So I know this girl, I talk to her on my xanga at or near the end of every entry.
Well she's my best friend, we've had some really good times, almost went out once, but it didn't work out after a whole bunch of other people bombarded her after seeing us talking around. After that, she turned away from me and went out with this other guy who wasn't even in the picture at all. But we're still really close friends today.

I wont get into any of her personal issues, but they've played a very big role between us, I'll just say that.

It's not so bad, it's actually taught me a huge deal about why it's better to be a friend to someone instead of more. We have a kinda spiritual energy between us, kinda like we're soul mates, but just friends.

It's one of those things where a bad day is only a day when I don't get to see her for a second or at least hear her voice at least once.

Sometimes I still have that wanting to be with her. I think back and feel as if I was cheated out of showing her just how I feel. Now I can only express it through words and the way she works inside (or at least how I think she may work inside) is that when she's around her current b/f, she seems like sometimes she is far away from being the friend that she once was to me. It's only sometimes though. It used to be worse, but a few nights ago when her b/f was out of state to do things for the military for a few days, me and her spent the night a friends house (cuz she doesn't live at home, she lives with him), we connected so well, it felt so good, and normally she never cared to call me or even try to get in touch with me except for meeting me at this coffeehouse that i go to. But after those couple of days, I went back home, and she actually called me and wanted to talk! But that day her b/f came back. Afterwards she went back to the way she was. She'd come to this coffeehouse with him and stay for only a few minutes and then leave.

I can see it in her eyes that she still consideres me, but she's in such a complicated situation where she holds back. She's with him for security. She wants to merry him, but he doesn't want to yet.

I still feel that I don't need to try to win her, but I still have that wanting. We tell eachother that we love eachother, and in a sense, its only a friendly love. But we've talked over so many deep things, cried on each other time and time again and have had more indepth emotional moments between just us that we both know its alot more than friendly love. We love eachother in an indescribable way.

Well, I've not had an actual g/f in years, and this feel's like it's so close, but I just can't reach it. I think about her well-being so much. She asked me today if she should choose between either security or pure love, and seeing the situation that she's in (having no place to stay but at his house, I live with my mom and have no car and I'm already one too many for her place), I told her to stay with the security. But I see in her eyes that she still thinks about me. It's an intiment friendship if you know what I mean.

Anyway, this is most likely boring you completely out, so I'll just end it here.

Thoughts?

"When you love someone,
And you love them with your heart,
It never disappears
When you're apart.
And when you love someone
And you've done all you can do,
You set them free,
And if that love was true....
When you love someone
It will all come back to you"

quite insightful. thanks.

no matta wat tell her how u feel. no matter wats the situation but remba 2 think bout if ur willin 2 risk ur friendship n get in2 a relationship wit her n if shes happy let her be.. tell her how u feel but dun get her confused n miced up wit her feelings 4 u n ur feelins 4 him bcareful of ur heart n hers.. i can see ur a relly sweet guy u relly are but remba wat ur messin wit truss me ive been in tis situation 2 many times n its always end up bad 4 me .. keep in touch aim:babi3grl1502

aww.. that sounds exactly like me and my best friend.. well we werent best friends... i didnt think me and him would work out so i made him my best friend.. we share secrets, laughter, and tears... it felt nice being with him.. very comfortable.. but i wasnt ready for commitment and there were jus so many problems between us if we get together... and sigh.. i guess we'll stay as best friends..?

yea i agree that if its meant to be, it'll come bak to u

really nice replies. every one has greatly helped. I really think it is best to be best friends. maybe one day when its right we'll look at eachother and both know it.

yall have been extremely helpful to this. thank you very much.

if there are any more thoughts on it, it's always welcomed.

Awww...Thats so true... *sniff*...Somehow, that poem always reminds me of hair...(don't ask)

Well, have you ever tried calling her? instead of her just calling you? You should talk to her about this, how you don't want your relationship to fall apart, how she's drifting slowly away from you...(feels so poetic ) And then, let her be, she seems very happy with this new guy, and taking him away from her would be bad, right? And then she would be sad, and then you would be sad, and then, and then...*goes on and on*

I'm not much of an advice giver, so...er, good luck with your relationship

tell her how you feel... i noe it aint simple and she mite not take it in, but what the heck. her boifrend is quite a mofoic jerk and he dont deserve her. i think ur like obsessive of her, and im serious-- if she means that much to you, then you must mean much to her too. just give her a call first, get closer to her. dont wait for her to call... trust me. gurls dont like to call... haha so call her and yea... ^_^ one day, ask her <3 awww... i should write a fanfic on this !!!! AWWW!!!! i wana write a story noww!!!! thanks for the motivation!! hhahah

I think that you should seriously tell her how you feel because your love for her seems very genuine. A lot of girls I know only care about whether or not the guy can give them security, so they end up overlooking the fact if they actually like the guy. And if you're scared of getting hurt, remember: you only live once. Don't let her get away and best of luck to you!

the girl seems great and all but to go out with another guy after that...it's just a downer. if u guys were soulmates, u wud kno it since day one and u guys wudn't need to think wether or not u shud be together. soulmates wud never really think about liking someone else or going out with someone else. u wudn't be thinking of wether or not u shud go out with her or not. u wud kno.

this story is kinda like those soap operas.... one girl torn between two men.. who shall she choose? eh... sorry... i think you should just talk to her... if she doesnt like you the way you like her, well, thats life...

awww

WHAT. IS. WRONG. WITH. YOU.

I think you should wait for her.
But the thing is, maybe she just isn't spending so much time with you because it could tear her & her boyfriend apart?

Well, she is a girl. So I doubt she's never thought about like what if she was your girlfriend or something like that.

Are you guys drifting apart? Like you guys are best friends but have different lives? Or is it just the boyfriend that's stopping you?

THIS TOPIC IS MORE THAN 2 YEARS OLD!!!

Im sure shes dead by now

^Wow.

And Josh, correction, this would be over three years old. To prevent spam and because I'm pretty sure the topic starter won't be checking back for more advice, this will be closed.