virginity, what age? Options

[brian_deegan]

how do you know if your making the right desision by having sex with someone....i feel like shes the one for me but im only 15...and i want to make sure that i loose it to the right person...everyone says to wait till marrage but 50% of marrages end in devorce anyway so...yeah...

[*krnxswat*]

You should learn how to spell before you have sex.

[psychoticangel]

That's so weet of you It's a rarity to feel that. Question is though, decisions like when/with whom to have sex requires more than a feeling. Sex is good o.o I mean, it's exercise for one thing and well, at times it's a way to express emotions o.o But.. intimacy and romance could be expressed in many other ways too. (Not just by saying stuff o.o) For a 15 yr. old... don't you think it's too soon to even think of that? When I was fifteen (which wasn't very long ago, mind you ~_~) I had more stuff to think about o.o;; Like cars xD and other stuff not concerning sex o.o; Imma girl btw o.o; I think.. just to be practical, sex is a normal day-to-day thing nowadays. For more mature people, that is. I just really think 15 is too soon, and really, "feeling it" isn't reason enough. There's a possibility it's not even an emotion, maybe it's just your hormones talking. So maybe give it some time, and really think about it o.o

[*CEP*]

Why are you asking us?
You should ask her.
I mean, sure it'd be great to have sex with you, but you know, I don't swing that way.
haha

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[LQ_Darksoul]

I hate to be the bad influence here...But Sex is awesome..start having it as soon as you can...And don't stop till your wanker falls off. But be safe about it. If you're gunna have sex with this girly, make sure it's with her only, and that you're going to have a lasting relationship with lots of sex everyday....Or something like that... Bottomline- Have sex. Keep it to only one partner. Use protection or get her on the pill. Make sure she ain't a skanky whore like my ex.

[inn0centmarianne]

um, are you ready to take on big responsibility? what if she gets pregnant, think about all consequences possible, and stay safe, its pretty much up to you after that..

[conster]

i always thought its better to have sex after marriage

[k00alah]

there really isnt a way to know you're ready.. i mean dont expect you're ready to have sex coz you started growing hair down there.. you and a your girl should definitely talk about it first.. have a deep conversation about it and asked each other questions.. it isnt that bad actually..

[SeoulJah4God]

Sex after marriage.... Yea go to a teen and say DONT DATE TILL UR MARRIED. Anyways thats totally up to you. Im to busy worshippin God to be worried about anything yet. I jus go around making every1 feel better

[*jooleeah*]

Don't ya think 15 is too young? maybe like...i dunno..when you're 17 or something...that's only two years, right?

[alinamalina14]

iuno, i think 15 is 2 young, and even if it were like 21 watever, my point is i think sex after marriage is better and safer, but we cant tell u or force u wat 2 do, gotta make a good choice, its a big one in my opinion

[galilea]

You are only fifteen years old. No adays condoms can't really control stds and pregnancy-it's not 100% safe.

If you're gunna have sex with this girly, make sure it's with her only, and that you're going to have a lasting relationship with lots of sex everyday

Come on, you are only fifteen, you will have plenty of people that you will be interested in afterwards, she is not going to be the one for you all your life, as hard as that sounds. And when you do break up it will be twice as painful. Trust me, it's not as simple as this guy thinks it is. Start having sex when you are fifteen and you will get bored from it pretty soon, buddy.


Besides...think of the emotional outcomes as well. Sex at this age can only lead to being unstable emotionally because you are so young and not mature enough to handle the concept. If you really cared about your girlfriend then I would advise you not to pressure her into something like that...it's enough being fifteen years old-you have other problems in life (like all other teenagers), don't make more for yourself.

...unless she is pressuring you, that is...

[LQ_Darksoul]

I started when I was 14..I'm still disease free....And I've only had 4 partners total...I'm not bored...I still enjoy sex as much as I did before...

[galilea]

well, you are one of the few people that I have heard of.

I guess it depends on the person, but I only want to have that kind of relationship with one person in my life. If you still feel fine about it then that's good, but I considor it as something sacred and meaningful and powerful enough to actually hurt people when abused. I know I wouldn't feel fine, and I'm not going to reccomend it for anyone to take that risk. Sure sex is good, but there are other good things in life without having to take risks.

Personally, I'm glad that you don't have any STDs or gotten anyone pregnant. You are one of the lucky ones.

[LQ_Darksoul]

well, you are one of the few people that I have heard of.

I guess it depends on the person, but I only want to have that kind of relationship with one person in my life. If you still feel fine about it then that's good, but I considor it as something sacred and meaningful and powerful enough to actually hurt people when abused. I know I wouldn't feel fine, and I'm not going to reccomend it for anyone to take that risk. Sure sex is good, but there are other good things in life without having to take risks.

