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 Apr 9 2006, 11:01 PM
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Ok so i'm a 20-year-old virgin (21 on August 1st) and i've never even kissed a girl. I never really tried hard to get a girlfriend until these past few months. My big fear now is that I think everybody I meet is experienced and its extremely uncomfortable. I feel like i'll be subpar to them.
If you met me and I told you about my situation of never being intimate at all, would that be a turn off to you? Would you lose some interest? How would you handle this? I'm just asking for your personal opinion here. I'm also very nervous about my penis size. I'm about 5.5 and have just about 0 clue how to use it (obviously). I just feel so absolutely useless as far as intimacy goes. this is also a serious post! i'm really that inexperienced |
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Apr 9 2006, 11:08 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
I believe that you are being sincere so I'll leave this open.
Don't worry, there are plenty of virgins out there. I'd think that most girls would think that it's sweet or cute that you're still a virgin. I'm quite experienced for my age and I wouldn't care if my guy was a virgin, he lost it at 20/21 I forget which. Don't buy into the media and whatever about having to lose your virginity before a certain age or asap. Lose it when you are ready, not because you think you need to. It's not hard to use it, and you're fine. If a girl is upset then that's her problem. Besides, if you get that far she shouldn't be disappointed or care about size. The love should surpass petty things like penis size. |
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Apr 9 2006, 11:09 PM
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 × Dead as Dillinger. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 1,527 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,615 |
Aww. For me at least, it wouldn't be a turn off. I love inexperienced innocent little boys, for me to mold, hahaha.
Ahem.  Anywho, just chill out. The girl should first like you for your personality, not how many times you've done it or how big your pee-pee is. |
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Apr 10 2006, 12:40 AM
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No Joke. Serious post.
I reccomend watching the movies: My Favorite Babysitter 8 I love 'em Asian I love 'em Latin Good techniques IMO. and also, the chick's worth it when she doesn't laugh the moment you say you've never kissed a girl. - Solipsist |
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Apr 10 2006, 12:53 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,534 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 170,127 |
Hope you don't mind me replying here..
I can completely relate to what you are saying. I swear, I think everyone is extremely experienced, and I'm a perverted virgin. Laugh out loud. Personally, I find it sincere and sweet that you are virgin and haven't been with anyone. It's sweet, and I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there who would think the same. Of course, there are those who may feel odd, but don't let those who may deter you from looking for someone  .
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Apr 10 2006, 04:34 AM
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If they really liked you, nobody would laugh at you if you told them you were a virgin/you've never kissed a girl. Don't feel so insecure. End of story.
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Apr 10 2006, 06:42 AM
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 In life, make choices & don't look back Group: Member Posts: 147 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 336,891 |
well....try to get girls that you think you have a chance with first. For doing this, you will get experiences.
Don't be nervous, just think in your mind that you are better then them and they really want you so you would built some self-confidents. and about your penis....i can't teach you the technique on here but uhmm...watch porn maybe?  well good luck and if I said something wrong correct it for me 
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Apr 10 2006, 12:11 PM
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CB Owner/founder Group: Member Posts: 118 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 225,448 |
to tell you the truth, I would rather be with a virgin guy than one who's already sexually active. I don't believe in pre-marital sex.
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Apr 10 2006, 12:56 PM
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i highly recommend that you get an asian girl. small penis size..uh...asian girls...small..yeah. and honestly, i would prefer my guys inexperienced over experienced. i wouldn't want to date a guy more experienced than i am.
