im in love with my best friend.. problem?? |
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 Dec 27 2006, 12:44 AM
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 x_pinaystyle_x  Group: Member Posts: 472 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 366,326  |
ok. i've known this dude since 8th grade..
im a junior right now.. he's been my best guy friend ever since! of course puberty kicks in and i suddenly happen to have feelings for him.. at first i thought it was nothing and i was just happy that he was always near me i wanted to make sure to keep me from being confused.. hahaha.. i would do stupid tests and everything.. like little flirts and stuff.. and everytime i do it, he would smile and my heart would just stop.yeah yeahh.. i do like him. haha.. yup. im stupid! i've been holding my secret love from him for a long time already.. we see each other every school day.. we eat and drink the samething (freeload!) how else should i stop from loving him?? i get sad whenever he's absent or when he doesn't pass by me during passing time.. im a sucker for him. we're best friends and i dont wanna ruin my friendship with him.. i mean.. we're really close and everything!! then... before christmas break.. i've decided that i'll tell him (finally!) but.. it didn't turn out so good. it turned out.. that he has always like me as a friend.. and never more.. he has never like me and he will never will <-- that's what he said. of course i regret ever telling him.. he ignored me for a week. i've cried of course during those days.. but then.. we started talking again.. like it never happened.. i really thought he liked me back. i really felt like fool. he kindness and everything fooled me. he told me things no guy would tell me. it hurts just thinking about it. but my heart tells me not to give up. should i? |
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| *icecreamisyummy* |
Dec 27 2006, 01:58 AM
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I had somethign similar happen to me a year ago, except my friend did like me back but we told each other about it at the wrong time, when we got into our first fight over a guy....as in we were on vacation and i was suppsoe to meet up with a friend and i never told him about my other friend and he figured there was something there and well it turned into this big prob. well we gave each other some time. i mean we still talked to each other inschool and what not, we still ate lunch together. and we are the closest of friends. we help each other out with relationship problems and girl probs and guy probs etc. i still have a thing for him. and i know he knows but we just go along with it. so when we told each other we liked each other we had no idea that it was gonna just make our relationship a lot better....it was jsut a matter of time. i hope this somewhat helped
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Dec 27 2006, 07:55 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
Lol, what you wrote is like some sort of weird poem. Anyways, if he's single then go for it.
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Dec 27 2006, 02:11 PM
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if you really like him that much.. then you should go for it. But as said in the reply before mine, I wouldnt push it. Just take it slow and see where things go.. His feelings for you could change over time. but I wouldnt stop taking chances with other guys either..maybe you'll find someone you like more who will like you back. and then you can be happppy ^.^
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Dec 28 2006, 02:04 PM
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 What's my name? Janette. and ily. <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,139 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,911 |
love is a pretty strong word for this case but.. you can't push it with him. he'll get freaked out, and then there goes your friendship. you don't have to get over him [although you should], just don't talk to him alot about it. and don't pressure him into liking you. or at least TRY to find somebody else.. |
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Dec 28 2006, 09:34 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
You've already tested the limit, and it's a good thing it didn't ruin your friendship.
If you really like him that much, wait awhile and see if his feelings change. Maybe since you told him, he'll start thinking about it and develop some feelings. But if not... You should just leave it. It's better to have the friendship then to have nothing. |
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Dec 28 2006, 10:10 PM
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QUOTE(brownsugar @ Dec 27 2006, 10:00 AM)  You can't make him like you
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Dec 29 2006, 12:49 PM
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 Seisuke Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,523 |
I say, enjoy what you have with him right now...enjoy the journey of what you guys have and develop along the way. As each new fold of relationship brings new things!
Like what icecreamisyummy said above, it's a matter of time! He'll come around, guys always do! You said He talks about things no other guy would right? and you guys are close friends and thats aweseom. In my own humble opinion, , I bet deep down inside he truely has the heart for you. There are two feelings people have, the first one is one that changes; u can be enjoying the afternoon happy with ur bf and then pisses u off, so now ur mad and tha brigns up the barrier on the friendship for a short amount of time. Then there is true feeling(the 1 thats hard to know which is the true one sometimes...hence why we go back to the one we loved x amount of times in a row over a period of years) the one that never changes no matter even whatever happens. |
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Dec 29 2006, 01:07 PM
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 omnomnom Group: Member Posts: 1,776 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 180,688 |
Really, there is nothing more scary than being rejected.. I'd let things cool off though I'm sure they have already, then see over time if he likes you. I know right now you like him and I've been in similiar situations, you'll get over him if nothing happens.
The worst that could happen is that you'll stop being friends |
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Dec 29 2006, 02:22 PM
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Seisuke Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,523 |
but we all know that wont happen ^_^
QUOTE(c0cONuTTeR @ Dec 29 2006, 1:07 PM) The worst that could happen is that you'll stop being friends
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Dec 29 2006, 07:26 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 489,321 |
we all know the answer to this question
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Dec 29 2006, 09:08 PM
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QUOTE(brownsugar @ Dec 27 2006, 7:00 AM) She already did..and he said he never liked her and never would like her. Honestly, as much as you like him my advice is don't push it if he's saying "no". You can't make him like you and I know it seems like "he's the only one" right now..but there really are others out there are there always will be others. You'll look back on this one day and laugh. But right now you don't want to jeapordize your friendship by making things awkward. I agree even though it may seem like there is no one else right now, once you move on you will see that there really are other fish in the see. Maybe try talking to some other boys you might like and see what happens |
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