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troubled_angel
Hey, i was just curious what everyone's veiws on Friends with benifits was. Where i am its more popular than actual going out, but then some of my friends still get hurt pretty bad when they start liking the dude. Whatcha'll think of FWB?
cRaZiiXbEauTiFul
umm...im kind of confused..but i think i know what you mean...but if im right about what it is, then, i think its stupid. why dont people just..go out??
MrElsewhere
its a bad idea to have a friend with benefits. somebody's feelings are boudn to get hurt.
StarlitxFrosT
it's disaster waiting to happen. Hearts waiting to be destroyed. Feelings ready to git hurt. Mistakes waiting to take place. very cheap way to hook up
heyyfrankie
embrace the search button, please!!!!

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...154&hl=benefits
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QUOTE(StarlitxFrosT @ Mar 8 2005, 7:23 PM)
it's disaster waiting to happen. Hearts waiting to be destroyed.  Feelings ready to git hurt.  Mistakes waiting to take place. very cheap way to hook up
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agrees with everything tongue.gif
nevernothere
It's okay. I take what I can get... and I can get FWB easier than GF.
swe3ttemptasian
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it's disaster waiting to happen. Hearts waiting to be destroyed. Feelings ready to git hurt. Mistakes waiting to take place. very cheap way to hook up


yuppp
EmmalieV
Dont do it , feelings will eventually start to emerge.
CUTEBUNNY160
nope i dont do it its just wierd mellow.gif
jordanriane
Friends with benefits are for those who aren't looking for a relationship, but want something (normally, sex is associated with FWB's). Personally, if you're a person who can grow easily attached, then this method of a no-strings-attached friendship is definitely not for you.

I had a fwb in the past, and personally, it was okay for me, since I'm not easily attached to a person.. My friend was on a different path, because a few months later he had wanted to start a real relationship, something I didn't want, so I ended it with him.
you suck
hmm im kinda in that situation now...n it sucks.
jordanriane
QUOTE(you suck @ Mar 8 2005, 8:32 PM)
hmm im kinda in that situation now...n it sucks.
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What sucks about it? If you need any help/advice, I'd be willing to offer.
PM me if you want to! :)
DrEaMgUy2K1
ive had 3, sigh , sometimes its good, but feelings always get mixed in it, or sometimes u feel empty and u want something more so yeah....not really a good idea
usv04babe
Friends with benifits can be fun, but it always leads to be a mess. I have had one or two. It depends on the kind of friends with benifits you are. You do have different like stages of it.
booger butt
From personal experience with my ex-boyfriend(we became friends with benefits after we broke up) and its so NOT a good idea. I totally freaked out and became distant and all. A BIG MESS!

But if its your thing, then go for it. No judgement.
stephinika
aren't there topics on this? ermm.gif

anyways, it depends on the person really...they can be okay but sometimes one person ends up having feelings for the other and that just ends up being a mess...
AngelicEyz00
I was against it... but um... ermm.gif ... i guess I no longer am...? -_-
silver-rain
I don't really like it, because someone is bound to get hurt.
B1onde_1ns1de
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hmm im kinda in that situation now...n it sucks.


yea me 2.... ermm.gif
Fatality
Friends with benefits is bad because someone always get's attached.
royalfreshness
i think it's hot and i wouldnt mind it. but w/certain friends... i wouldnt want to get emotional about them..
mickybeans
QUOTE(StarlitxFrosT @ Mar 8 2005, 7:23 PM)
it's disaster waiting to happen. Hearts waiting to be destroyed.  Feelings ready to git hurt.  Mistakes waiting to take place. very cheap way to hook up
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i completely agree with everything you said!
Programmer
...the responsiblility of a relationship....scares most people into not wanting a relationship....but yet we get jelious when the girl...flirts with another guy or visa versa...but yet we were not their boyfriend or girlfriend....

confusing... mellow.gif
CRAZEDindian40
Friends with benefits gets old, I want something more than just the physical.
purestkiss101
been in one once before kinda. --right after a break up-- dont do it..things can get alot worse than before
lilsweetdevil08
I think FWB is alright. You can't fall in love. You can't get hurt. You can do whatever you want with any of your friends you want, but is it alright with them?

