okay i dont really know where to begin,uum theres this guy we had a short thing last year,several months ago,then he changed his mind we we're really good friends before but that happening f**ked things up for ages,i could'nt get over him though,i'm still not,a few months ago we started talking again mainly on msn or seeing eachother out every month or so. I kinda feel we're okay now and can be friends but i want more,but not a relationship. Hes told me alot that he'd just like sex with someone but no relationship. I did always want my first time to be special but now i just feel i want it to be with him,hes had sex before,i've told him how i feel but said i'm not sure. I'll either regret it or regret not doing it. Usually these stupid ideas fade out after a few days with me but this is sticking. So should i sleep with him,knowing their probably wont be any relationship. I want to feel closer to him,but thats obviously not the only reason i would sleep with him,but i'm just basically needing veiws and opinions because i know its probably sounds crazy,but i just need to make a decision.

if i were you, i would definitely not sleep with him. IMO, he's a jerk that just wants to get in your pants. why do you want your first time to be with him? like you said, if you want it to be special then you should wait. having sex can be very complicated and will change everything about your friendship. basically, you want to be friends with benefits, and if you think you're prepared for that type of relationship then go for it. just be prepared to deal with the consequences and hardships that follow.

Save yourself honey - for a man that will love you unconditionally. Sex can really wreck your pysche... your emotions will go haywire. It's only meant for someone that will be with you the rest of your life.

This guy is a jerk! You love him, but he doesn't love you. Sex is a mutual action. It's special, and needs to be treated as such. Take my advice to heart.

forget about it. he's not worth losing your virginity too, he just wants to get in your pants like what xcaitlinx said. wait for someone who you think is worth losing it too, not just some guy who only wants to have sex but no relationship. once you lose your virginity you can't get it back

If you were ready to have sex, you wouldn't need to ask for advice.

i agree with him. but then again, its all up to you.

this is so true.....this is SO true!! hahaha....sorry...yeah anyways!

i think you should NOT sleep with him. i mean...what kind of guy do you think he is? doesn't the idea of a guy that just wants sex a complete donkey to you? i mean come on....it's not like he's going to love you. and if he doesn't love you..then why are you going to let him take something so pure from you? think about it...

...He wants to be friends with benefits. That's not worth your time. Trust me, I speak from personal experience, and it's something I still regret now, years later.

Wow. Sounds like a real jerk to me.

Sex is way too emotional for people to just do "casually." I think you would immediately regret having sex with him, because it won't be special, and since he doesn't want a relationship you won't be loved or anything in return. He just wants to have sex. He needs to learn to control his hormones. I would definitely say no.

I don't think your boyfriend is old enough to buy a condom, so no.

And don't ask random strangers in the internet to help you decide wether you should have sex or not.

he sounds like a huge @sshole.
seriously, don't even think about it.

just walk away and enjoy your childhood please.