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 May 13 2007, 07:55 PM
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how do you get over someone when you fell in love with with them and about a week ago they told you they had a girl on the side the whole entire time and still has that same girlfriend now but still tells you that he loves you and your amazing and your beautiful and everything else even through your broken up?
&& also no one supports you in it. your mom thinks your a whore because your doing stuff with him. your brother and sister and friends tell you to not bother with him |
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May 13 2007, 08:02 PM
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getting over someone is very tough,
but you need to be a fighter.. i suggest just living life like theres no tomorrow. good luck! |
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May 13 2007, 09:32 PM
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Kind of sounds like my situation without the girl on the side.
My older brother told me to just completely cut the person out of your life and to make him nothing. Just don't talk to him at all, don't acknowledge him, and keep up with that until you 'forgot,' and to only start talking to him again when you could be around him and not have your heart act up anymore. Which personally, I'm finding rather difficult because I don't want to make my ex "nothing." Good luck. |
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May 13 2007, 09:47 PM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
QUOTE(pixiedust! @ May 13 2007, 7:32 PM)  Kind of sounds like my situation without the girl on the side. My older brother told me to just completely cut the person out of your life and to make him nothing. Just don't talk to him at all, don't acknowledge him, and keep up with that until you 'forgot,' and to only start talking to him again when you could be around him and not have your heart act up anymore. Which personally, I'm finding rather difficult because I don't want to make my ex "nothing." Good luck. I agree. It may be extremely hard and heart-wrenching but this guy has lied to you for so long. If he really "loves" you, why is he still with that girlfriend? Have you tried talking to him about it? If it's too hard to bring up, you can even write him a letter. It really does seem like a tough situation. If he doesn't treat you like he loves you, then maybe he isn't worth your time. Like I said before, try talking to him about it.I hope everything works out. |
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May 13 2007, 11:51 PM
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 Beauty in the Breakdown Group: Member Posts: 256 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 487,917 |
I had the same problem. I had the same exact boyfriend for five years...convinced me he was in love with me. Dont fall for this crap...get out while you can. Only time will heal that as corny and stupid as it sounds...its true. Been there and done that...just let go. Distance yourself and move on.
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May 14 2007, 12:08 AM
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you dont.
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May 14 2007, 01:14 AM
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 The kooks Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,563 |
Doing everyday things and keeping yourself busy are good ways to getting over someone and keeping them of your mind. It's different for everyone though.
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May 14 2007, 01:34 AM
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 omfg, rtfql. Group: Member Posts: 649 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 511,564 |
If there were a clear set of instructions on how to get over someone, no one would ever hurt. Honestly, the easiest way to get over someone, is to not talk to them, to try and forget about them completely.. And.. Time.
I know it's the worst thing to hear, but that's all that can work. |
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May 14 2007, 03:52 AM
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 What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
I have to first off, know a very clear reason why I was broken up with, or else I spend that much longer worrying about what the true reason was. Then I cut off all contact with them for the first 'phase'; talking to them and trying to hold on hurts too much to be able to let go. I trash or put away any photos or presents from them. Then I cry, really. I let it all out. I embrace my friends- they're there for you, being with them takes off so much of the loneliness. I go on long, strenuous runs to keep my mind off it as much as possible. That's pretty much the things I've done...  Hope you feel better in time...
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May 14 2007, 04:09 AM
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Think why you broke up with him in the first place, everything wrong he did, how disgusted you were before, and how disgusted he could make you again.
That should do it. |
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May 14 2007, 12:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 39 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 515,065 |
QUOTE(Last Dollar @ May 13 2007, 9:02 PM) getting over someone is very tough, but you need to be a fighter.. i suggest just living life like theres no tomorrow. good luck! Yea, its is really hard getting over him but i guess your right i have to be a fighter but thank you QUOTE(pixiedust! @ May 13 2007, 10:32 PM) Kind of sounds like my situation without the girl on the side. My older brother told me to just completely cut the person out of your life and to make him nothing. Just don't talk to him at all, don't acknowledge him, and keep up with that until you 'forgot,' and to only start talking to him again when you could be around him and not have your heart act up anymore. Which personally, I'm finding rather difficult because I don't want to make my ex "nothing." Good luck. Like you said, It is really difficult to make an ex nothing. Like i try telling him that i cant do this anymore and then he says or does something to make me keep talking to him but lately i haven't been calling him or texting him as much. He just has and ive been answering them. QUOTE(xSWEETxCANDiix @ May 13 2007, 10:47 PM) I agree. It may be extremely hard and heart-wrenching but this guy has lied to you for so long. If he really "loves" you, why is he still with that girlfriend? Have you tried talking to him about it? If it's too hard to bring up, you can even write him a letter. It really does seem like a tough situation. If he doesn't treat you like he loves you, then maybe he isn't worth your time. Like I said before, try talking to him about it.I hope everything works out. Yea i did talk to him about. He said hes not leaving her because he has already gave her his heart and soul. He knew her a lot longer than he knew me. He said the reason he didn't tell me at first was because he thought at first we were just bullshitting and then he developed strong feelings for me. He does treat me like he loves me but then again i don't know what he does with his girlfriend. QUOTE(Shortnsweet88 @ May 14 2007, 12:51 AM) I had the same problem. I had the same exact boyfriend for five years...convinced me he was in love with me. Dont fall for this crap...get out while you can. Only time will heal that as corny and stupid as it sounds...its true. Been there and done that...just let go. Distance yourself and move on. If you guys went out for like five years then you must of been in love. Maybe you guys just grew out of it. if you feel like it was crap then you just basically wasted five years. But im gonna try to move on thank you. QUOTE(skillxz @ May 14 2007, 5:09 AM) Think why you broke up with him in the first place, everything wrong he did, how disgusted you were before, and how disgusted he could make you again. That should do it. I didnt break up with him but at first when he told me, i wanted nothing to do with him but then 5 mins later i called and told him that i forgave him |
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May 15 2007, 11:28 AM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
Sounds like me and my ex... everyone of my friends hated my parents hated him it was torture; but i wouldent let him go. Finally we broke up and he went out with another girl but yet he still said he loved me, we talked everyday almoast. Then i stopped and thought about everything bad that happened in our relationship. Then thought about all the good. I realized that we had more bad times then good and i thought that i didnt want to keep getting hurt and realized i was best off without him. After a few weeks i got almoast completly over him.
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May 15 2007, 04:06 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 520,683 |
I don't.
I still havn't got over guys i liked years back. But it doesn't matter i guess. The easiest way.. Find someone else:) |
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May 16 2007, 01:42 AM
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i've experienced 2 breakups. i hada 2 totaly different ways of dealing with each. i found the 2nd method to be more effective--just totaly detaching him from my life. delete the pictures, emails, texts, EVERYTHING. focus on your friends, family, go out, have fun. laugh, and enjoy life. you'd be surpised at how less you'll think about him.
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May 16 2007, 03:59 PM
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Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
Oh and you could also visit this Link it has alot of tips/tricks.
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