what does everyone think?

my opinion: in the end you usually get screwed over. either the people you care about/love hurt you, drift apart from you, or die. the only way it doesnt lead to pain in the end is if you die before the person you love can do those things. im not even if i can love. i never get emotional attached to anyone. but interested in other peoples opinions, though. so discuss.

Death? That's an unreasonable reason not to love. Everyone is going to die someday. It's not the end that counts; it's getting there that matters. If love enriches the journey, and it generally does, then it's a valuable part of life. People worry too often about the end; life is about enjoying the journey. Enjoy it while you're in it, don't agonize over its eventual end. Rejoice for the path you have taken in life, for those you have known that may have die or will die; revel in the memories, not the sadness. Life is not about worrying over its conclusion; it's about enjoying it while it lasts.

YES SOMEONE WISE!

and even if you avoid love, you'll get hurt, because your hormones can't help but stick out. So you'll have unrequited love and miss 1/3 of your life. Now that's sad.

Better to do things than regret it later.

Better to take pain now to become stronger after.

And if you really love each other


that pain will go away

i chose "i deeply believe in it" because i think that ill fall in love one day. i thought i was in love in the past, but im not so sure anymore.

You also posted this in lounge, one of them should be closed.

I was torn between deeply believing, hoping it would happen to me again, and too much pain but still worth it.

I deeply believe in love. You shouldn't give up on love, no matter how hurt you may have been in the past. Being in love is a great feeling, just knowing that there is someone else who cares for you as much has you care for him/her.
And, you shouldn't worry about death so early. Like mipadi said, everyone dies, so just concentrate on life and enjoy it.

I chose I think it could happen to me, because I think that today the idea of love is used lightly as there are more and more high school relationships that are so serious and supposedly "love". I myself have been in a fair amount of relationships, and yes there are very fun and happy times, but I've never considered myself "in love". I think that if you really believe in love, there would be no question about whether you're "in love" or not.

I'm not too certain on the whole love thing. Anything that has the word forever attached to it turned out to be a lie a long time ago for me.

I'd need a better definition and experience than what I have to have any faith in the idea of love.

i don't know if i should believe in it anymore, i mean i used to be so happy that my bf says it to me, i felt so important at times, but now i find out that his 'iloveyous' doens't mean a thing. empty.

hmmm i sorta agree with the way people either 1) dont mean it when they say ''i love you'' or 2) f**k off after a while or 3) die.

i duno, i'd have to be with someone who respects truth and honesty. so far none of my partners have been. bleh

Ok well i said this in another thread so ill just put it here as well but basically -

Love

Love is not a fire where the simplest thing like a spark can make it happen. It’s funny how people describe love as a fire, while maybe others describe lust like a fire as well. Lust is a powerful emotion some mistake for love, lust is a sudden yearning for that person and sometimes it can very powerful. The simplest thing can spark lust within a person, a simple touch, and a small flash of skin, just seeing a beautiful woman. All those things can spark lust. So yes lust is like a fire, the simplest thing can start it, it burns greatly for a certain amount of time and can last longer if you feed it more wood (temptation) but in the end it always burns out. You see love is not like that. Some people describe love as a spark that lasts a lifetime. Well I’m sorry, sparks don’t last a lifetime, a spark lasts a second. If you notice the spark or noitce it but don't think about it, then that is all it will be, a spark, a small fraction of time where you felt a yearning but nothing more. If you think about it and feed that spark some wood (thoughts and attention) then it will start a fire, if that fire is fed too much wood it can become uncontrollable and wild. Do you know what happens when they fire becomes uncontrollable? Rape… assault…death. Why would anyone compare love to a spark? Because they do not know what love is. Why compare love to a fire? What’s so great about a fire? Anyone can make a fire. Love cannot be a fire. Love is a long process that takes hard work and effort. Like building a car, or climbing a mountain. It takes time, patience, dedication; it is not an easy thing. Love is a special thing so shouldn’t it be compared to something special? Like climbing a mountain, building a car or a house with your bare hands? Those are special achievements that, like a fire, anyone can do; but it takes a certain amount of dedication, patience and effort to do it. Some of you may be asking: “Well sure all of those things are special and are a long process but a car nor a house last forever and sure climbing a mountain is a amazing thing but after you’ve climbed to the top then that’s it. You did it, nothing else, what did you gain?” That is a good question. What do you gain from building a house or car with your bare hands or from climbing a mountain that lasts a lifetime? A memory, that will last a life time. That memory is something you will cherish for the rest of your days. It’s something you can look back on that will make you happy. If you are feeling sad, you can always think of the good memories you had and that will make you happy. That memory or memories is what you gained and that is love. Love is like your more pure, happy and charitable memory. You will never forget it and it will never forget you.

