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Boyfriend smokes, some advice please?
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post Feb 2 2006, 11:52 PM
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Marco & Shahin, you haven't lived until you've had a Cuban Cohibas.
 
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post Feb 3 2006, 12:23 AM
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QUOTE(BrandonSaunders @ Feb 2 2006, 8:52 PM)
Marco & Shahin, you haven't lived until you've had a Cuban Cohibas.
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Interesting. Tell me about these Cuban Cohibas.
 
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post Feb 3 2006, 12:36 AM
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post Feb 3 2006, 12:41 AM
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$431.00, eh? I'd hope they were high quality. Until I have a nice sum of money, I'll stick to those blacks and blunts. I'm definetly looking into buying some of these in the near future, though.
 
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post Feb 3 2006, 02:04 AM
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Quitting cold turkey is REALLY hard. I mean, it's a psychological thing. Was or is he a frequent smoker? Also, if he's going to promise something, he should keep that promise. Promises aren't for people to break. sweating.gif I mean, I KNOW you care about his health--he should realize that if he wants to be in the relationship, he has to try to change. Of course, that's if he's willing to. I know I wouldn't date a smoker, because it shows that they're vulnerable to it (when they're addicted).

Let me tell you a true story. My half-sister's husband has been smoking since he was, I believe, in high school. He's been dating my half sister since they both were in high school. He's 37 now. He was a frequent smoker, and often went outside to smoke. Him and all his brothers, mother, and father all smoke. It was VERY hard for him to quit, especially cold turkey. Sometime last year when my half-sister was driving through the Canada to get to Alaska (with her husband's sister), they both lost connection with her (my half-sister's) husband, whom was in Alaska. They couldn't call each other for a day, since there was no cellular reception for a day.
You know what her husband did? He prayed to Buddha that they both (my half-sister and his sister) would be alright. Also, he vowed that he would quit cold turkey if it meant that his wife and sister were safe.
MIRACULOUSLY, my half-sister called back like... 5 minutes later because her cellphone had reception again!

The moral of this story is basically that if someone is truly serious about a relationship, they should be able to use that devotion and turn it into a way to quit smoking. I mean, do you have to threaten to break up with him to stop? I mean I know that it's HIS choice to smoke and some will say that you shouldn't try to make him to stop, but remember that you CARE about his health.

Then whisper sweet nothings in his ear. wink.gif ahaha
 
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post Feb 3 2006, 04:58 PM
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Damn, 4 bills. Kinda outta my reach. Maybe over the summer I'll hit at some of those. But 'til now, Im doing what Shahin is doing, sticking to my blacks and blunts.
 
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post Feb 3 2006, 08:34 PM
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QUOTE(bad_girl @ Feb 1 2006, 8:36 AM)
i think you should leave him alone about it. he obviously likes smoking or whatever, so i think not smoking would have been a great deal to him wen he promised you, but he stopped for a while, didn't he? no matter what, it was hard for him to stop, even for a short period of time. therefore i think you should cut him some slack && let him enjoy a puff from time-to-time.

(this is coming from a 13 year old, btw)
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so are you saying that i should let him smoke because he obviously values smoking more than he values me? maybe if we were a little bit older i would probably cut him some slack; but im 13 too and i know i wouldn't want a crackhead boyfriend.
 
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post Feb 4 2006, 01:37 PM
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QUOTE(iNyCxShoRT @ Feb 3 2006, 7:34 PM)

so are you saying that i should let him smoke because he obviously values smoking more than he values me? maybe if we were a little bit older i would probably cut him some slack; but im 13 too and i know i wouldn't want a crackhead boyfriend.

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Smoking cigarettes don't make you a crackhead.

Wait, what exactly is he smoking?

Advice from other 13 year olds might not be the best. The best advice I can give you is for you to do what you feel what is right and don't let a bunch of screennames who don't know the specifics of the situation tell you what's right.
 
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post Feb 4 2006, 06:06 PM
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My fiance smokes as well. He began smoking back in high school and quit shortly after we began dating. However, within the last few months he's been under alot more pressure and has picked up the habit again.
I don't like it. I've always been against smoking. First because the smell made me sick, and then because I actually was tempted to try it myself and was disgusted by the thought.
Not to mention smoking is unhealthy.
I can't get him to stop. He said he quit the first time to impress me... but now he knows he doesn't need to impress me, I'll love him anyway.
One thing that has helped a little is a guilt trip. Not terribly... and I don't pester him about it. But anytime I find out he was smoking (he normally tells me if he does. I requested he at least let me know.) sometimes I can make my eyes look all teared up. And when he tells me it does hurt... so I let him know.
However, it doesn't get him to quit. He's addicted and he's often stressed out from work or home.
I'm currently working on trying to afford the patch for him or something. I'm ready to try about anything... just as long as it's in the budget. Neither of us have much money to dish out.
 
