ok so my friend heather is about a month or two pregnant. and she keeps asking me what to do and i don't know what to tell her. the father says he wants her to keep it but she just turned 15 and she is such a pretty and smart girl and she has her whole life ahead of her. gosh she keeps asking me for advice and idk what to tell her because i've never been pregnant before so basically it all boils down to one question :
abortion, adoption, or keep it?

this is her btw:

my sister is 15 and pregnant but she's married...unfortunately. anyways, i think you should tell her what you told us about her being pretty, smart, and she has her whole life ahead. you should sit down with her and talk to her about it. make a chart of the pros and cons. tell her she has to make the decision alone. you also need to consider her parents reactions, etc. if she asks for your opinion, give it to her truthfully. you should tell her, just because her boyfriend wants her to keep it doesn't mean he's actually ready. im assuming he's young also. ask her is she ready, if she can't answer it at the top of her head, she's obviously not. i know my sister isn't at all. you can't skip your teen life and be a mother. you'll be a mother but when you get older, you want to be a teen again. in most cases, thats how it is.

just because she's pregnant doesnt mean that it will mess up her life. i'd keep it

She can have a very sucessful and happy life with a baby. I hate when people tell soon to be teenage mothers that their life is ruined because they have a baby on the way. While I dont support abortion at all, I do believe in a woman's right to choose. There is also the option of adoption that is less extreme. Utimately though you cant tell her what you think she should do because it her decision and I decision she alone with have to deal with for the rest of her life. You just need to be there to support in whatever decision she makes.

ask her "do you think you will be happy?"
does she want to start a family or finsih college and have a real job?

that's tuff for her and her family i jess but abortion i dont think it is the best thing
good luck to your firend

no i'm not saying it will RUIN her life i'm saying it will take up A LOT of her time and she might miss out on the joys of being a teenager

If her dad wants her to keep it then he is probably willing to do a lot of the raising so she can continue school. I'm very anti-abortion, so I'd encourage her to at least give birth to the baby and if she really feels that she cannot raise a child and is just not ready there are plenty of people who want to adopt, they all especially want babies.

She's going to have to go through a lot of obstacles, but atleast her family is supporting her. My parents wanted me to get an abortion and kicked me out when I refused.

Anyway, once she has her baby, it'll all be worth it. It's kind of like having a friend who is never going to leave your side. I don't regret having Geena.

Abort.

no!!! don't abort! ^
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do you really think that killing the baby is a good idea? i think that she should have the baby and then put it up for adoption. giving it to someone who wants one is the best idea in my opinion. :\

It's not a baby it's a fetus. Think being pregnant at such a young age, not being able to care for the baby yourself, and being just 15 isa good idea?

id get an abortion. mainly for the fact that id still be a teenager, and i wouldnt want to have the responsibility of taking care of a child. people make mistakes...and if she wants to have a future and live like a normal teenager then i think that's the best thing to do. the only thing im a ltitle on the edge of is that its 2 months old...and i mean if it was more like a week then id feel better about gettin an abortion.

Um, guys, you forget that I was 13 when I was pregnant. When you begin to have sex at such a young age, you're accepting the risk of being pregnant and the responsibilities.

Besides, don't let the baby suffer for your mistakes.

tell her to do what she feel is right

o_0... ur sister is pregnant and married at 15 o_0;;... that kinda creeps me out... well if ur friend wants to have a good life ahead of her, go have an abortion, if she wants a freakin baby then she should go on and TORTURE herself... well how did u she get pregnant anyway??? did she get like... raped or did she do it by choice???

i agree because she can do online classes and get help

NO NO...I didnt mean to direct my statement at what you were saying, I know you didnt mean it that way. I am just saying that having a baby that young doesnt totally count you out of the joys of being a teenager. I know alot..and believe me ALOT....of girls that have had kids as young as 13,14, 15,16 and some who cant handle it give their babies up for adoption, while the other half have become better people from having a baby. Most of the fear about having a baby is usually wiped away after they give birth. But of course that is not the case for everyone. If she chooses to abort then that should be her decision alone and nobody should meddle in that decision.

thats her mistake tell her to deal with it. She shouldnt be havin sex NE ways so let her deal with the consequences. unless she was raped or something.

i agree with u all the way!!! you took the words right out of my mouth. i wouldn't even consider abortion but that's just me, i wouldn't even want to deal with the guilt of killing my own child. there are so many other options...here is a lesson for all the young ladies out there including me!

Since her father knows, keep it..oterwise ..my frd got abortion..

you did not read carefully...i said THE father, THE BABY/FETUS'S FATHER her father could probably care less he left her, her sister, and their mom about 9 years ago.

well i'm 18 and have had 2 children and recently had a miscarriage..

i am roman-catholic and i am against abortion

putting the child up for adoption is something that is hard to do..she will live everyday of her life thinking about the child and whether or not it is in a good home, no matter what the adoption agency says..even if she meets the parents who adopt her child, she'll still wonder..she will wonder where her child is, what he or she looks like, if he or she will have a good education, etc. Not only that, but the child will someday or another, wonder why he or she was put up for adoption, he or she will think that they did something wrong or otherwise. I know this because I did put one of my children up for adoption and I was an adopted child.

If she keeps the child, yeah, she'll miss out on a lot of things she would have done if she didnt have a child. Of course it will be hard, whoever thinks having a child is easy is downright crazy! But at the same time, it will be the best thing that has ever happened to her. She wont be able to picture her life without her child. She will feel like she is important ((whether she feels that way right now or not)). I cant even explain the feeling really..having a child is just...amazing!

No one can tell her what she should do. Only she knows what she wants. Of course she can get the opinions of others, but like i said, only she knows what she wants. She is the only one who knows what is best for her and her life. No one knows herself better than her. She needs time to herself to think about life, the father, her parents, etc. I hope everything works out. Keep me posted =D If you or her have any questions, feel free to ask me.

Does her parents know? It's better if they do.
Neways, I agree with Tina bout putting up the baby for adoption.
It's all up to her, really. If she can cope with her normal life and still have a baby, she should keep it.

Personally anything but abortion is ok. I really don't think she should abort it since I find it wrong.