Love, are teenagers capable of it? Options

[sadolakced acid]

of course, those of you who have gf/bf probably say yes...

however; think a second... it it really love? can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love?

would you die if your bf/gf died? like in romeo and juliet, an 'example' of teenaged love?

and also, is it ok to say 'i love you' if all you really feel is like, lust,infatuation, or fondness?

[WhiteLotus*]

Me and my friend Adam were actually talking about this the other day.

He said that teenagers believe that they're in love because their sex drives and raging hormones are making them believe that they are. It helped me quesiton to whether I was really in love with my boyfriend or not.

I personally don't like it when all these young teenagers say," Oh, I love him soo much!" That's B.S, when I know they're going to break up soon.

I believe that you only fall in love once, so in my world, it's nearly impossible to say that to all the 823482397583897486438 boyfriends teenagers can have nowadays.

[ichiban]

Well of course it's possible for teenagers to actually be in love ... they just often confuse it with infatuation.

but all that crap in their xangas and profiles saying I LOVE HER/HIM FOREVER! WE'LL BE TOGETHER ALWAYS! and they break up a month later ... hahahha how funny ..

[SimplicityGirl]

Of course teenagers can feel love...but there's different degrees of love

I personally don't think that the love that teens feel is the same love as two older experienced adults feel. Most of the time when they think they're in love, it's usually lust and infactuation; I know that from experience. I thought I loved my ex; I mean, I had this really strong attraction towards him, but it only turned out that I was just lusting after him.

[misoshiru]

i believe that teens can feel love. i mean, as you said, "can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love?" if teens cannot feel love, then they wouldn't be able to feel love either after they've become adults. i mean, we all love at a point in life, then why can't a teen feel love?

[tinababy143]

well i think love is a strong feeling that you have never felt for anyone before..so yes..i think teenagers can love as much as a teenager can..maybe they cant be in love like 50 year old couples are in love..but i definetely think they can be in love..if that makes sense =/

[Rikkiismyname]

Well I guess it is possible as both myself, mand two of myfreinds have boyfriends and my friend Meghan claims to be in love with her boyfriend but i'm not so sure about the other one. Yes love for teens is possible but it is quite commonly mistaken for a large amount of liking or lust.

[mistaken_identit...]

I always thought the kinda of love teenagers have for each other is very shallow. I don't know, maybe that's what I think about my friends dating but it's a feeling I get when I see them dating guys for the sake of showing off or something like that. To me, it seems more like a crush than really 'loving' the person. People these days use the word 'love' too easily...even when it's probably only a crush or fondness of a person. Oh well that's how I think anyway.

But then I think it is possible for teens to really love someone... though I think people change so much during adolecent...I think it's hard for them to commit to one person for a long time.

[_sarcastic_]

teenagers are able to feel like, just a different kind of love adults feel.

[silver-rain]

Yes, I believe teenagers are capable of feeling love. Some mistake lust or infatuation for love, but then there are some that are truly in love. I do believe that I am in love with my boyfriend, and hope that we'll be together forever. And, if my boyfriend did die, I know that it would be so devastating and I wouldn't know what to do with myself because he means so much to me.

[dancingkait]

me and my friends were talking about this a little while ago too. i think teenagers are capable of falling in love but very often they confuse love with infatuation and lust. for me, love is such a strong word and i think its crazy when after like 2 months couples say "i love you forever!". i dont understand those kids. i dont want to abuse and overuse the word so that when i actually do fall in love the word will still have that same strong meaning.

[Rachel]

well i am in a relationship right now but i don't really think teenagers know what real/true love is.

i hate when people have been dating for a week and they are all like oMg i LYkE looVe yoU tOoo mUch BAbbyE. also, it took me a good while to say i love you back to my current boyfriend.

personally, i think i may have been in love with a past relationship/still have those feelings for him but only time will tell. i don't think many teenagers grasp love. they think its just like a way to say that you really like someone and you want to bang them, but it means soo much more.

the phrase i love you is thrown around waaay to easily in todays world so it is really like losing its meaning.

[WrathOfOnigo]

Teenagers can love. But often it is just a misleading feeling and they just thought they were. Take once highschool sweethearts, they were teenagers at one time and claimed they "love" eachother. Then obviously that love they claimed they had really was there if they still love eachother when they're older.