I don't do FWB though. I see people that do it. Yea...That's right.
teeners4
friend with benefits? we call it friends with privleges here tongue.gif dont know how to spell it but anywho FWP is okay as long neither one is dating anyone. and if one does start dating the other one it should stop. unless the other one gets jealous...thats where it kinda get messed up.


but im a fan of it =)
dani41790
i really dont like the idea
Shattered_Hope
It's not a good idea because one or the other always gets hurt...normally anyway.
justalanna
Friends with Benifits only exists because people are afraid of commitment. This fear causes pain because most people who are involved in one of these relationships get hurt. I wouldn't recommend it. Try an actual relationship, with meaningful conversations as well as physicalness. =)
LoST SouL
i thinkt heir good as long as u dun fall head ova heels... friends wit benifits meens no attachments
Rachel
most girls can't deal with it....well i guess it can be the guy too...but usually someone just ends up getting hurt.
jordanriane
QUOTE(justalanna @ Mar 13 2005, 5:20 PM)
Friends with Benifits only exists because people are afraid of commitment. This fear causes pain because most people who are involved in one of these relationships get hurt. I wouldn't recommend it. Try an actual relationship, with meaningful conversations as well as physicalness. =)
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I did not have FWB relationships because I was afraid of commitment; I've been in a few commited relationships (and a few, because obviously, they were for quite some time). Sometimes people take the route of FWB because they're not looking for anything at the moment, just some casual sex with the same person, no strings attached.
DrEaMgUy2K1
QUOTE(jordanriane @ Mar 13 2005, 9:49 PM)
I did not have FWB relationships because I was afraid of commitment; I've been in a few commited relationships (and a few, because obviously, they were for quite some time). Sometimes people take the route of FWB because they're not looking for anything at the moment, just some casual sex with the same person, no strings attached.
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yea nicely put. Sometimes u just want to get away from all the drama problems and seriousness and kick back and have some casual sex along the road =] .
KrunkMuzik
I think its GREAT!!!!! I have ALOT of friends with benefits! lol. I dont see nothing wrong with that!
jordanriane
Krunk_Muzik, I used to live in Tinley Park ;)
Also, most of my friends go to U of I.
It's a shame they lost recently, they would've been the first team in awhile to go undefeated. -tear-
cleec
I think it is both good and bad.

The good: You have fun with the person without having to be obligated to talk to them all the time. Bottom line is that kissing is fun, and it's more spontaneous if it just happens

The bad: Usually someone is bound to think of the other person as more than a friend. Feelings can get hurt really badly if the person doesn't return the feeling.

I don't mind it, personally, but I see where everyone else is coming from when they say it is bad.
norconlipentut
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umm...im kind of confused..but i think i know what you mean...but if im right about what it is, then, i think its stupid. why dont people just..go out??


i agree completely
someflipguy
Sex - Yes

Friends w/benefits - No
whywasisostupid
friends with benifits...sigh.
there fun for a while, then get boring
cHuNsAbAbIe012
i think that as long as there's no strings attached its ok. but i think that for me n e way i would be really disgusted with myself for wat i was doing. i would be ashamed of myself n it would not b something i would wanna talk about with my friends. n also it's bound to effect someone.

but dont u think ur a better person than that? u guys settle for so much less. u can have so much more. if u have FWB then honestly u SHOULD be ashamed because you r SO much better than that. u think thats all ur body is worth...n that's not good. its something u should cherish. that's wat i mostly think of it...u deserve so much better. that's all i gotta say..
s0pnayish
I don't really like it, but if you're the type who isn't into commitment, then go for it. Whatever floats your boat.
Teesa
I think it's a horrible idea because someone always ends up getting hurt.
mickybeans
i dont like the thought of pseudo- relationships because no matter what, it'll always end up causing one's feelings/heart to be broken and hurt.
xTINAA
Well friends with benefits really depends on how many benefits and why you want to just be friends with benefits. Let's say, you just miss kissing someone so you and your friend occasionally make out or something. Then I guess that could be okay as long as you don't get emotionally attached, which is hard not to do. But if you want to be friends with benefits with someone because you possibly just got out of a relationship and it was hurtful so you condemn them, then I would have to say, no. If you're doing it as a way to get out of being hurt then you will be sadly mistaken because many people can still get hurt. If you're doing it just because you want to, you miss how it feels, then sure, why not? Even though there still might be a chance of getting hurt. ....Kind of confusing haha.
miss barnes
i have a friend with benefit right now...i like it
krnxswat
Never had FWB, but it'd be kind of cool.
whatiismae
that is a horrible idea. both parties are being used physically and it can only end in disaster.
salcha
uhhh no no no no no...someone is going to get hurrrrrrrrt.
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