YOUR definition of true love, ..obvious Options

[Alternativemado]

I was thinking and i was just curious what you guys thought love means or what love is. Do we naturally love or do we learn to love?

[winsome]

love is the thing that happens when you care for another person's well being unconditionally, you want that person to be as happy as he/she can possibly be and you would do anything to help him/her attain that happiness.

[azn_r4pf4n]

good question, there's lots of definitions to love. let's get some definitions =)
(if you really don't wanna read this long, you don't have to. but this stuff will probably surprise you, so i suggest you grab something to eat)

Wikipedia article on love
(some quotes here are straight from wikipedia)

Love has many meanings in English. It can mean an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love.

That's true, love is really intense.

Interpersonal love
Interpersonal love is love between two human beings, and is deeper than merely liking someone a lot. Although feelings are usually reciprocal, there can also be unrequited love. Interpersonal love is usually found in an interpersonal relationship, such as between family members, friends, and couples. However, people often express love for other people outside of these relationships through charity and volunteering.

Some elements that are often present in interpersonal love:

Affection: appreciation of other
Attachment: satisfying basic emotional needs
Reciprocation: if love is mutual
Commitment: a desire to maintain love
Emotional intimacy: sharing emotions and feelings
Kinship: family bonds
Passion: sexual desire
Physical intimacy: sharing of personal space
Self-interest: desiring rewards
Service: desire to help
Passion, or sexual energy, is probably the most important element in determining how a relationship is seen. This is because passion is often considered undesirable or unhealthy in love. In many religions and systems of ethics, it is wrong to have passionate love for immediate family, or outside of a committed relationship.

there's lots of types of ways you can love somebody, as said here.

Love is basically showing loyalty, faithfulness, and devotion towards another. Also, it shows that you are really attracted to somebody, in what I've heard. Love is also complicated, especially teenage love, since it sometimes causes a lot of drama.

I've heard a lot of drama from people who have experience teenage love. Here's something I got out of a Chinese show called Lady Stealer that is strongly true about love.

Kid: Teacher, what is love?
Teacher: Umm... Love is complicated. It's like when you see somebody, you're happy. When you don't, you are sad and you really want to see him/her. *starts crying*

Thats a deep line, man... But true in young love. Most teens (as I wanna suggest) aren't ready for love, because they think "ohh, my girlfriend/boyfriend will be with me FOREVER and EVER." That's pretty strong, yet there's a good chance its not going to happen. Here's an example:

2 teenagers: 1 boy and 1 girl
They are going out with eachother.
3 weeks later, they say "I love you and i will be with you forever!!!"
a week later, one of them (doesn't matter if it's the girl or boy), starts crying because they really miss the other person. The other person feels guilty, and it ends up possible like this:

- FEELS SO GUILTY THAT HE/SHE CRIES also

- can't stand a relationship, so breaks up

- really start talking to eachother more, and soon, they try their best to improve their relationship


yes, those are the possiblities.

teenage love is most likely too young for teenagers because they have pressures at home to learn/do other stuff and soon won't have enough time as needed to spend time with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

Let's go by a bible verse also I've found from the lounge fourms that is also true about love.

Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love.

1st Corinthians 13:4-13

let's define the terms one by one.

patient - able to wait (love is a very patient thing)
kind - of course is kind, how can you love if you can't?
envies no one - doesn't jealously want (yep, love is not a jealous thing)
never boastful - doesn't self-pride
nor concieted - not self-centered (isn't so obsessed about yourself)
nor rude - doesn't have bad manners
never selfish - doesnt want only him/herself
not quick to take offense - doesn't get angry quickly
There is nothing love cannot face - nothing can stop love
there is no limit to its faith - love's faithfulness can go VERY HIGH
its hope - no limits to it's confidence =)
and endurance - no limits to how you can withstand the stress you get, you can RESIST ALL THE STRESS you GET from love.

In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love

amen to that manz..

faith is believing
hope is confidence
and love is faith and hope combined =)

pretty long ain't it?

oh yeah, to enter those questions. I think we SHOULD learn to love cuz MOST teenagers don't even know the meaning of love. just a little piece of advice.

Do we naturally love or do we learn to love?

depends on the person's personality. i've seen many different ways to love people.

[Spirited Away]

Love should not be defined, because "to define is to limit" (Oscar Wilde), and love should not be limited.

[azn_r4pf4n]

Love should not be defined, because "to define is to limit" (Oscar Wilde), and love should not be limited.

oh ya.. good point.. love is very complicated...

[pandamonium]

people take love too lightly know a days, people say "i love you" when they go out with someone for like a week. and people say i love you to people who do some thing really nice. i mean its nice that they say i love you and all but say it when you mean it .

[sadolakced acid]

love is evol, backwards.

haha. well, i'm just a teenager so i don't know love.
of course, my friend thinks she's found love. oh well. hope it doesn't hit her too hard.

