do you think love can be so much more than just a romantic aspect?

like it can help you and ur gf/bf strive to such great heights (together)? even for the future. i dunno how else to put it. tell me if i need to be more specific..

cuz i believe it is.



yeah thats wat i meant. my bf and i have been together for 2years now in a long distant relationship visiting each other every 2-3months. through the time and distance we've been apart, we've only grown closer than ever rather than apart n that really means something.. we've both made such great impacts in each others lives from the begining n achieved so much.. we're in a very serious relationship and he loves me more than anything in the world.

however, recently he's gotten so terrified that he might've gotten in my way of a better future for me (its long & complicated) saying he's scared that he wont give me wat i deserve in the future.. n told me i should set him & our relationship aside until im done with college.. i went crazy, it was hard for him as it was for me. all i wanted was to get through all this with him. i knew we could do this cuz we've gone thru so much for the passed 2years.. he thought it would be for my best.

later we settled our issues and i reminded him of the dreams & goals we always had together & that wat we have will help us strive through it together as it has for the passed 2 years, why stop now? see where our love can take us even further.. why stop something thats not even damaged? our love is so extremely strong.. i dunno i hope im making sense. but yeah.. we're still together =.) thank god

i guess he got cold feet or somethin like that, but he's so relieved that i talked him into his senses cuz he had so much on his mind and was getting scared of the future getting near. it is a scarey thing..

so love/strong relationship can help me strive through our goals together right?
cuz i strongly believe it does..

If you mean helping each other striving for your goals in the future, then tes. Having a romantic relationship with someone, but also being their companion shows a strong relationship and with that they can help each other in the future.

Yes, it can be if you work on it and stuff.

I always thought love meant more than romance... for example I love my mom but not in a perverted way. If you only feel strongly about someone in a romantic way its not called love, that's be lust. I believe there's a distinct difference between the two.

yeah thats wat i meant. my bf and i have been together for 2years now in a long distant relationship visiting each other every 2-3months. through the time and distance we've been apart, we've only grown closer than ever rather than apart n that really means something.. we've both made such great impacts in each others lives from the begining n achieved so much.. we're in a very serious relationship and he loves me more than anything in the world.

however, recently he's gotten so terrified that he might've gotten in my way of a better future for me (its long & complicated) saying he's scared that he wont give me wat i deserve in the future.. n told me i should set him & our relationship aside until im done with college.. i went crazy, it was hard for him as it was for me. all i wanted was to get through all this with him. i knew we could do this cuz we've gone thru so much for the passed 2years.. he thought it would be for my best.

later we settled our issues and i reminded him of the dreams & goals we always had together & that wat we have will help us strive through it together as it has for the passed 2 years, why stop now? see where our love can take us even further.. why stop something thats not even damaged? our love is so extremely strong.. i dunno i hope im making sense.

but i guess he got cold feet or somethin like that, but he's so relieved that i talked him into his senses cuz he had so much on his mind and was getting scared of the future getting near.

so love/strong relationship can help me strive through our goals together right?
cuz i strongly believe it does..

when you love someone, you care for that person, you want whats the best for the person you love.

I truly think it does.

There are times where I truly want to give up on school, and there are times where Tony (my boyfriend's name) feels the same way too. But we help each other out and we push each other to do the work for school. And at the same time, he's even inspired me to choose pharmacy as my career goal. Back in 9th grade, 2 years ago, he wrote an essay and inspired me.

There's so many times where there's obstacles in the way of perfection and it makes me think that life isn't fair and I feel like dying... But then I realized that I'd miss Tony if I ever committed suicide. I also realized that in the future I can choose my life and that I can be with him in the future, despite all the things that have gone wrong in my life. I look forward to a future with him, he's the only right thing in my life. Everything always turns out bad, but he's the only thing that's kept me going... Without him, I don't know where I'd be.

I know that him and I joke to each other about breaking up.. like I would be like "I hate you. I break up with you!" And he would say "fine, I break up with you too!" lol Yea we're always joking about that..

