i originally made this a reply but i ecided to make it a topic and get advice...
so right now im goin thru a breakup...but its not just a normal breakup--its not just were done..i cry for weeks...move on...it was that we just sorta slowly started talking less then he started hanging out with this other girl alot...then i asked him abt it...then he told me were done...then he told me he dint mean to say that he was just angry when he said it...so that gave me hope that wed get back together...then on that other girls myspace she started talking about how they spend alot of time together and how she LOVES HIM!! wtf!? so im down again that there "together" then she posts a new thing that he wont say "i love u" to her...that made me very happy (im the jealous type ...:-/)...then he stopped hanging out with her and he was telling me how annoying she was...then he told me he still likes me...so i was rediculously happy...now...hes got a new girl...so that makes me really sad...
im not over this yet...when he started hanging out with the other girl was in the begining of august so its been almost 2 months...its gonna take me a while to get over him but its hard cuz i really freakin love him...hes my first love and if he told me he wanted to get back together...i would in a second...but i dont wanna be so easy ..ya know..its a toughy...
when we were on a low..like when he was hanging out with the other girl all the time ...i become really depressed and i've even considered commiting suicide...im never going to forget this relationship...im still in love with him even though were done...but then again..if i got back together with him i dont think id wantto marry him...so when i find the person i truely wantto marry im still gonna have this guy in my mind...ill always love him....how do i get over him!?!?
oh and i cant just delete him from my phone and never speak to him again...i definitely would still wanna be friends with him...and also hes good friends with my sister so anytime i go visit my sister(my sister lives about 5 minutes from him...which is about 30 minutes from me) he comes over to hang out with us...so...yea

Okay deary,
You need to what ever you can to get over this guy and just move on. Go get a thing of ice cream and sappy movies and just sit on the couch and eat ice cream and cry it out. Then you go and talk to your friend and you slowly get over this guy. Don't talk to him, don't even bother with who hes hanging out with. Don't care about him, even if its the hardest thing to do.


I may add to this later, or make a new post.

This guy is toying around with your heart, so just let him live his life on his own with all these other girls that think they love him. Go out and have fun, enjoy life. Your at the right age now to do that and not take things seriously.

Dr. Phil had alot of trouble comprehending your post, but from what Dr. Phil read, he seems like a very untrushworthy individual and Dr. Phil recommends you forget about this man and move on.

Many women tend to fall for their man's sweet talking and words but words without action are meaningless, Dr Phil tells you. Obviously this certain male individual is very confused on his own as well, or just playing around with you, my dear.

Also, getting in to a relationship does not equal you are going to end up marrying that person! Many people get into relationships to experience, and to mature, and PREPARE for the relationship they are going to have with their signficant other that they are going to marry. Dr. Phil suggest you get that mindset out of your mind! Go out, meet guys, and experiment! But that doesn't always mean completely letting yourself go. It means controlling yourself, setting boundaries, and about learning from your mistakes.

Goodluck!

actually...we prob would have wound up getting married...of course waiting till im at a better age but yea...we would have... :'(

Dr. Phil reassures you there are many fish, whales, shrimps, dolphins and whatever in the sea!

thats true...but who wants to marry a whale?! lmao j./k

Atleast she laughed, nice job Seon.

How old are you? Whats your name also, I've seen you around so much but I've never gotten your name?

Just remember like Seon Ho said that there are plenty out there for everyone, perhaps he wasen't the right one. A learning relationship. Everyone needs them, so then you have a better understanding of what you want in the end and to find something that is up to those standards.

Everything happens for a reason.

im 17...i'd rather not say my name...i'd rather remain anonymous..ooh how mysterious lol...i dunno...call me chelsea

Lol, okay. Thanks.

Dr. Phil wonders who this Seon Ho you speak of is?