[--x who0ps]

most teenagers say they can.
i believe they can, but the teenagers that say it these days, cant.
i think their "i love you`s" are hollow words.
they jst say it cause it shows that they like each other.
likei had this friend who was with this girl & they were together for like 3 months. they always said " i love you " & "we`ll be together till forever" & " we were soulmates" or wtevr. infact, this girl said all of that to my friend the day before she broke up with him. & actually, she didnt even have a reason to break up with him. now think. is it possible to say that & actually mean it & then jst stop feeling that way the next day? no. its not possible. & i strongly think most teenage couples are that way. you hear them saying "oh i love you forever & ever till eternity" but then break up the nxt day. how meaningful was that?
so unless they can actually prove their love, it means nothing.

[l_baybeexgrl_l]

i guess teens say "i love you" because it shows how much they care for one another. doesn't mean.. Oh I love you, lets spend our lives together.. *break up*

[mouse_3k]

Yes I think teens can be in love. They just have to open their eyes and realize it. I am single so yah...

I already went through my first real love so I believe us teens can be in true love.

And with my first love, yes I would have died if he died. I would kill myself still if it ment to keep him alive. Even though he broke up w/ me, I still care for him. He broke up w/ me about half a year ago. A month ago, I had a dream he died and I woke up crying.

Yes, I was in love and I believe teens can fall in love.

[Just_Dream]

But what you posted, I'm guessing that you think teenage love is different from.. adult love? How can we possibly pinpoint exactly what separates teenage love and adult love?

Maybe I have different views because I consider myself to be IN LOVE. But I might never truly know if what I feel is love. But whatever I have with my significant other right now seems the closest thing to love that I've ever felt.. It's stronger than the "love" I feel for my family, amazingly. It's true that at times it seems like infatuation/lust/fondness, but I'm ready to call what I feel to be "love".

But who truly is in love? How do you know that adults aren't just infatuated? There's no real way to truly define love, even if the dictionary gives us a definition for it... For everyone it's different. It just depends if we're all willing to admit that it is love, to call it love, etc.

I have my first love now.. and my love for him is still going strong Although, usually I believe that love comes both ways--from each person in the relationship, I mean--but, at times, I feel like I'm on my own about love... As if my boyfriend might not truly love me as I thought he did. Sometimes I wonder about that.. And it makes me feel sick when I think about it. :/

[swe3ttemptasian]

anybody is capable of being in love

[dani41790]

i think they would be able to feel love if they have matured alot.

[gaby]

i believe that teens can feel love.  i mean, as you said, "can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love?"  if teens cannot feel love, then they wouldn't be able to feel love either after they've become adults.  i mean, we all love at a point in life, then why can't a teen feel love?

I totally agree with that. Teenagers are capable of it. You have to look at who the person is. I mean, if they are really immature and date around a lot and claim to love every boyfriend they have, then you must know that they aren't in love. However, if the person if mature and have been with the person for a while and didn't say it the first week, then it must be true love. I am in love right now. I know it's not infatuation or lust. I don't know what I would do without my boyfriend and I everytime I picture the future, he is there.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I'd say any age is capable of being in love...you can't say that it's childish love...if adult love was soOo strong why is divorce the highest it's ever been in the century that it ever has been...

[y0urelectrikk]

I thinks its possible. Like in the movie.. The Notebook!! Gosh I love that movie. Yea i know its only a movie but it could happen.

[Chii]

i think it's rare for a teenager to seriously be in love. most don't know what the f*ck is going on or when you need to just get out of the relationship. most girls i see stay in an abusive relationship just for the hell of it, just to keep their boyfriend, that's not love, that's living a lie. i also hate it when people are like "happp one week baby, i love you so much <3333" it's ridiculous.

say it when you mean it...my boyfriend was the first to tell me he loved me, before we went out i'd tell him i loved him as a friend, i needed to adjust and i told him i'd tell him when i really felt it

[demolished]

No, i woundnt died if i had one .. and it depends how teen use the word " i love you " .. they usually broke up all the time .. espcially when they have xanga, they would talk about their lover.

[lilliannnn]

of course, those of you who have gf/bf probably say yes... 

however;  think a second...  it it really love?  can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love? 

would you die if your bf/gf died?  like in romeo and juliet, an 'example' of teenaged love?

and also, is it ok to say 'i love you' if all you really feel is like, lust,infatuation, or fondness?

1. i have a boyfriend.. and i hate to say it but i'm no where close to being "in love" with him.

2. but i have been in love. so yes, i think teengers (anyone really) can be capable of falling in love.