confused bout my relationship, dunno wat to do. |
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confused bout my relationship, dunno wat to do. |
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i been going out with this girl for over a month now...i didnt even like her at all...but she liked me so we started going out. as time went by i liked her cuz i started caring for her alot cuz she was my gf...but i guess when our relationship hit the 3 week point....it seemed like she got bored of me...we use to talk on the phone alot...everyday...and almost everynight before we fall asleep. and couple of nights ago we talked on the phone...she chose to talk to her friends over me.
right now she is partyin it up in another town with her old high school friend....for a couple of days...and i know she is a big flirt and a big party girl. so im kinda worried. but now she doesnt even call me and we barely talk anymore...and when i call her...she tells me she is gonna call me but she never calls me bak...its been 2 days we havent talked. miss her like crazy...kinda hurt. how she chooses her friends over me. cuz im pretty emotional when it comes to relationship. and its kinda messed up how some girls like to play with guys feelings. i wish my feelings werent so soft hearted and more cold hearted like alot of guys...cuz it bugs me alot. (can't sleep, can't stop worrying) wat do u guys think i should do. or wat do u girls think she is thinking or doing? |
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just admit you want her back...that you want that time back together....you miss talking with her..and kiss her ass like there's no tomarrow and you'll be ok...
one thing you must learn is that the girl is always right... ![]() |
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QUOTE(Programmer @ Jan 27 2006, 11:41 PM) just admit you want her back...that you want that time back together....you miss talking with her..and kiss her ass like there's no tomarrow and you'll be ok... one thing you must learn is that the girl is always right... ![]() i dont want her back if she is that type of person....sigh* i wish i wasnt so soft hearted and more cold hearted...like alot of other guys dat dont even care... |
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i like your car.
ur car > ur girlfriend |
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![]() dakishimetainoni... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 ![]() |
if you don't even want her back then what's the problem? just call her up and be like, "i'm sorry, i can't be in a relationship with you. i just can't see myself with you anymore." if she asks why, then tell her.
relationships aren't rainbows and sunshine. people get hurt, no relationship is hurt free. there are fights and misunderstandings. when you find someone who is worth your time, you'll be able to get through all that and be able to keep a healthy relationship. |
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^ he didn't say that he didn't want her back, he just wants her to be the way she was before (talking on the phone w/ him everyday, etc).
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yea, im the same way when it comes to relationships, emotional, but thats not bad now-a-days. most guys that are cold hearted are a-holes and most times think with their d**ks. and dont say i dont know what im talking about, im almost eighteen and am on a football team, i know how the guys think, believeeee me.
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 ![]() |
well if she keeps acting like that, break it off? don't hurt yourself.
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talk it out with her. if not, go out partying. and do what she does. that way you wont feel as guilty because your both partying.
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talk to her and see how she feels. i don't mean to sound mean or anything but it probably won't end that pretty. if she's a party girl then you know that it's nearly impossible for her to stay in a relationship but i could be wrong. whatever you do, don't just wait it out and hope she'll just come back one day like nothing happened.
i'm really sorry. something similar like that happened to me so i can just imagine how you probably feel right now. it's alright, if she's going to treat you like that then maybe she's just not worth it. if only there weren't people like that, right? i hope you feel better ![]() |
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yes. i agree
QUOTE if she's a party girl then you know that it's nearly impossible for her to stay in a relationship but i could be wrong
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QUOTE(lit0chinagirl @ Jan 28 2006, 7:08 PM) talk to her and see how she feels. i don't mean to sound mean or anything but it probably won't end that pretty. if she's a party girl then you know that it's nearly impossible for her to stay in a relationship but i could be wrong. whatever you do, don't just wait it out and hope she'll just come back one day like nothing happened. i'm really sorry. something similar like that happened to me so i can just imagine how you probably feel right now. it's alright, if she's going to treat you like that then maybe she's just not worth it. if only there weren't people like that, right? i hope you feel better ![]() yea foh realz...if only there weren't people like dat...