my friend just lost her virginity and wasnt she suppose to enjoy it? how come she said it hurts like CRAZY. she can barely walk. and her cousin lost it to she said it barley hurt at all! i just want to know hwo come it hurts for some girls and some it accatally feels good?

I'm told it hurts, but athletic girls build up this..(Crap I can't remember the word, H something) And they don't bleed or hurt as much.

But from what I hear, first timers do bleed.

yeah she said she started bleeding alot.

the hymen breaks. some girls feel none; others feel some or a lot. [if varies from girl to girl because we're unique.]

It's really different for different girls. Like..when you lose your virginity some skin is like...torn. So yeah it's going to hurt. But like some don't feel it as much as others. Some bleed and some don't. It really depends on the girl. But after the first time I think you enjoy it...I wouldn't know.

i would imagine if you'd already broken the hymen with a tampon it wouldn't hurt as much. however, breaking it with a tampon can't possibly be fun eitherr

But then wouldn't you be wearing tampons like waaayyy to big then..

Yah, one of my counselers at camp told us you can break it from lots of different things, like what you said, a tampon, or sports like horseback riding and such..
Her cousin might have already broken her hymen and that's why it didn't hurt her

it could be that the guys yea was too big or that he just wasnt doing it right.

i don't know, i can't get tampons to go in yet...

umm i dont think u can "build up" a hymen

the hymen is a light peace of skin,once u pop it its gone

urrr unless u recostruct it sergectly.(yes im aware i spelled it wrong)

hmm yeah, some girls have their hymen broken already from sports or dance or something or whatever else...thats why for them, it won't hurt so much.

is there a way to know if its broken? haha just curious.

Doctors inspection. But usually if your hymen breaks (without having intercourse) you will know because I hear it hurts

yhea and im assuming that sence its skin ur puntering it would have senceability so i think it woud hurt too

egnore this extra post i accedently double posted,sorry people

one would assume it feels good at some point, considering peoples' reactions to it

well yhea thats a given,i mean girls arnt gunna want to do it if it hurts,....well if it hurts too much

The first time hurts for a lot of girls. That is because they are really nervous and aren't fully turned on. Sex doesn't hurt if you are ready and revved up to go. It actually feels pretty good.

^ What everybody else said.
Also, if you don't use a lubricant [KY Jelly, lubricated condom] it hurts more.
And it varies from girl to girl, yadda yadda, some athletes may have ripped it already in an accident or something I've read.

my friemd said it didnt hurt and she didnt bleed. its diffrent for everyone. i thnk that it will hurt in the beggining but then the pain starts to go away.

Hey, I'm no expert on the female anatomy, I don't think it was hymen that I was thinking of, O well. Just get into athletics, from what I hear that's how you keep pain from comming (No Pun intended).

'comming' is actually 'coming.'

getting into athletics does not prevent pain. [horseback riding is the same] you're simply breaking the hymen w/o intercourse, and you probably won't feel pain since you're actually just stretching it. therefore, there will be no barrier. [you can still feel pain even if your hymen is already broken. it's from the guy's size.]

wow. how old is she? lol anyways. it hurts like crazy cause her hymen broke like what everyone else said.

It hurt me the first couple of times, because my partner was too rough.

well. if you play sports and stuff. it stretches out your hymen. and so thats why it doesnt hurt as much or it breaks. so it doesnt hurt at all. well im still a virgin so im kinda scared. haha. but its ok.