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post Feb 4 2006, 11:25 PM
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QUOTE(kchalut @ Feb 4 2006, 5:06 PM)
My fiance smokes as well. He began smoking back in high school and quit shortly after we began dating. However, within the last few months he's been under alot more pressure and has picked up the habit again.
I don't like it. I've always been against smoking. First because the smell made me sick, and then because I actually was tempted to try it myself and was disgusted by the thought.
Not to mention smoking is unhealthy.
I can't get him to stop. He said he quit the first time to impress me... but now he knows he doesn't need to impress me, I'll love him anyway.
One thing that has helped a little is a guilt trip. Not terribly... and I don't pester him about it. But anytime I find out he was smoking (he normally tells me if he does. I requested he at least let me know.) sometimes I can make my eyes look all teared up. And when he tells me it does hurt... so I let him know.
However, it doesn't get him to quit. He's addicted and he's often stressed out from work or home.
I'm currently working on trying to afford the patch for him or something. I'm ready to try about anything... just as long as it's in the budget. Neither of us have much money to dish out.
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A shrink told me that smoking isn't about the nicotine, but more so about the oral fixation. Whatever the case, when I tried the patch, it just made me crave cigarettes even more. I suggest he chew on cardboard... I mean chew the gum.
 
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post Feb 4 2006, 11:29 PM
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I smoke way less than I did before , I lasted 2 days without one , then smoked one , then 3 days passed by , smoked one , then a week , and I smoked one today and couldnt even finish the second one.


But now I want one.


this sucks.
 
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post Feb 4 2006, 11:35 PM
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QUOTE(EmmalieV @ Feb 4 2006, 10:29 PM)
I smoke way less than I did before , I lasted 2 days without one , then smoked one , then 3 days passed by , smoked one , then a week , and I smoked one today and couldnt even finish the second one.
But now I want one.
this sucks.
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I haven't smoked at all today, but I'm craving one.
 
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post Feb 5 2006, 01:32 AM
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Call the cops on him and take him to a place to lecture him.
 
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post Feb 5 2006, 03:26 AM
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QUOTE(BrandonSaunders @ Feb 4 2006, 8:35 PM)
I haven't smoked at all today, but I'm craving one.
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I'm out. Damn.

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Wait, what exactly is he smoking?

I personally think the guy is smoking weed. But the author never really told us.
 
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post Feb 6 2006, 03:47 PM
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smoking is really addictive....but soon his lungs are going to turn black because of it and die >.< eeks, you should tell him the bad side about smoking. go research about it online. i bet there's tons of info there. you shouldn't break up with him because...he actually cared for you.nobody wants to lose someone they loved. >.< he tried to stop smoking. but sometimes people cant keep taht promise because its so addictive. its like having coffee. you can never stop drinking it. when you stop, it causes you to act all mean and makes you sleepy. go ask him to chew gum or something >_> tell him to go to the doctor. but if he does something bad to you, you should go break up with him. and when he smokes while you're there, its second-hand smoking and i heard that its worser >_> you'll die soon too, its just like smoking. i hope that helped >_>
 
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post Feb 6 2006, 08:21 PM
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^ Good lord.
 
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post Feb 6 2006, 08:29 PM
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Well, wickedvampire3 is correct.
 
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post Feb 9 2006, 10:35 PM
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QUOTE(wickedvampire3 @ Feb 6 2006, 3:47 PM)
smoking is really addictive....but soon his lungs are going to turn black because of it and die >.< eeks, you should tell him the bad side about smoking. go research about it online. i bet there's tons of info there. you shouldn't break up with him because...he actually cared for you.nobody wants to lose someone they loved. >.< he tried to stop smoking. but sometimes people cant keep taht promise because its so addictive. its like having coffee. you can never stop drinking it. when you stop, it causes you to act all mean and makes you sleepy. go ask him to chew gum or something >_> tell him to go to the doctor. but if he does something bad to you, you should go break up with him. and when he smokes while you're there, its second-hand smoking and i heard that its worser >_> you'll die soon too, its just like smoking. i hope that helped >_>
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^ actually he's not addicted. he told me he doesn't even know why he does it; cause he thinks that the addiction thing is all a bunch of bs. eh; gum's not gonna help him. im not sure what he smokes really; but...it shows that hes smoking SOMETHING Like today when I kissed him it was noticable; and I let him get away with it for just today. I'm afraid he's gonna think I won't do anything if I know he smokes, and will continue doing it.
 
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post Feb 9 2006, 10:45 PM
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^ You should figure out what he's smoking.
 

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