so lets just say that what you're saying is all real. my advice is, give her a talk on why you might not trust him, and how "stupid" you were at her age. and let her think it over, and if she still wants to go out with him, then let her, if anything happens, she'll have to suffer the consequences.

QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Sep 29 2005, 11:33 AM)

So  yall get ova it, its only a style of writing.

That is NOT a style of writing; it's a form of illiteracy.

Anyhoo, you are NOT a 30 year old mother.

QUOTE

Im just on here, and yes she knows.

See, right there, you pretty much proved that this isn't her mother.



How? Because if a mother was seeking advice, she would NOT ask her daughter if she could post on her account to ask a question. That'd just be silly.

Anyways, tell your "daughter" that she shouldn't go all the way with the guy, no matter how much she trusts him.

yeah you should. i mean, she's 15, i think she knows what to && not to do.

anyways, im just wondering but, did your daughter give you permission to use her cB account?? or are you just using it...?

edit.//


kind of true actually..

who cares, just answer the question and move on

i think that if you really want to protect her, don't let her. she's too young.

obviously the writer of that post cared. why don't you just answer the question and move on like you suggested?

wow I also got the vibe that this was not a 15 yr old, but some of the comments posted here have been nasty. If u are a 30 yr old well, just trust them. At the end of the day, you know you cant control your kids beyond a certain age. And if you are the 15 yr old, listen to ur mother! Haha, she knows why she told you you cant go.

you read my mind

i was waiting for someone to say that!

I don't think so

She might say, "oh you're the worst mom ever" to pull a guilt trip on you but be strong and do what's best. I think the best answer is say no cuz really, why would an 18-year old want to go out with a 15-year old if not for sex? OR maybe he's just into younger people like that... if you trust your daughter let her, but if not, then obviously no

Well, I don't have any children yet, but I'm pregnant with a baby which I hope is a girl, haha. My opinion? Let your daughter date him. She's 15, sure she may not be at her maturity peak, but she's a young teenager, and that's okay. You can't keep her as "your little girl" forever, and I know it's hard to let your child go, but it was going to happen sooner or later that she was dating someone older than her. She's 15, he's 18, she's still a minor, and if that's what's concerning you, don't be too worried. I think you should trust your daughter to make the right decision on her own. IF she does end up having sex with him (if that's what you're worried about...) then it's her body, her decision and if she gets hurt in the end, maybe she'll learn her lesson. You have to let kids learn their own lessons. You can't try to shelter them. Now, you were 15 when you had your daughter, and if you were responsible enough to take care of a baby, I certainly think your daughter is responsible enough to make the right choices when she's out on a date with the 18 year old boy.

(By the way, I'm 21, my husband is 24. It's the same age difference as your daughter's and that boy's. It doesn't sound so bad now, does it? It's just because 15 sounds so young and 18 sounds so old compared to that...)

This post has been edited by x3chrissyx3: Oct 2 2005, 06:46 PM

If I was a 30 year old mom with a 15-year old daughter, I wouldn't go on an internet forum to ask a bunch of teenagers whether or not I should let my daughter go on a date. But that's just me. =)

The age difference between 21 and 24, and 15 and 18, might be equal, but it's not really the same. A 21- and 24-year-old are both more mature relative to one another than an 18- and 15-year-old.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, QUIT JUDGING HER AND GIVE HER THE ADVICE SHE NEEDS! You all are so annoying, "i know it all"... petits gamins de merde.

Anyways, you should let her go.

wow...a lot of people on cB have issues. "OMG U TYPE LIEK UR 10!!!! THERES NO WAY UR 30!!! U COULDNT HAVE HAD A BABY WHEN U WERE 15..IM GUNNA GO CALL THE CB COPS ON U!!" if she isn't really a mother, then get over it..that's HER problem, not yours.

how about SHUT UP and find something better to bitch about? thanksss.
-------------
if you met the guy and thoguth that he was nice, maybe you should let your daughter go on a movie date with him. one date can't hurt. there are a lot of jerks out there that only think about sex so i'd make sure he's actually as "kewl" as you think he is.

She's asking for PUBLIC ADVICE, which obviously means it became everyone's concern. Come on guys, we're addressing a social problem as well as the familial one and the two have everything to do with the advice we give.

Oh honestly, bitching at people by saying the same thing repeatedly is not helping anything either

Fae, she asked if she should let her daughter go out.


WTF? You are in NO position to say that. Even if you think so! In other words, you are saying that "this person" isn't a good mother. She asked for your advice not you silly critisism. sp?.

i think this is a big fake personally .
lots and lots of gaps and stuff in it .

i'm 15 and i cant stand to type " kewl " and all that stuff .

but eh , if youre the real deal
just let your daughter go out
trust her
and if you think shes breeching (sp?) yalls little trust majiggy
terminate the relationship

hell if i know .

sandra, i answered and added my concern and said that criticism comes along with advice most of the time.

Most of the time, but there are times when it isn't needed.

Whether it's needed is situational. In this case, since she used informal language, it was apparent to everyone that this is an informal situation where criticism is very much okay so long as it ties in to the subject. There's a lot of things she doesn't need, like advice from young folks who only know things from their own experience and not from their mother's or an older adult's.

Seriously, not everyone who has responded know what it's like to be a mother dealing with a teenage daughter. It may sound easy for a young person to say "just trust your daughter" because that's what these kids want from their own parents, but this is beyond trust between mother and child—it's trusting the young man who the mother knows nothing about aside that he's "kewl", among other factors. In my opinion, she doesn't need people telling her to "trust" her daughter everytime either, but I wasn't complaining about that [until now].

If a person is seeking advice from the public at large, he/she should be prepared for anything. I apologized before that I and others have upset her with our doubts about her age, but it's as much our rights to do so as it is her right to type the way she does.

But anyway, I guess now that enough people have expressed the same sentiments, any more "you're not really 30 yrs-old" responses would be spam since it's repeating what everyone else said.

Notice how this "arent" hasn't responded since last month. I'm just not buying the fact that this person is 30. Although in a few movies, like Closer and ... whatever that one was with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton and Keanu Reeves... yeah. They typed funny like that, but then again, those were just movies.

And how do we know this isn't some 45 year old guy sweating behind his mother's computer? Bleghhh.

Ok, I'm closing this. Yes, the whole typing issue was covered and people still want to bring it up.

Topic Closed.