never happened when i see him?
f**king ..

Ok.. here's what happened to me:
i had been going out with my boyfriend charlie for about 4 months
he was one of those 'omg he is so completely perfect' guys..
well yea.. thats wat i THOUGHT. soo yea one day he calls
& says its not working out & i was like "why?!" etc.. & then he admited he cheated
on me ... he madeout with a girl & had her strip for him.
ok well that was about 2 months ago when we broke up.. .
Yesterday.. i get a message from my frend maddy on myspace
saying that wat charlie said was all a lie & that she had sex with
him while we were still going out.. & i was shocked! argh. that jerk.
so yea that is my terrible story.

Oh man, I have LOTS...

One was this guy who's ex girlfriend found out we were dating & she convinced him EVERYDAY to break up with me, she even forced him to call me & break up with me on HER cell phone. Good thing I had my phone off & he told me to erase the message & to not listen to it [ I did anyway, duh ] but eventually she won because he called & broke up with me then had the nerve to start a sentence with "well now that me and Nikki are TOGETHER" wait wait, so you didnt even break up with me before getting back with her?!

Then this other guy totally forgot it was my birthday even though they announced it on the loud speaker at school & broke up with me. On my birthday. This was four years ago, he still kisses my ass & says sorry haha!

But THE WORST OF THEM ALL was my recent ex who I was dating for six months. He was psychotic & controlling. And everytime we fought he'd write bad stuff about me in his AIM profile, his LJ, everywhere. And over the summer, he "attempted" suicide because I wouldnt get my teacher to sign him for his 100 hours [ to graduate, its required you do community service at some schools for a certain amout of hours ] that he DIDNT do. So he was "rushed to the hospital" but he was online AT the hospital saying he had a 38% chance of living. Yeah, right. But you're on AIM. I knew this was a lie the whole time cause when he was online, I'd call his house -- busy. Plus his AIM profile was still up. Mmmhmm. I'm not stupid!

Anyway, I was also getting closer to one of my friends [ but he didnt really know this ] & I couldnt stand coming home from school being miserable because I knew he was gonna call & guilt me & blah blah blah. So one day, I eventually was like "you know, I dont love you anymore. You're psychotic, leave me alone".

I knew exactly what he was gonna do. He called every phone in my house -- even my PARENTS cell phones [ he did this EVERY TiME we fought for SiX MONTHS ] to yell at me. So I turned off everyone's phone. Then he posted MY phone number on his AIM profile saying stuff like "if you want your d**k sucked call this number". For about a whole week he kept calling my house & telling all my friends that if I dont talk to him this & that. Saying he was gonna call the cops on me, on something my brother said to him online & told his friends that he was gonna bomb my house. Not to mention he sent all these emails to me & left SO many comments on my LJ. Telling me it was a disgrace being with me, that his life would have been so much better with me in it, that I dont even deserve love from my PARENTS then turn around & say sorry & that he didnt say that & he would never say things like that. Pffft. Whatever.

It was crazy. I'm glad its over though. And this was two years ago. I still have a hard time trusting people, in general. But my boyfriend [ the guy I was getting closer to, yeah we ended up together & are STiLL together ] went through the same exact thing right after I did. It was crazy, so we're like both paranoid lol.

^ holy coww

theres two of them:

my last relationship. i realized i didnt love him the same way, so i ended it. he got mad at me and a few not very nice words were passed. i still feel horrible for putting him through it, but i guess its ok now. we sorta talk still...

the relationship im in now. we broke up once because of soo many un-answered questions. even though we didnt exchang a select group of words, it still tore me apart. but we fixed things and now we back together and better because of it...

dude thats f**ked up.

mine was when i was talking to him on the phone and he handed the phone to his best friend and he sed that oh HE sed its over between you guys.
then 2 weeks after i found out that he had sex with my bestfriend.

My last boyfriend. We were together for a year and a half, and it was a tough year and a half together cause we always get in fights and We never treated each other the best possible. I didn't treat him well at the beginning and toward the end he treated me like crap. I got put second to his hobbies and I broke up with him. I broke up with him because he said to me that he didn't want to be with me anymore. He later follows it up with I'm happier now that we're not together. I don't regret breaking up, but I do regret that I wasted a year and half thinking that he loved me.
Since we went to the same school, I saw him a lot. When I saw one day that he paid attention to another girl like the way he use to pay attention to me when he would just say he loves me, etc, well it got me thinking that he never loved me, he only was infatuated with me like he is with this new girl. That just teared open the same wound again. I'm glad that he's no longer in the school cause he graduating in like a week, so I won't have to sit there and see him make googly eyes at someone else like he mocking me anymore. Hopefully I will stop thinking about him. I know I will still care about him, but I don't want that to hold me back. Cause he has held me back long enough.

the one in which you just slowly stop talking.

in other words, it makes you question if it ever was a relationship...

T_T

When he was moving, when i was moving.
And where he's in the other side of the globe.
And i guess we're going to be forced to break up.

Wow, welcome to my life! That is basically exactly what happened to me.

Worst break up?

Hmm. Probably the second time I broke up with my boyfriend. I was emotionally insecure, and I had just met someone else, and I was just sick of the distance to the point where I couldn't take it anymore, so I told him that we should break up.

He took it so bad that he went out with his friends, got drunk, got back home and drank more, called me and he said numerious horrible things to me, such as "you better hope I don't die, because you'd be a murderer".. then apparently passed out and had to be taken to the hospital.. Needless to say I've never felt worse in my life; I kept on thinking what a horrible person I was for doing that to him, etc etc, and now his parents dispise me..

I doubt he's told them we're back together. But we're past all of this.. It's been a year since.

Taylor``