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mandabear05
post Apr 15 2005, 05:21 PM
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I've been sleeping with this guy for like 4 months. All our relationship is just SEX! Thats all!

I have let Wayyyy to many emotions get involved and I started to care about him.. He ignores me until it's convienent for him and he's horny.

I want him so bad and it's driving me insane.. I cry all the time over him and have been horribley depressed. I can't tell him the truth.. or I mean... I want to but I don't know EXACTLY what to say.. I dont want to push him away and I dont want to be mean and make him mad..

Any advice would be wonderful.. Thanks.

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post Apr 15 2005, 05:25 PM
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If your relationship is only based off that...you should tell him you want more than that. If he doesn't go along with it; he isn't the one for you.

I also think that friends with benefits never works out.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 05:28 PM
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you have to tell him the truth and exactly how you feel, or you will feel miserable for a really long time. And the pain will take longer to heal. Here's what other people think about the friends with benefit situation.

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...954&hl=benefits
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 05:28 PM
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Honey, go to someone else, and get over this guy. If all he wants is sex, and you want something more, it's probably not gonna work out for you. Sure, you'll give him all the sex he wants, but he wont give you what you want. You need to find someone who will.

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post Apr 15 2005, 05:32 PM
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you need to break up with him because all he obviously wants is sex! mellow.gif why would want to be with someone who ignores you. y'all are like fcuk buddies. that's it. don't get with him.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 06:47 PM
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Ew, break up with him.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 06:50 PM
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Once feelings become involved in a friends with benefits relationship then it starts getting complicated. If he doesn't have these feelings for you (which it doesn't seem he has) then your going to end up getting hurt. Like you said he ignores you until it's convenient for him, like your just a booty call. _unsure.gif If I was you i'd break it off, and maybe find a guy who can satisfy you sexually and emotionally.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 06:52 PM
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Horny guys these days.. _dry.gif

Hun, hurry and dump him, he's probably just using you for sex.

Wait, he IGNORES you until he's horny? Seriously, hurry and dump him, he's no good for you. He's using you.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 06:57 PM
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While I'm not knocking FWBs, this seriously doesn't look like a Friend thing...just a PWB thing(P meaning people). The reason why you're Friends With Benefits is because you guys still hang out and have fun, just that you happen to have sex once in a while(lol). If he isn't being a friend to you, then end it. Now.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 07:10 PM
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he's definitely not worth your time.
in the end, the only one who'd get hurt is you...
and i'm sure you don't want that.
all he wants is sex from you, and it seems he's taking advantage of that.
it's hard to control your feelings, but trust me...
get over him, and you'll be grateful later.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 07:12 PM
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So, mandabear, do you get what everyone has said, over and over in this topic? Dump him, end it, however you say it: It's not good for you, so goodbye and goodnight.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 07:58 PM
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Why would you want to be with someone who just wants to use you for sex? Move on.... mellow.gif
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 08:04 PM
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having just sex and expecting no feelings to surface is just dumb. its impossible for 2 people to just have plain old sex without emotions getting in between. just tell him straight up how you feel. thats the only way to get past it. or solve anything.
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 08:23 PM
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you guys are in a relationship only because of sex. that just sounds dumb, i'm sorry.

get over it
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 08:27 PM
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Thats the trouble with having this kind of relationship. Sometimes its hard not to catch feelings. But if sex is all he wants and you continue to give it to him then it pretty easy for him to use you. So you have to make decision, do you continue having sex with this guy or leave this relationship for something better
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 10:27 PM
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I DONT MEAN TO BE MEAN BUT THATS REALLY DUMB.. HAVE SOME COMMON SENCE --- IF HE ONLY WITH YOU JUST TO MAKE LOVE, AND JUST TO GET HIS ATTENTION YOU HAVE TO GET HIM HORNY THATS JUST F*CKING STUPID... THERE MORE FISHES IN THE SEA --- MORE BOYS OUT THERE SO MOVE ON
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 10:59 PM
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well i guess i would go with the other people and say to just dump him and stop doing that...but i could c how its hard cuz if u like him then sometimes anything to be around him is better then nothing..but if u just keep doing it and dont say anything to him then it will just get worse...im in a situation kinda like this...
 
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post Apr 15 2005, 11:37 PM
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hey .. he's just a friend with benefits.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 12:30 AM
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QUOTE(lilangelgurlpnai @ Apr 15 2005, 9:37 PM)
hey .. he's just a friend with benefits.
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Thank you... This is what I'm trying to say.. Ive let to many emotions get involved.. I cant just dump him like that and tell him NO MORE SEX!!

As much as i really really want to and I want him to stop hurting me I just can't.. It's not that easy.. I lost my virgnity to this guy and for you guys who are sitting there saying that I'm being stupid for caring about him.. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND!! I want him to know I care about him....


but is it worth it? I just don't know anymore...... sad.gif
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 10:59 AM
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thats what you get for having a friends with benifits. im kind of in the same situation.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 12:10 PM
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QUOTE(blowpops69 @ Apr 16 2005, 8:59 AM)
thats what you get for having a friends with benifits. im kind of in the same situation.
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Ya... It really reallly sucks _unsure.gif
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 06:03 PM
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QUOTE(mandabear05 @ Apr 16 2005, 6:30 AM)
Thank you... This is what I'm trying to say.. Ive let to many emotions get involved.. I cant just dump him like that and tell him NO MORE SEX!!

As much as i really really want to and I want him to stop hurting me I just can't.. It's not that easy.. I lost my virgnity to this guy and for you guys who are sitting there saying that I'm being stupid for caring about him.. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND!! I want him to know I care about him....
but is it worth it? I just don't know anymore...... sad.gif
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If he ended up getting his sexual needs from someone else I bet he could easily say 'NO MORE SEX' to you because he has no emotional feelings for you. He comes to you when he wants to 'release his load'. Like you said he ignores you till its convenient for him. He's not worth your time! If it keeps going this way.. then your gonna get deeper feelings for him and in the end, you'll be more hurt than you would now.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 06:09 PM
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wow sounds like hes just useing you for sex i think you should just let him go and stop having sex with him if a guy doesnt care and cry over you then you shouldnt waste the time to do the same for him so let him hope you make a good choice good luck

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post Apr 17 2005, 12:58 AM
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QUOTE(XaZnX07 @ Apr 16 2005, 4:09 PM)
wow sounds like hes just useing you for sex i think you should just let him go and stop having sex with him if a guy doesnt care and cry over you then you shouldnt waste the time to do the same for him so let him hope you make a good choice good luck

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Thanks a lot. you and the person who posted about you I needed that... I think I know what I need to do now..

Thanks again I do feel better _smile.gif
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 01:20 AM
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The more you are with that guy, the more you are going to suffer after he is gone..I doubt your relationship with that person will last...
Good luck on making the decision..
 
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