Abusive Boyfriends Options

[iheartjohn]

Okay, I have this older boyfriend who's in the military (he's about 6'3, musuclar) and lately he's been getting really violent. He'll have these odd anger outbursts and recently, we got into a huge fight and he pushed me down a flight of stairs. I broke my arm.

He's had a past of violent behavior when he was 16 or 17 (he's in his early 20s now) and he's taking it out on me.

This is my longest relationship ever (about 3 years) and I think I love him. Atleast I thought I did. I really don't want to end it, but my parents are getting suspicious of my injuries. I managed to tell them that I tripped down the stairs in my highschool.

But when he punched me in my face, I had a bruise on my cheek, my parents didn't believe me when I insisted I got hit with a soccer ball during PE.

But he says he loves me and he gets so upset after all the fighting stops. I'm just really confused.

So what do I do? I really don't want to end it, but I feel that I have no choice...

[_sarcastic_]

i think you should end it, i mean you should before you get hurt any further :S

[miss_asian]

i think u should before u get beat up really badly 1 day...

[inthemudhole]

End it.
You broke your arm?
Wow.
It could get ugly if you don't end it quickly.

[angel-roh]

well if you dont want to get beaten by your boyfriend, you should stop dating him and find someone safer than getting beaten' by your boyfriend -_-;; or maybe he's up to something like he's really mad and stuff. maybe he does really love you a lot but theres something in his mind that he wants to stop everything. so you should talk to him about it. ask him what's wrong and also listen to every words what he saying so he wont think you're just not listening to him. guys dont like girls when they dont listen to them.. well yeah of course us, girls dont like when our boyfriends dont listen to what we say and stuff. so yeah have all your ears to him. good LUCK!

[bigpoppaproppy]

he's a piece of sh*t excuse for a human being and deserves to be arested for felony assault.

you should leave him, and shoulda filed police charges

hes a disgrace to his family name, you and the military

[*x____duckii*]

Talk to him. If he continues, end it (unless you wanna lose a leg.)

[pikimoo]

He's not like really crazy in love with you, is he? Because that often turns out bad with violence and breakups. Don't need him threatening your life to get back together with him or anything.

It's happened twice. Remember: three strikes, he's out. Throw his ass in jail if it continues.

Or fight back.

[Nicolatofu]

Maybe it was only a broken arm this time, but trust me it'll get worse. I lived in an abusive home for 10 years, and my mom's relationship started the same way, with smaller things like that. She was about 20 when she started dating him. Then he finally got put in jail, where he belongs. Don't let it go any farther.

[mouse_3k]

So what do I do? I really don't want to end it, but I feel that I have no choice...

u just answered ur own question buddy. get the hell outta that relationship, he is a fruitnugget and dont deserve you. run the jinx away from that devil

[aznhunnie6o1]

well.. this is a toughfy cause u think you love him..

but i think you should end it cause he mite rape you or something... or talk to him about it online so he cant physically hurt you...

well good luck with everything..

[yummy_delight]

you should definitely end it. i don't see why you didn't stop seeing him after the first incident. if a guy EVER hits you, he is not worth your time. even if he SAYS he's sorry or that he loves you, he WILL hit you again if you don't stop dating him. i know, it will be hard since you love him and everything. but if he REALLY loved you, he wouldn't have hit you more than once, if at all.

get out now.

[iheartjohn]

but i think you should end it cause he mite rape you or something

he already has....but he says its okay since i already did it voluntarily before...

[yummy_delight]

eleeza,Nov 29 2004, 8:35 PM] he already has....but he says its okay since i already did it voluntarily before...

HE said it was ok? it's not. sorry honey, but to me, he sounds like an arse hole.

[EyeOfTheTiger5]

Raped and beaten up, get out of there! If he has decent friends, tell them. Tell the police. Dump him.

[shortiiex]

you really do have no choice.....but becareful when you end your realtionship...he might beat you up so bring backup people and also he seems like he will stalk you so be very carfeul...i'm sure he knows how to use a gun since he is on the miltary

[whywasisostupid]

break up with him now. and request for the mafia to watch ur back

[*jooleeah*]

holy crap....he's beaten you AND raped you? and you let him do that? i'd say end it. i know it's hard cause you love him and all...but really, think about it. would you want to live with an abusive boyfriend for the rest of your life? if you really don't want to end it, then talk to him about it. if he choses to ignore what you say and say " it's okay" then just dump him right there. if he really loved YOU then he wouldn't be doing these things. be careful and be safe x3 good luck! oh and btw, once you dump him...make sure you have people by your side protecting you =X cause he might hurt you there too, and that's definetely what you don't want.

[jecissa]

You have grown attached to him, and it is hard for you to tell yourself that you need to end things with him. I think that deep down you know what to do. You know what is best for you. Sure, he may act like he feels sorry after he hurts you... but he he obviously doesn't feel sorry enough to stop doing it. You can't expect it to just end one day, because odds are it won't. You deserve a guy who will respect you!!


I love you!

-Jessica

[Looow]

is this a joke? How can you take this? I know you love him & everything but is it worth it. End it before it gets worse

[LiLaZnGirL122]

uhh i noe u love him but break up with him hes not very nice and how is he going to treat u wen u guys get older and wen u take the hits?? call da police or somthing and or jus break up wit him or ask him Y!!! Y ARE U HITING ME??

[aznangel4eva]

it mite be possible that he loves you do, n' if he does you don't wanna lose him right? but, you should make him get help...n' if he doesn't...then he rilly doesn't deserve you...you deserve better

[kellyannie]

if he really loved you, he wouldn't abuse you.. or at least he would try to get some help

[bigpoppaproppy]

it mite be possible that he loves you do, n' if he does you don't wanna lose him right? but, you should make him get help...n' if he doesn't...then he rilly doesn't deserve you...you deserve better

you dont rape and beat someone you "love"

giving him the CHANCE to change is too much

hes an animal and needs jail time and to be DIShonorably discharged from military duty

[iheartjohn]

I'm still kind of confused. Every time he hits me, and I begin to cry, he puts his head in his hands and gets all depressed and sad. I don't know if it's an act or what??