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Sorry for bothering you with this, but i just don't know what to do. It's a little petty problem, but i feel lost.
It's one of those "i like a boy" type of thing, just warning you.
Yes, i like someone, but my problem is just me. I don't know how to react towards him. The simplest answer is to just be myself, i know that. It's just that whenever i get near him, i act so stupid. I'm tongue-tied. However, if i practice my words, i get all hyped up and start freaking out. I really want to be this guy's friend, but it's just that i don't know how; i already messed up about a million times. He probably thinks i'm some creepy girl, and well......ugh.
I've always said to myself, "Just go for it," but i end up messing up anyway.
Mainly, my problem is: "How can i be normal to him?"
I act like he's just some guy? Well, that's kind of hard because I'm a shy type of person that acts mean to my normal guy friends. The ones i'm just acquainted, i don't talk to unless it's something about school. But i have no classes with the guy i like!
One reason i'm not giving up on this guy is that last year, i sort of went after him. And well, i was still in my "immature, kiddish" middle school-minded days (no, i'm a sophmore) and was very much pressured by my friends to go for him. Well, i ended up thinking things like, "I'm too young, i think i'll wait until my true love sweeps me off my feet."
Well, i am now regretting it. Very very much regretting it. I just can't explain why him. Lust probably. But that's why i want to get to know him! I want to decide if he's worth multiple failures if it means winning him over.
One thought that keeps me going is "you'll never know." So i don't plan on giving up on him anytime soon.
Sorry for wasting your time reading this, i just wanted to tell someone about this. I love my friends, but i just feel too embarrassed to tell them about this.
Whether or not you can help doesn't really matter. If you can give me advice, it would be very much appreciated. But You don't have to help me.
I'd just like to thank you for listening to my story is all, even if it is pathetic.
Never feel sorry for e-mailing your problems! That's what I'm here for.
I have a lot of problems addressing guys myself. I always said that I would never tell a guy I liked him first, or let him even know, and I let a lot of great opportunities go because of that. Over the years, especially more recently (since I've actually had some success), I've found that the best way to get to know a guy is to hang out with him in groups. Conversation is so much less forced and so much more natural when you are around other people that you know well and are comfortable with. Is he friends with any of your friends? Do you guys go to the same parties? Social settings just make words flow much easier than one-on-one, at least until you're more comfortable around him.
That being said, you should never rehearse your words. That only makes you more nervous, like giving a speech in front of a class. Not many people are enjoying themselves when they are forced to do that, and rehearsing your words for this guy is forcing you to talk to him. I know it's hard to be yourself, but being giggly and nervous when talking to him lets him get to know you a lot better than some sort of script in your head would. You want him to like you for you, not the "good" you that you want him to see.
Also, what do you like about him? Do you share some common interests? Music, movies, books, politics, and television are
great starting points for conversation. Even if you don't agree that a certain band is the greatest in the world or if this movie is really boring and has horrible acting, at least you'll get some dialogue going and the fact that you have an opinion and are passionate could be quite impressive.
Just keep on truckin'! It won't happen overnight.