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 Sep 5 2005, 09:28 PM
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Okay I ran a search and then looked through all the topics by hand and I don't think one like this has been started...please close it if I'm wrong.
I have a wonderful bf. We are so in love and mostly happy, but (and there's always a but) he's ready to do a lot more than I am. Or so he says. I really love him, but sometimes I still feel like such a kid. I'm not ready for sex. We're both turning 15 in January, and he feels that's old enough. I know he would never pressure me, and he hasn't - I just feel like I'm not giving him all he needs. I don't know what to do. I really don't want to do something I'm not ready for! 
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Sep 5 2005, 09:39 PM
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Just tell him you are not ready, if he loves you he should understand. Just because yuo don't complete him doesn't mean that you should do something you don't want. It's not always about him you know.
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Sep 5 2005, 09:42 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Sep 5 2005, 7:39 PM) Just tell him you are not ready, if he loves you he should understand. Just because yuo don't complete him doesn't mean that you should do something you don't want. It's not always about him you know.  agree.d you shouldnt feel like your not giiving him all he needs. if he loves you and you lvoe him & he has your love and affection. trust & caring. thats all he SHOULD need. |
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Sep 5 2005, 09:49 PM
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You should defiently tell him how you feel and tell him your not ready you have to do it when you feel ready or it just wont be right and you will most likely feel awkward after!!You cant do it cause you feel pressured you have to do it cause you want to,Sometimes things like this is planned out maybe plan it out and if he does not understand then I suggest you leave him cause all he probably wants is sex if he understands then Great but if he really loves you he wont get made and wait till your ready even if its forever.
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Sep 5 2005, 10:10 PM
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Well, just keep doing what your doing and you two will be fine. Guys are typically the ones that are ready to do the hardcore stuff sooner, we're horny bastards we know. Doesn't mean you gotta have sex with him, but you know, do what your doin..
P.S. What have you done anyway? |
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Sep 5 2005, 10:12 PM
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We've made out, and he's seen me in my bra. That's about it.
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Sep 5 2005, 10:16 PM
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^ Ah, then tell that foo to back off, there's plenty to do before sex. Plenty before you turn in the big V card.
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Sep 5 2005, 10:17 PM
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 lol. Okay, I will, thank you.
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Sep 5 2005, 10:26 PM
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*Delirious* Plenty...of...things...plenty of....things...
Oh yeah, no prob. |
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Sep 6 2005, 04:35 PM
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tell him NO! no guy, i repeat, NO GUY should EVER push you to "do it"
my first guy BEGGED to do it with me cuz he was 15 + he felt it was time (only 5 months in the relationship) and it was hard for me, but i insisted that we wait. he then broke up with me but im glad that i didn't lose it to him. =) |
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Sep 6 2005, 04:38 PM
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 I love you, I hate you, I can't live without you! Group: Member Posts: 51 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 219,526 |
like they said.....if he really loves you he wont push you....if he keeps pushing you...hes not worth it...and obviously doesnt love you
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Sep 6 2005, 05:12 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Sep 5 2005, 10:39 PM) Just tell him you are not ready, if he loves you he should understand. Just because yuo don't complete him doesn't mean that you should do something you don't want. It's not always about him you know. I agree. Just tell him how you're feeling, and that you're not ready, and if he really did love you, then he should understand and be fine with it. You shouldn't worry about not giving him what he needs. |
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