[espionage]

the majorities of teenage love is nothing but infatuation. check up limeration in wikipedia.com -_-

[sadolakced acid]

love is infatuation for most teens.

they'll get over it tho and realize it. hopefully.

anyways: incase someone doesn't get it

evol= evil backwards is love

so love and hate aren't opposites, love and evil are.

[misoshiru]

love for most of us teens is obsession. it's not about just the physical attraction but also the emotional and mental attraction as well.

[*salcha*]

love--sacraficing your life for the person you love.
and there's other love too-for family and frienship love

[starfaerie06]

I don't think love is describable because it's not the same for everybody and every person you love, you love in a different way... Like I love my mom but not the same as I love my friends or (if I had one) in the same way I love my boyfriend.

This is what Webster has to say: love n. Intense affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties; a strong feeling of attraction resulting from sexual desire; enthusiasm or fondness; a score of zero in tennis.

I think we love naturally in the begining but after we get screwed over we have to learn to love again... (mostly this refers to bf/gf/husband/wife love)

But here's my favorite saying: Cupid works for the devil.

[SkaironFrenzy]

Love isnt an feeling but with action.........

[iiiiiiiYON]

SOO MANY DEFINITIONZ FOR LOVE... FOR MANY TRANSLATIONZ...

[bad_girl]

u learn to love.

love--sacraficing your life for the person you love.
and there's other love too-for family and frienship love

it's not like u have to sacrifice. u just have to have an attraction for someone.. and u have to really care for them aswell. that's love, right? hahaha.

[heyyfrankie]

i think that we naturally love. love it weird, i don't really know how to explain it. but i feel that we learn naturally, i don't think it is learned. hmm....

LOVE - A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

^^ That sounds about right.

[sammehmyst]

Love is kind of undescribable, in my opinion.
I just think that if you're still a teenager, you are not in love.
Tip: Wait till you're older to get married. ;)

[sadolakced acid]

love is evol, backwards.

it's the opposite of evil.

[x_far_x]

You guys might think this is cheesy, but I was playing Metal Gear one day, and I think he said like "If you love someone, you are able to protect them". I think that's true, and it's been my principle about "love". So yeah..go luv?

-FaR

[avalon*]

i think love means when you are willing to sacrifice anything for the well-being of the other person. you are willing to give up any of your wants so that the other person can be happy. you would be willing to stay away from that person so that he/she can be completely 100% pure [not just not having sex, but even staying away from flirting because people give their hearts away while flirting] for his/her future spouse

[Chaos13]

love:

1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3. a. Sexual passion. b. Sexual intercourse. c. A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
6. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
7. a. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language. b. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. LoveMythology Eros or Cupid.
9. often LoveChristianity Charity.
10. Sports A zero score in tennis.

(example: i love you) not....

an intimate thing b/w u n ur lover which includes respect, honesty, trust, and all that in between.....

[Kriegsgefangene]

Love is shoveled into three different messes.

One being the tennage drama-

One being that important someone-

And the other being love for common human beings.

The teenage drama scene of love is obviously contained within the teenage population, and mostly located throughout highschool. There are all the instances, where people go mad over breakups, and have a high tendancy of holding grudges for some guy who likes your girl friends. That is more like the experimental stage of love.

Then we move onto the out of highschool, college-bound and maybe even out of college love. This is where it is more meaningful. This goes to the end of your life/ til a divorce. This is a point in which you are able to make a decision, knowing and experiencing most of all that before hand. This is where you want someone to be with, and have a happy life, being able to grow old with someone. So, you are a bit more careful on choosing who you think is right for you, and you make sure they are the one, before going off into holy matromony. (sp?) There are still those people who are stuck in stage one, and seem to divorce, like movie stars.

Then, for number three. This isn't part of the stages, really. It is more of an all around appearance on life itself. You may not know the person next to you while you are riding the train, but, if an accident were to happen, out of common curtesy, you would try and help them, because they are the essence of life itself. You would feel quiet hurt if they were to die, sort of like if your mother had done so, or any other family member. You may not cry, or feel as much affection for them, but it is somewhat close.

One girl in my school, she died about a year ago. Her name was Lauren Stilwell. She was hit in a car crash one morning, while jogging down the road. She ended up dying around 2 hours after being taken to the hospital. Of course, the soccer team cried, because she was on it. And yet, some other people did as well, even though they didn't know the person. All they knew was that it was life, and it was close to them.

So.. ehh. That is my view on it all.

[*salcha*]

i think love means when you are willing to sacrifice anything for the well-being of the other person. you are willing to give up any of your wants so that the other person can be happy. you would be willing to stay away from that person so that he/she can be completely 100% pure [not just not having sex, but even staying away from flirting because people give their hearts away while flirting] for his/her future spouse

what i said

[*Weird addiction*]

Wierd, ive claimed to be in love many times but i dont even have an answer to ur question

[*krnxswat*]

Love should not be defined, because "to define is to limit" (Oscar Wilde), and love should not be limited.

I like that.