scared of..., relationships? commitment? |
 Feb 8 2004, 01:20 PM
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hey guys i was just thinking from a different topic i just saw... and i have a question..
i think im scared of either a relationship or a commitment. anyone else have this problem? i just had such a bad experience and a horrible falling-out of the relationship that im so scared that if i try to get into another one, it'll just depress me again. what do u all think? |
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Feb 8 2004, 03:47 PM
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 got, toilet paper? Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,156 |
i dont think i have the ability to think that far.. and so bad relationships dont really bother me. lol .. maybe its cause im a guy.. or something is wrong with me
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Feb 9 2004, 06:16 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
yea... commitment is scary for me... i dont wanna make any commitment or promise i cant guarantee i can keep..
 but i guess before u or ur partner in a relationship get too deep into the relationship, first tell them that u dont hope to see commitment?? so the other one would kno wut ur thinking..? i dontknow lol thats wut i did 
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Feb 9 2004, 06:22 PM
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go with the flow...pain and happiness will all go through people's lives once in a while.....like for me, im grounded right now O.o
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Feb 12 2004, 01:56 PM
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 SpAcEAnGeL827 Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,262 |
i totally know how you feel...even though this might soudn to redundant..but time will ease ur pain my dear...seriously...but as for now..u can read up on relationship stuff at my xanga site..lol...that's pretty much all i write about...and as for knowing if you're ready or not...go clubbin..talk to guys..if you feel uneasy about taking a next step then you're not ready
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Feb 12 2004, 02:01 PM
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 Perfectly Flawed Group: Member Posts: 1,913 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,652 |
I guess I am kinda scared of a relationship right now... Mabye im just scared of being betrayed and hurt again.
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Feb 12 2004, 02:07 PM
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SpAcEAnGeL827 Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,262 |
there's no need to step into a relationship if there exist some doubt and uncertainty... you're probably better of beign single then to step into a relationship too soon...u'll just prob. end up hurting both the guy and yourself... so hand out with friends...go on dates and stuff..but don't take anything to seriously unless you're sure
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Feb 12 2004, 02:11 PM
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I definatly think I have commitment problems...I know this might sound snooty, but after a while, I get tired of the guys that I date...
So I'm happiy single right now
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Feb 14 2004, 01:08 PM
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 They can lie to my face, but not to my heart... Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,557 |
I'm scared of commitment too... And the thought of getting pregnant at a very young age. That horrifies me.
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Feb 16 2004, 11:46 PM
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MaJoR DorK!! Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,247 |
It's not bad to be afraid of committment. You may not be actually afraid of it. It could just be a common missconseption. (sp?). You probably just dont want to commit to anyone right now
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Feb 17 2004, 12:27 AM
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QUOTE(dmbrocks923 @ Feb 8 2004, 1:20 PM) hey guys i was just thinking from a different topic i just saw... and i have a question.. i think im scared of either a relationship or a commitment. anyone else have this problem? i just had such a bad experience and a horrible falling-out of the relationship that im so scared that if i try to get into another one, it'll just depress me again. what do u all think? hm... if ur scared, that gives you the more need to get more experience. if you just hide from it and keep being scared, that aint gunna take you nowheree. if you feel that its going to depress you again you just gotta find the right person its all good! just try it owt again. think of it as... you peeed on the floor... so now you gots to try peeeing in the toilet.
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Feb 20 2004, 11:33 AM
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QUOTE(politicophobia77 @ Feb 14 2004, 1:08 PM) I'm scared of commitment too... And the thought of getting pregnant at a very young age. That horrifies me. whoa... i never thought of that.... well, im too young anyway.... ill just be here and stuff.... so... i never thought of this... |
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Feb 21 2004, 12:45 AM
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 BOO! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,542 |
oh wow ive been thinking about that a lot too... its like you're scared cause you wouldn't know what you would be doing if you're in a realtionship or something, and you would do something a normal relationship wouldn't have...
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Feb 22 2004, 12:00 AM
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 t3h koolest guy in cB Group: Member Posts: 2,194 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 513 |
nah that stuff doesnt scare me
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Apr 23 2008, 04:24 PM
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QUOTE(jeppu @ Feb 8 2004, 04:47 PM)  i dont think i have the ability to think that far.. and so bad relationships dont really bother me. lol .. maybe its cause im a guy.. or something is wrong with me lol..i don't think anything is wrong with u...well, on second thought. you're probably brain damaged because you are a guy. lol. anything's possible. And i hope i'm not offending u. 
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Apr 23 2008, 04:31 PM
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QUOTE(dmbrocks923 @ Feb 8 2004, 02:20 PM) hey guys i was just thinking from a different topic i just saw... and i have a question.. i think im scared of either a relationship or a commitment. anyone else have this problem? i just had such a bad experience and a horrible falling-out of the relationship that im so scared that if i try to get into another one, it'll just depress me again. what do u all think? Stay out of them. Work on making money, hobbies, get into the gym, get into reading philosophies or somethin to preoccupy your mind. You don't need relationships, especially if at the moment you're not in the mood to commit to anyone. |
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Apr 23 2008, 04:37 PM
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I hope you all know this topic is quite old.
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Apr 23 2008, 04:39 PM
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to be honest, i don't know what's wrong with me. i think the longest relationship i have ever been in was 3 months...and i was seven then. now that i'm 16 i have relationships, but they only last about a week. not even two. and it's not that i'm not committed or i'm just unfit, it's just that things keep coming up. either he falls in love with me and i don't love him back and we break up. or he moves and we deceid to split because i don't like long distanced relationships. or he's too old and his parents don't approve...it just never works out. the best relationships that i have ever had were the ones that were un official. like, i like u and u like me, but i'm not going to ask u out. we just kinda claim each other. so techinally i was with one guy for 11 months and 29 days and with the other for seven months, some days, and counting. hey it's complicated, i know. but who said life wasn't?
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Apr 23 2008, 04:40 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
STOP BUMPING THIS SHIT GODDAMNIT.
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Apr 23 2008, 04:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
Guys... why don't you close old threads, say like a thread that's older than 1 month in terms of posts?
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Apr 23 2008, 04:50 PM
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QUOTE(misoshiru @ Apr 23 2008, 05:40 PM) STOP BUMPING THIS SHIT GODDAMNIT. do u have a problem with everybody? ( i bet u understood that) and if you didn't... then you're mentally afflicted. 
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Apr 23 2008, 05:36 PM
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QUOTE(babygirl10 @ Apr 23 2008, 05:50 PM) do u have a problem with everybody? ( i bet u understood that) and if you didn't... then you're mentally afflicted. Don't mind her... she's most likely on the rag or upset about somethin weird |
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Apr 23 2008, 06:00 PM
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 yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
QUOTE(illmortal @ Apr 23 2008, 05:48 PM) Guys... why don't you close old threads, say like a thread that's older than 1 month in terms of posts? i wonder about this sometimes too. but then i usually find a good old one and i post it in, lol. 
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Apr 23 2008, 11:13 PM
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My girlfriend has that same issue..she has a hard time with commitments because she is scared that she will get hurt again, or something like that.
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Apr 23 2008, 11:52 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
screw commitments and relationships..just go to parties/clubs and hook up with a bunch of guys/girls for the night and find a different person each night, that way you won't feel any pressure :).
^^that's what I do now, since I broke up with my gf |
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