Dont confuse love with Lust.

love is absolutely possible...hehehe....of course it is!! God loves each and everyone of us!! durfs...haha...but me? i thought i was in love several times, and when i think back about it, i never really was hurt because i never really was in love...if i did get hurt at that moment it was my own stupid fault...people dont bring that kind of emotional pain to you..you bring it upon yourself. sooo i say whatever pain or hurt i've been through with a guy or whatever its my fault because its my fault for letting myself be vulnerable. if it werent for my own stupidity i would have realized i wasnt in love and just moved on..hehe get it? sooo yehh...im stupid for thinking i was in love but thats okay, because one day my love will find me when i least expect it to

Love isn't always that cliche piece of shit you see in the movies. If you know undoubtedly that you are in love and that you would do anything for the person and know everything about them, most likely you're in love. But of course, the other may not feel the same way which is what sucks about love. .__.

hmm i love love. i love to love.

so yea i believe that everyone has to have love to be happy.

I have no issues with the whole love thing. It's great while it lasts, even if it ends badly. It's better to have love and lost than to not have loved at all. I mean, you can't ever be happy if you're never sad - you won't know what the happy is. Love is good while you have it, and even if you have a bad experience with it, who cares? No sense in not ever trying again. Love doesn't have to last forever. The point of love is not to never lose anything, or never be sad - it's just to enjoy it while it lasts. Just go with the flow.

love... knowing it will hurt in the end and choosing not to care.

or something like that.

for me, it's the choosing not to care part i'm not doing right now.

i don't feel like loving now. mayhaps someday i will, but for now, no. it is a rather bit of trouble.

okay i agree with you on .. the ending isnt always pretty. but then i dont think that really matters, i mean during the whole process you can get hurt in the end, but then you gain experience. and whats the point in life if you dont take risks? i mean.. you never know if it'll end with happily ever after

i think its good.. i mean 'love at first sight' i dont believe in, but when it comes to having a serious relationship & then breaking up ; you know you still love the dude [despite the shit you guys went through]

oh. sorry.

I think it could happen to me one day.. Like true love. Not just the kind where you go out with a person for like.. 2 months and then break up.
I think love is great and all.. I just don't like how it hurts a lot in the end. It's kind of.. Scary.

i think it could happen to me someday. i dont think ppl should avoid it though. if your afraid to get hurt then life will be very unpleasent. anything you do can hurt you. i think that love will find everyone someday

Love is an amazing feeling. I love being in love. Even if it hurts sometimes, I feel like it is worth it. Being able to feel love and having someone feel the same is a truly sensational thing. Like the song goes "Love lifts us up where we belong lalalla =]". It makes me happy.

Death is inevitable. It's going to happen sometime, whether you fall in love or not. If you pass up on the chance of falling in love just because you're afraid of rejection, you are a coward. Love is worth it because it's the most beautiful feeling in the world, and if it doesn't work out at first, you learn from your experiences.

I chose the first option...

It's so pathetic that people here are so young and already giving up on the idea of love and emotional attachment.
You'll probably all end up with serious mental/depression issues. No really. Statistically, it's pretty likely.

If for no other reason, it's a good idea not to give up on love because statistically, people with a wide and solid social support network suffer from mental illness less and when they do have problems with it, they recover faster.

So to all of you who don't want love and attachment, it's not because its better for you not to have it, it's because you're too blind to get the concept and too foolish and cowardly to take the plunge, whether its for romantic love or even friendship love.

i don't think i believe in it anymore. it's not worth it.