I have never felt this way.., ..towards a guy Options

[seremela_culnamo]

To the readers,

If you're busy right now, I suggest coming back later & I will be glad to hear what you will have to say. BUT if you have nothing better to do & want to hear about my guy problems, sit back, take over your shoes [or socks] with a nice cool Nestea in hand =]

Anyway, every girl has guy problems. But have you ever felt completely different towards a certain guy? I sure do. It's probably due to the fact that for once, unlike all my previous crushes, I actually try to get to know him by talking to him. Not having my friends tell me about his personality instead. Then a get a fleating feeling each time he actually says something back. It's just that I don't expect him to do so, since almost the entire semester has went by, and recently, that's when we started talking to one another. Actually, it was me who started talking first.

I try to not make things obvious. Like every once in awhile, I would pretend to be busy with or looking for something. I hope that makes it less obvious, since whenever we talk, any eye contact would just..stone me or soemthing. So I just look away quickly.

I seriously don't know what's going on. We are classmates, but I want to be a friend of his first. But whenever we talk, we just avoid looking at one another. Well, that's usually me. Whereas he would do that at times. What really bothers me is I don't know if we would even be classified as "friends". At times, when I talk or say something, he would go completely silent and bend his head down. That really confuses me. But whenever I'm not talking to him or looking in another direction, I could sometimes feel his eyes are on me or something. But when I turn around, it seems as though he was just starring blankly at the blackboard. I don't know. I haven't caught him yet.

Anyway, today I dressed up in a totally different wardrobe. I usually wear dark coloured clothing. Usually black. Looks like something that I just pick out of my closet, and whatever I see first, I will throw it on. What I wore today even surprised my friends: a tank-top and a light coloured dress with flowers [totally not me]. I don't even know why. I just felt like it today and probably because I wanted to see some bright colours, after my big depression yesterday [not to do with him..really]. But yea. So this what happens in class:

Like every Friday when it's a good weather, it has became a tradition for students to skip. I felt a bit down because he wasn't there for the first 5 minutes, so I already assumed that he wouldn't be there today. Then all of a sudden, I heard my friend whispering something [Go away!] I turned around and it was him. He glanced at me, noticed that I was starring at him, and quickly looks away. Next thing I knew, he comes in and sits diagonally across from me. I don't know what's going on.

Sometimes I feel like he wants to become friends. But at other times, it feels like he doesn't even want to know me or something.

Any advice or what may be going on? My friends always try to help and all. But I don't want to get advice from them because they would say stuff that might now be true. Just as long as it encourages me and gets my hopes up. So I'm asking people online now, to take things in from a different point of view. I want a more likely realistic truth, and not a blended truth.

- elementopia

[angelrevelation]

hmm have you tried to take a more personal approach? like umm... get his number or sn. i think you should just keep on trying to talk to him, and hopefully you'll become closer. but it doesnt seem like he likes you, at this point at least (you said you wanted truth so...)

but i had sort of a similar situation. i wore a skirt on thursday to school (which i never do) and it's like one of my favorites but anyways... everyone said i looked really cute, and my crush was staring *faints*

[ch33sylici0us]

shouldnt this be in relationships?

[dragyn]

Simple.

Ask for his screenname, or e-mail. He might feel uncomfortable giving you his phone number, since it doesn't seem like you know eachother incredibly well, but almost no one refuses a request for a screenname. Also, try to be mellow about it. There's really no point in being nervous, it's just a different way of talking to him. Just say "Hey, can I have your screenname?"

Talk to him online whenever you can catch him (maybe not always if he's on all the time) and when you feel comfortable with it, ask for his phone number.

[Shattered_Hope]

At this point....I have no idea if he likes you or not...but it's more likely not...sorry if this saddens you...or anything...but it looks like he doesn't know much about you to like you anyway....just try to talk to him more by asking him for his AIM screenname or just talk to him any time at all before school or during passing period. Then...after a while and you two have become more acquainted then I guess you can drop more obvious hints that you like him or just tell him your feelings if you get the feeling that he does feel something towards you.

[demomode]

well i think he will have a thing for you if he talks back like consistantly when u start a convo, and other ppl said this, get his sn or something and talk more, get closer ya know =]

[sweetest-emotion]

hmm kinda confusing, but i think that there could be sumthing there. if you feel like he's lookin at you but then u've never caught him, then i dunno maybe he likes u too, since u say that u always look away once he looks at you. but if you do have these feelings for him, then i guess just lay it out there that you like him, otherwise it'll be this cray banter forever. just lay it out, or just make the connection between u and him more intimate, like nice walks, or a nice convo (and look at each other while u're at it, lol). just tell him, or act on these feelings, otherwise it'll just go nowhere.

[SnowSlasher]

quick and simple, we have a few people here like you in similar ways...

he wants you, take your chance while you still got it. If you like him back, then try to keep yourself in a position to get to know him or ask him on a date.

Its a classic case of "OMG, i think im falling in love! ROFL" like helga from the show "Hey Arnold" without the bitchyness

[aera]

the first thing i noticed about your post is that your typing is perfect.

he seems to like you, as a friend at least. ask him forhis screenname and start talking to him more. i dont think he likes you that way yet, but if you two hang out more, then he might start liking you.

[Nicolatofu]

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[..:loveee.NuTTii]

I've got something like your situation going on......but he/we can't stop joking around....and we're friends. Everytime I talk to him I just want to go, "I love you" and go crazy. It kills me to hold back.
.......
But back to you
Really, I can't tell if he likes you or not. To get to know him IM him once in a while. Not everytime he's online though-it can get annoying.

[xlaydee_v]

i can't really tell. but definitely start to get to know him more. i guess that's how the guy i like started liking me before..i guess. when we started to talk more and got to know each other.. but im not sure if he still does.. i <3 him so much

[EmmalieV]

Well , talking to him doesnt hurt , if he smiles , smile backs. If he stares , stare back then look away. Strike up a convo.


Maybe he likes you.

[enyceXaddiction]

i can't really tell. but definitely start to get to know him more. i guess that's how the guy i like started liking me before..i guess. when we started to talk more and got to know each other.. but im not sure if he still does..    i <3 him so much 

agreed

[mistaken_identit...]

Hmmmm. Sounds like my situation some time ago. You just needa start making a conversation...well I hope you don't get nervous to. I had the same thing ago with this guy and he ended up flirting with me all the time but he said he doesn't like me. But never give up on the oppurtunity to talk to him and just, be friendly! Everyone loves a friendly girl I'm sure he does.

[jue]

ehh; i SORT OF agre with the oher people on getting his screenname. But the thing is; some people act differently online then they do in person. hen yu get his screenname and start liking him more; or he starts liking you more. And it comes to the point where yu two are liek going out, then it would be like liking him for being him as an online person. So like a online date.


i suggest you just tell him straight up; well give it a feww days or weeks and then tell him. Like give him some hints and such. When yu think the time has come just tell him, Maybe he'll react differently and wont try to avoid yu anymore.