im 19 and so is the fiance i have been dating him for over 2 years
and plan on getting married this upcoming november..but the thing
is that i constantly find my sister who is 16 and him talkign together
liek out in the garage or the backyard she always wants him to go
driving with her and if i walk up while they are talking my sister will
walk away..and he will change whatever subject they are talking
abotu and ask me if i am mad at him..this past sunday i started a water
fight with them but he focused on her he drenched her in water and
was chasing her around and i was jsut standing there completly dry
and doing nothing shes always hitting him and tackling him they text
each other all the time and he will get mad if i look at his phone at all
and say that im trying to control him..im i paranoid or do you think
there is something that i should be watching more closely?
thanks for your help
ash

umm...maybe try talking to him? tell him you feel uncomfortable with how he "flirts" with your younger sister

oh wow. i think he's taking the " flirting " level wayy too much with your younger sister. If he is your fiance , he should be focsued on you. not your sister. you should ask him .. what is wrong .. You guys can't have any relationship without any trust going on.

It takes two to flirt. I think that you should talk to your sister and tell her to lay off your fiancee. I also think that you should talk to him.

Communication is important in a relationsip.

you should talk to him about it. ask him how he feels about your sister because from how i see it he's not being fair to you.

haha yeah uhm thats not too great.
talk to your sister first. niceeely but firmly tell her to lay off
then talk to your fiance. ask him if he's sure hes ready to commmit

gluck

mmm.. i agree with what most of the people are saying. i think you should give both him AND your sister a "little" talk. and if he doesn't wanna talk about it, well i don't know how you can trust him with the marriage and all. ( not trying to lead this the wrong way or anything ; i'm sure if you two talk about it things will be alright) wellps hope things work out alright!

Do you have any brothers and does he have any sisters? Maybe it's purely a sibling thing. If you don't have any older brothers than maybe your sister sees your fiancee as the big brother she never had and he sees her as the little sister he never had.

I hit my older brother sometimes but I am definitely not flirting with him. If my brother and I were still close, we'd text each other too. It makes sense for him to be mad when you try to snoop in his phone, that's such an invasion of privacy. I have nothing to hide but I don't want people looking at my personal messages or whatever.

But, you should talk to them both about it anyway. It's better to be safe than sorry.

Agreed.

i agree with everyone
you should talk to your sister first, ask her what's going on
and then talk to your fiance. he shouldn't be 'flirting' with your sister, i mean after all you guys are engaged and about to get married. he should stay commited to you

Remember, you need to talk to both of them; your fiance and sister. You have a relationship with your sister and your fiance. And they obviously have a relationship with eachother. You three should talk at once, but don't take it to a fighting level. Keep calm, and take deep breaths every now and then. Plan what you say, don't get hot-headed. You love your fiance, which is why you are marrying him. You do love him, don't you? And you love your sister. Even if you two dislike eachother, you're both family and she should understand and "lay off" your fiance.

^^I agree with Chii.

sounds very much like something is going on and if your fiance gets angry at you looking at his phone.....(maybe he has something to hide). As far as your sister is concerned, she needs a good old fashioned slap up the side of the head for treading on your grass. I think that your "fiance" needs to grow up and stop being double minded and should stop pursuing your little sister and she should think of how this is going to be affecting your relationship as siblings. I know that my response may be abit harsh but why beat around the bush. I think that you already know that your fiance is playing araound with your sister, it hurts, but better to know now than after the dreaded marriage.