But deep down, I'm scared for my life. I don't know what I'd do if we ever broke up. We've been together for over 2 years now and I can't imagine living my life without him. He's everything I'll ever want. Sure, sometimes he can irritate me by his laziness, but deep down he's my other half. I'm pretty lazy myself, but I'm his biggest fan. I love him to death and we're always supporting each other. I love him with all my heart and I'll do anything to keep our relationship going... He keeps me happy, optimistic, and helps me succeed.

that really touched me n made me cry.. i'm so relieved to know that someone has the same hopes as i do with someone they love n push through to get as far as they can for the future together.. i almost died 4 days ago trying to overdose myself when he told me wat he thot would be best for me.. i cant live without him, we've been through too much together. i'm so incredibly thankful to still be alive to find the strength to give him the strength he needed from me. and he realized that he can take care of me if he keeps trying, theres no point in stopping.. he was jus so scared for me. i jus needed to give him hope again cuz the future is scarey. everything seems settled now.. thank u for sharing that with me.

^ I'm glad that you and him worked it out... Sure there are times where I'm scared about what might happen in the future.. But talking it out is important. It's good that you didn't die because truly, I know deep down he would feel terrible. Please don't hurt yourself...

Everyone's scared of something. There's been so many times where I would break down and cry and be scared about what might happen.. About how things are going wrong in my life... And although sometimes it involves what my boyfriend might've said to me or maybe what happened in my family, but eventually he says sorry.

You two should make a promise.. a promise that in the future that you two would try to be together. And if you two ever do go on a "break," which I hope doesn't happen, remind him that you still love him and that you'll keep that promise alive. I promised to myself that I'd keep Tony and mine's relationship going... that I'd try to make things work, despite our different goals in life.

Your welcome :] I agree, it's nice to know that someone else is going through the same thing as me. There was a time where I went through a state of depression and a lot of things made me cry and things that my boyfriend said would easily irritate me, get me angry, then make me cry... But the fact that I got over that and that he's been so supportive of me made me realize how important he truly meant to me.

I'm sure that your boyfriend has changed your life in so many ways. This is significant because it's an element of true love... :]

Wow. You finally get it. Doi.

Love is not romantic. We just make it so.

I think love can help you strive to new heights. love can make you do things you would never have done.

i believe that love can help you achieve your goals because it inspires you and pushes you forward to do what you think that you can't. also, the other person helps you achieve those goals as well because they believe in you and encourage you. and with that encouragment, you push yourself to success.

Yes it could be, in a lot of ways. E.g. my friend's mum lets her date anyone she wants as long as she keep up with her grades. It can make you strive for something you couldn't do on your own because of the extra support you get from your loved one.

Though on the other side I believe in doing things yourself...however much support someone else gives you, the important thing still depends on yourself afterall.

I don't believe in love, and I don't think it exists, so I would never know. I got bored of the word "love" when people around kept going, "I love you!" to eachother. Then the next day, they broke up. >.> Sad really.

aw sorry you think that way =( its true though how people think that just because they're going out with someone it means they're immediately in love.. its hell more to it -.- i wish theyd grow up.. i guess our generation now is hella different. but hey i hope you find it one day =) im sure u will<3 hug*

People say "love" many times. It's actually becoming like a go phrase. Lol. Many people just say, "Luv ya" and not mean it. It agrovates (sp?) me. haha. But love has more to it then just a relationship; there must be trust in that relationship and um other stuff. lols. I never been in love so I wouldn't know.

ther are different forms of love..

agape, or friendly love
sexual love
religios love
family love..
the list goes on.

for every different relationship betwen two people on the earth, there is a different, unique, kind of love.

yeah i know =) sometimes it can be a combination of some.. wat im asking is can love help you accomplish things? can a serious relationship help you achieve ur goals if you really work hard together.. with each others' support.. its wat my bf have been doing for the passed 2 years n u have NO idea how much we've changed into better ppl n im so proud of that.. its not bad is it? u dont HAVE to go through it on ur own, i mean esp if u found love already, u cant help it.. know wat im saying?

i agree..
this post is so touching...

so true. relationships and love are something that the two people have that can be just oh so special but they must work together y'know? i can't explain but yeah...i'm glad to hear things are working out for you guys. long distance relationships must be difficult from what i've heard.

I use to believe that love was real.... that it truly exists out there....but to me...love is nothing more but an idea fabricated by our inner most desires for someone....we might think there is love...but frankly iono anymore...