Personally, I'm glad that you don't have any STDs or gotten anyone pregnant. You are one of the lucky ones.

Each time i thought I was with "the one" and i thought I was in love. I was ready as many others have been at my age so I did it. Now I've had many "ones" and I've realized that each person is different and you can love someone just as much as another yet have the love be completely different each time. I personally don't think sex is that meaningful...It's more like a release of all the aggresions I have to everyone else. And it IS AND ALWAYS SHOULD be fun...if it ain't fun...Then you ain't doin it right. As far as risks go...Sure, it is a risk, but most things in life that are worth doing have a risk...And I'm ready to take responsibilty for anything I do, thats just part of life. Risk is part of life..It's the part that makes things interesting.

[galilea]

It makes things interesting until you lose.

And sex is meaningful. It's intimate and it consists of giving a part of yourself to someone else. With too many people...you will have nothing to give any longer.

That's what I believe in, but I'm not objecting to what you have to say when it concerns being meaningful or not. That is your own decision.

However I do think that you are wrong by implying that it is safe, because it isn't. And this risk isn't worth taking. Maybe to you it is, but not to me.
There are certain necessary risks in life that one can take that can actually turn out to benefit you in the future, but as far as that goes, I don't see the benefit.

[cutielilsuga]

    well keep it or lose it..everyone makes choices for themselves, so if they choose either one that up to them. But some people don't understand the meaning of having sex...but oh wells can't help them.[COLOR=blue]

[COLOR=red]It's like you think that person is the "one" and then you come to find out that that person isn't the one. And you come to realize it after you've did it with them and usually what happens next is that they people together end up not being together no more in life....So keeping it or losing it doesn't matter...people make there own decisions

[rushx]

if u luv her, feelings won't change right? then y have sex? i mean, 15 is YOUNG.. i noe this is a bad thot, but wat if it doesn't work out in the long run for the rest of ur life? do u really want to have the thot that u had sex, which to me is sacred, w/ sumone else be on ur mind always when u have a diff gf? if ur scared to tell people about it, then it's prob not the right thing to do

how do i noe? i've had sumone very close to me, younger than me, lose her virginity, i hated the f*ggot that left her, cuz to me once u have sex, ur permanently bonded to that person

[xquizit]

if you're having doubts... then you're not ready. simple as that.

[iTzJoEzLaDiEe]

i lost my v when i was 16, 15 to me seems really young but my bf and i werent like living in the same area at the time but if we were i think i would have lost my v at 14.... so.. i dunno.. i mean there isnt just one person for you, love chooses you you dont choose it, so honestly i think its young but im one to talk, if you feel in your heart and your soul its the right thing go for it. if not then no hurt in wait, besides you should consider the consequences and you only do it for the first time well once.. =) im sure youll make the right choice

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

wow this is a good topic. well for me im still a virgin at the age of 19 and im trying to keep it that way. since i was a little girl ive always said that id save it till marriage. it was always my choice because of my faith. but i dont have sex also because im not responsible enough to handle the consequences that could come along with it.
but i think ppl who do decide to have sex just somehow know. i know thats such a vague sentence but it cant get any less vague than that. lOL

jackiep

[*AngelicEyz00*]

I dunno. It's you're decision if you wanna go through with it or not. Yours and hers only. So do whatever you think is right. If you want to, then go for it, if not, then don't. You should really take into consideration your feelings for her, the length of the relationship, and the consequences that follow, and all the responsibilities you have while you're "active"...lol... like protection and stuff

[COLDasICE]

I think you're a little too young to think about those kind of stuff but I mean if you're having your doubts about it then are you really ready to do those kind of things? If worse comes to worse like what if you find out she's not the one? What would you say to your next gf? I mean you can't lie right.. So I think you should take your time in life because you have a whole life to get that serious. Kissing isnt that bad is it?? So why take it to the next level so fast?? Just take your time and talk.. Like what K-Ci and Jojo's song from a few years bad "Dont rush"..

[whomps]

is she pressuring you to have sex with her or something ._. 15 is a young age to have sex.

but if you're planning on already doing it, then all i can say is

use protection

[b3atr3d]

ppl who do decide to have sex just somehow know.

Yeap, that's true.

it's kinda something you try not to plan, but when u find the right person.. u just click. if ur really happy and ur both prepared to take it to the next level (safely) then do it. hopefully, it'll make ur relationship more enjoyable.. and try not to think of it as a burden sometimes.. it's fun, really. whatever you decide, just make sure it's the right choice.. sex changes you. you might not be able to tell at first.. but realization will hit you.. hopefully in a good way. just try not to doubt it and talk to you girl..