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Break-Up Mediums.
How do -you- break up with someone?
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*Azarel*
post Oct 12 2005, 10:35 PM
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Why did you choose that?

I would never break-up with anyone by e-mail or voicemail because that just seems really.. cowardly to me.

Online, it allows the other person to save face, and it saves you the guilt and the trouble of having to comfort them while listening to their tears; it also gives you more time to think about how you want to say things, etc. However, this is also somewhat cowardly, and it just seems... heartless.

On the phone, you don't have to physically face the person, but how do you cope with listening to their painful reaction?

In person, face-to-face is perhaps more difficult to do, but it's the most.. I don't know.. this way, I guess, shows that you care. This probably hurts the most, though.

Just curious.
 
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post Oct 12 2005, 10:56 PM
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IMO any other way besides face to face i think its wrong.

But theres always excuses and stuff.
 
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post Oct 12 2005, 10:56 PM
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i do it face to face...but i'd much rather do it on the phone because i hate seeing their reaction.
 
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post Oct 12 2005, 11:17 PM
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I chose phone, via conversation. Even though face-to-face would be most respectful to the dumpee, a phone conversation is a nice in between: in between being completely rude (instant message, email) and being as respectful as one can possibly be, when breaking up with someone.
 
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post Oct 12 2005, 11:38 PM
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Hmm, I think face to face is definitely the hardest to do, and would hurt the most, but is also the best way to do it. Eh, breaking up through the phone seems a bit more impersonal or something. The others are just rude and wrong.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 12:30 AM
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All the break ups that I did were face to face. I hate it when guys break up with me through instant messanger. I think its so coward to do that. yeah i could understand how hard it is to break up with someone but me i do it face to face cause if they like start to cry or something you could comfort them instead of aim and go cry and them have no idea how you reeally feel
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 12:42 AM
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arghhh:: one of my exs broke up with me on the phone!!! Grrr! I have never ever done that no matter how short the relationship was. (and ours was a 2 year one) Anyway... that's why hes my ex. GRRR...

((sorry)) so yeah face to face , anything else is for cowards.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 03:19 AM
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I'd have to say face to face. It's a hard thing to do but somehow it seems the most correct way to do it.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 08:25 AM
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i have to agree with everything you said anna, i completely agree.
i've been broken up with before over email and yeah...it sucks.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 10:41 AM
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depends on what kind of relationship.

if it was something serious, then face to face in a private or semi private setting (with no limit on time) is the best.

however, if it was something casual, or had not progressed, instant messanger or phone will work.

and then, if it wasn't really a relationship, but the other person just thought so or something, email is fine.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 12:27 PM
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I've always broke up with them face to face before. Except the last relationship, which was because the time in between the times we would see each other was so long, so I told him over the phone.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 12:39 PM
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i'd say face to face. it's the nicest way IMO.
but over the phone via conversation would be easier.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 01:29 PM
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I prefer breaking up with someone face to face. You can talk it out and see their expressions...it's just the right thing to do

On the phone, yah i guess that's my second option. I would only do that if it's the last resort. Come to think of it, most of my relationships has ended on the phone. hm..

Internet..email...AIM...eh! no way....there is no way..
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 01:30 PM
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I'd do face to face, or through a letter.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 01:54 PM
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I just broke up with mine on the phone.

He doesn't have a screenname, and sadly, he can't read well. He's in special ed because of it. And of course I didn't break up with him because of that. It's just, I didn't have the same feelings I had for him before we got together. sad.gif
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 02:11 PM
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You may be scared or something But nopt matter how you feel yo ushould all ways do it face to face...
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 02:22 PM
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Though I've never dated and therefore never broken up, I would ONLY do it face to face. Any other way just seems to be a cop-out to me.
 
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post Oct 13 2005, 02:55 PM
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I'd do it face-to-face. But I'm a lover, not a fighter. Or something like that.
 
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post Oct 14 2005, 03:15 PM
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^hehe, I like you =]


Anyways, I prefer face to face but am guilty of the phone. Face to face is the hardest thing to do, it hurts the most for both parties. Alas, the phone usually sucks more for the one getting dumped...

ROAR FOR BREAK UPS
 
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post Oct 14 2005, 08:28 PM
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i would break it off with him face to face or through the phone. even though my ex did break it off through the internet. jerk _dry.gif
 
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post Oct 17 2005, 07:03 PM
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The only sincere way to break up with someone is face to face.

Although my one ex-boyfriend broke it up over the phone and I thought that was kind of nice of him because we only really had time to see each other at school and he knew I loved him and would cry if it was over.

But I still think alone and face to face is best.
 
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post Oct 17 2005, 08:08 PM
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I'd pick face-to-face.

Chances are I'd feel terrible about it, and I wouldn't want to be a coward and do it over IM or the phone. The least I could do would be to physically talk to them.
 
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post Oct 17 2005, 08:33 PM
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I'd definetely do Fact-To-Face. I suppose there is a level of respect to uphold.
 
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post Oct 18 2005, 12:53 AM
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I chose Online, via E-mail simply because that's the only way IV'e done it in teh past. Both times he's aske dme out via email so I havn't felt cowardly doing it, not to mention both times It's been less than a relationship...more like a "will you be my girlfriend?" and I respond "no" kind of relationship.

If I had a relationship with someone that really mattered to me and had lasted a fair bit, I wouldn't do it over email. I'd at least phone them up, but I'd prefer talking to them in real life, so I could really express how I feel.

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QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Oct 13 2005, 7:41 AM)
and then, if it wasn't really a relationship, but the other person just thought so or something, email is fine.
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Exactly what I mean by my first paragraph. Ofcourse if I had a real relationship I wouldn't break up over email or IM, that's jsut plain out mean and cowardly.
 
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post Oct 18 2005, 02:03 PM
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Well my ex broke up with me over the phone, and I found it to be an okay way to break up.

But for me, I'd do it face-to-face. It shows the other person that you care for them enough to do this face-to-face.
 

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