are you asian yourself? |
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| *Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg* |
Apr 10 2006, 05:47 PM
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QUOTE(SleepyWoodson @ Apr 10 2006, 12:01 AM)  Ok so i'm a 20-year-old virgin (21 on August 1st) and i've never even kissed a girl. I never really tried hard to get a girlfriend until these past few months. My big fear now is that I think everybody I meet is experienced and its extremely uncomfortable. I feel like i'll be subpar to them. If you met me and I told you about my situation of never being intimate at all, would that be a turn off to you? Would you lose some interest? How would you handle this? I'm just asking for your personal opinion here. I'm also very nervous about my penis size. I'm about 5.5 and have just about 0 clue how to use it (obviously). I just feel so absolutely useless as far as intimacy goes. this is also a serious post! i'm really that inexperienced You aren't the only one, I'm sure of it. Don't be too desprate to find a girlfriend. The best things in life come when you least expect it... so just go with the flow, meet some people, and have FUN. And honestly, I'm more attracted to inexperienced guys than to really experienced guys who know exactly what they're doing. I'd prefer learning together, rather than following like a lost puppy. I also suggest watching '40-Year-Old Virgin'; if there's a girl for him, there's a girl for everyone! |
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Apr 11 2006, 10:57 PM
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 love is on your list of things to do.... Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,516 |
Wow this is weird. I happen to be a 20 year old girl who is still a virgin and has never kissed a guy. And right before I came across this topic, I was wondering if I was like the only one, LOL. Wow, it's nice to know that i'm not the only inexperienced 20 year old out there, LOL. I think my problem is that I fall for the wrong guys and I don't give the good guys a chance. I'm trying to change though, but it's hard. But yeah, since I obviously have the same problem, I can't give you any advice, LOL. SORRY!
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Apr 12 2006, 11:33 AM
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Hey, you two should hook up!
QUOTE(lil_blue04 @ Apr 11 2006, 11:57 PM) Wow this is weird. I happen to be a 20 year old girl who is still a virgin and has never kissed a guy. And right before I came across this topic, I was wondering if I was like the only one, LOL. Wow, it's nice to know that i'm not the only inexperienced 20 year old out there, LOL. I think my problem is that I fall for the wrong guys and I don't give the good guys a chance. I'm trying to change though, but it's hard. But yeah, since I obviously have the same problem, I can't give you any advice, LOL. SORRY!
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Apr 12 2006, 02:45 PM
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Aw for some reason that's cute. haha. Virginity isn't something you lose just to be like everyone else and it's alright if you never had your first kiss. Just make sure you got the right girl. |
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Apr 12 2006, 04:22 PM
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 just another girl Group: Member Posts: 490 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 393,136 |
hey i think its awesome that your still a virgin. as a girl...even only 14... a 20 year old virgin is a hell of alot better than a 20 year old guy thats had sex tons of times. it shows that he isnt some dumbass pervert that just doesnt want to get into a girls pants. which i think is awesome and most girls do too...most of us girls dont want a guy that goes around just trying to get in every girls pants.
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Apr 12 2006, 05:46 PM
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I'm five years younger than you.
I'm a virgin who never had a gf in my whole life. I'm darn proud of it. why? the idea of virginity is nothing to me. i dont need to find one to get rid of it. |
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Apr 14 2006, 10:01 PM
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^ hahah
(sex and the city?)ahem... I think guys lie about how experienced they are sometimes. I think its very cute that ur a vigin...like its been said, thats much more appealing then a manwhore! Act confident, pick up girls and go for it...its the only way to gain experince 
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Apr 14 2006, 10:33 PM
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i would, as some other girls have said, find your "innocence" to be a turn-ON. many girls like guys who are virgins because they can "teach" them. i think that the best thing for you to do is go out, meet people, and when you get comfortable enough with a girl explain to her your situation. when you see how she reacts, take it from there.
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Apr 15 2006, 06:40 PM
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 我爱台妹,台妹爱我 Group: Member Posts: 877 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,340 |
no offense. if you dont want to stay a virgin/single, DONT SAY IT. it makes you sound insecure, and no girl likes insecure guys. they dont like overly cocky, but they almost never like insecure guys.
TECHNICALLY, 5.5 is average. the shorter size of average, but not terriblely bad. stop watching porn and thinking that you need a huge one to get a girl |
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Apr 15 2006, 08:51 PM
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 Dragon Ball Z ya! :D Group: Member Posts: 158 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,803 |
A guy being nervous, in my opinion, is an extreme turn on. i love nervous guys.
and about the penis size thing, i've dated guys with 8"+ and i've dated 5.5", and personally i prefer about 5.5 - 7" range. the monsters are scarey. >_< as for getting a GIRL, just act apathetic towards the one you decide you want the most. she'll be dying for your attention soon enough. ^_^ |
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