=\ or they should seperate society and keep all the not so commited people that likes to mess around in one group and all the better hearted, emotional people in one group so we can tell who is who...before dating dem....dat would be so nice. QUOTE(celticsluvr @ Jan 28 2006, 1:31 PM) talk it out with her. if not, go out partying. and do what she does. that way you wont feel as guilty because your both partying. that's wat im gonna do...but i dont think that bothers her..but i think our relationship is very odd. =\ QUOTE(upf147 @ Jan 28 2006, 10:06 AM) yea, im the same way when it comes to relationships, emotional, but thats not bad now-a-days. most guys that are cold hearted are a-holes and most times think with their d**ks. and dont say i dont know what im talking about, im almost eighteen and am on a football team, i know how the guys think, believeeee me. right now i wish i am a a-hole so i dont give a shi* QUOTE(i_liek_sushi @ Jan 28 2006, 12:45 AM) ^ he didn't say that he didn't want her back, he just wants her to be the way she was before (talking on the phone w/ him everyday, etc). yea i didnt even like her at all when i first met her...she liked me...and asked me out and i was just like...uhhh ok....and den just grew to like her...and cared for her and everything cuz dats my job as a bf. but didnt know she would turn out like dis.... QUOTE(Chii @ Jan 28 2006, 12:39 AM) if you don't even want her back then what's the problem? just call her up and be like, "i'm sorry, i can't be in a relationship with you. i just can't see myself with you anymore." if she asks why, then tell her. relationships aren't rainbows and sunshine. people get hurt, no relationship is hurt free. there are fights and misunderstandings. when you find someone who is worth your time, you'll be able to get through all that and be able to keep a healthy relationship. i might really consider saying that to her. |
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she is right now partyin with her friend as we speak. she's right now at this place called 6th Street in Austin...where all the college students go...to drink, party and go clubbing...she went there last night and didnt wake up till 5pm in the afternoon...and tonight she is doing the same thing again....
![]() i been working really hard cuz i recently dropped 6k into my car (turbo)...and now i been working and saving up so i can get her something special for valentine's day coming up.... damn...i can't stand dis....wat the hell kind of relationship is dis... ![]() |
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Here's the dillio, man: Either you can talk to her and tell her how you feel, and see if she changes; or you can just admit it's not working out and cut your losses. Thinking about what's wrong isn't going to make it better. Talk to her, or just bail out, but do something about it.
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QUOTE(mipadi @ Jan 29 2006, 1:02 AM) Here's the dillio, man: Either you can talk to her and tell her how you feel, and see if she changes; or you can just admit it's not working out and cut your losses. Thinking about what's wrong isn't going to make it better. Talk to her, or just bail out, but do something about it. yea i kept calling her but she don't pick up her phone...wats the point of having a cell phone if u dont pick it up. damn...dis is pissin me off. |
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I don't see the point of this relationship. Ask her if she wants to take a break because that's what it seems like. You don't deserve someone who won't call you back, pick up your calls, or spend time with you instead of partying.
I'm sure there are plenty of other girls out there who would love to give you the care and attention you deserve (which your current gf isn't giving any of). |
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maybe u should talk the point to her??
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ha my bf does the same thing *well no partying, just out with his cousins* never call me back. I call him numerous times and he finally calls me back. I try to keep my cool but let him know that hes pissin me off. We set a date to talk bout it face to face. when we do, it usually ends up all good. Communication.
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Helpful hint: your gf or bf doesn't always want to talk with you...somtimes there is need for freedom and space..
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You say you're emotional about relationships, but then why would you go out with someone you didn't like? Oh well, that's not the point.
I think you should tell her how you feel. Don't spend too much time on it though, I mean that's a ver short amount of time you guys have been going out. |
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Either she's bored or she's giving you hints that YOU need to make the move.
Talk to her. |
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QUOTE(michael52087 @ Jan 28 2006, 8:36 PM) she is right now partyin with her friend as we speak. she's right now at this place called 6th Street in Austin...where all the college students go...to drink, party and go clubbing...she went there last night and didnt wake up till 5pm in the afternoon...and tonight she is doing the same thing again.... ![]() i been working really hard cuz i recently dropped 6k into my car (turbo)...and now i been working and saving up so i can get her something special for valentine's day coming up.... damn...i can't stand dis....wat the hell kind of relationship is dis... ![]() Uh, a bad one. Boooooooooooooy I would never let my girl go drinking, partying and clubbin without me |
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Ok, first off, like it's already been said, you haven't been dating that long, so really it's not a huge loss. Secondly, don't do something immature like go paryting to get back at her. That will just screw you over in the long run. It may just be that she needs some time to just go have fun, and not be anything personal against you. People need a breather every once in awhile. Give her some time and space, and let her call you. Give her a reasonable amount of time, (like give her some time after she gets back) and then, just bring it up. Don't accuse or attack her, just bring it up casually, ask her how it was, if she had a good time, things like that. Communication.
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