Asian Girls + White boys Options

[demolished]

** Disclaimer: This might offend some people. And if it DOES offend you, I probably wouldn't like you anyway. So in the words of the illustrious Tupac, "I don't give a f**k." Read at your own risk.





Last week at work, a white male co-worker was shocked when I told him that I prefer dating Korean/Asian men. When I then pointed out that all my ex-boyfriends have been Korean, he was literally stunned.



STUNNED. He acted as though I had made a huge sacrifice by forgoing the opportunity to be with a white guy, also known as "God's gift to women" in his eyes (gag me now).



Little did I know that my nonchalant, casual comment would soon spread like wildfire. I had people coming up to me (both men and women) saying, "Is it really true that you only date Asian guys?" They treated my casual comment on my dating preference as a true shocker of the year. In my humble opinion, there is no way that such a reaction (shock, stunned, surprised, etc) would have occurred if I were, say Jewish or Black, and said that I preferred Jewish or Black men. So why is it such a shocker that I, as an Asian woman, would prefer dating an Asian man? Because this country has had a long (and I mean LONG) history of desexualizing and trivializing Asian men to the point that the masses just accept these stereotypes as being true. Let's face it – Asian guys do have it a lot harder in this country than Asian women. Asian women have a history of being portrayed and seen as the sweet, submissive, Me-Love-You-Long- Time girl. And on the flip side, we have been viewed as being overly sexual for the white man's pleasure (again, gag me now).







Hollywood stereotypes stemming from characters like Long Duck Dong in Sixteen Candles have caused irreparable harm to the image of an Asian guy in this country (F**k you, John Hughes).









While white men were the white knight, capable of saving the day AND getting the girl, the Asian guy was just the chump or the one-dimensional moron incapable of being attractive.



However, growing up in a heavily Asian populated city, I always had Korean/Asian friends. I socialized with them, watched Korean dramas and idolized Korean boybands. In other words, I had an ALTERNATIVE viewpoint from Hollywood and the white man's land that showed me that Asian men CAN be sexy, gallant, generous, talented, multifaceted and complex. My alternative media showed me different portrayals of Korean/Asian men not shown in America, which allowed me to not buy into the stereotypes and ridiculous bullshit that was being sold.



What you looking at?





However, I have noticed that some Asian women DO buy into that shit. And it's both sad and irritating. While I have nothing against two random people falling in love by chance (Asian/White/Black/Whatever), I DO think it's pathetic and lame when an Asian American woman proclaims, "I only date white men" or "I don't date Asian guys." Not only do I think it's pathetic, I think they sound pathetic and just really, really stupid. Then when you ask these women why, they list a bunch of reasons that sounds more like it came from Hollywood Stereotypes 101 (unintentionally affirming that yes, they really ARE that stupid).



The truth is, I would never want to date a white guy because I would never want to be perceived by the outside world as being THAT girl. Yes, I will sound like a bitch but f**k it, let me be honest - I wouldn't want to walk with my white boyfriend in public for fear of looking like THAT girl. And I don't want to be a seen as someone who bought into the bullshit that white media have been trying to sell about Asian guys for decades.



One of my biggest fears is looking like this idiot to the outside world if I were to date a white guy: http://youtube.com/watch?v=Ft_kY5KgCnE



Seriously, readers, what sucks more? Racist idiots or the self-loathing folks so desperate to sell out their own people and culture for white approval? Hmmm…tough call, ain't it? (I choose the latter).



Let's not forget that (in my own experience), the white guys who ARE into Asian girls tend to be Creepy. Weird. Losers. Weird. Dorks. And Weird. Personally, a cool white guy has never approached me because these objectively cool white guys have plenty of options (mostly other cool white women). They don't need to look outside their own dating pool to dip into some Suzie-Wong- Me-Love –You-Long-Time action. And if I hear "I once dated an Asian girl" come out of another white guy's mouth as his opening line, I just might punch him. So if my choice is between some weird, creepy, stereotype-clutching white guy or holding out for my Asian prince (see below, Mr. Coffee Prince, July 4, haha), I will hold out for my prince any day of the week.



And of course there's the convenience factors – a Korean/Asian guy is more likely to understand my own struggles as a minority in the industry and in this country; we will likely enjoy eating the same foods (even if it's kimchee everyday); and hopefully, he will be able to communicate with my parents and the rest of my family… at the very least, understand what they are saying OR implicitly understand the cultural values that are almost innate to us.



Plus, I am attracted to Asian guys...and no, NOT LONG DUCK DONG.



** Note: I have nothing against interracial dating...but it is just not for me. Furthermore, these rules don't apply to Asian men who score non-Asian women. Kudos to them for finding someone who isn't blindly following the definition of what an Asian man is "supposed to be."

Source: HERE

More reasons to love Asian girls.

[Tung]

Steven, this is a very great article you found. I appreciate it, and I really enjoyed her point of view. I'm an Asian American Studies Major, and I learn and hear about these kinds of things ALL the time. So it's nothing new, but having people on cB aware of these things is totally awesome.

Here's a topic I made some months ago about this that sort of relates.
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...=202108&hl=

Anyways, everytime I walk around my campus, and it's really highly populated with Asians. I see those girls who dates white guys, and I can't help it but feel disgusted. Some of those may be true relationships and they really do love each other. However, more than not, most of these Asian girls who date white guys, ONLY date white guys. I don't understand how stupid they can be you know? I don't understand people who say things like "I only date white people, or asian people". Bunch of close-minded f**ks. It's 12am, and I want to write more, so I'll post more tomorow on this matter.

[Just_Dream]

LUL MICHELLE, THAT KOREAN CHICK BE CALLEN YOU OUT, HOMEGURL.


I can't really say much anyway since I'm in a long-term relationship with my current boyfriend, who is in fact Asian, lol.

Regardless, I don't really think this chick is any different from the asian chick who prefers white guys. She says she only prefers Asian (Korean) guys. I will admit that I do have a preference for Asian guys - I understand what she's talking about when it comes to common interests/customs - But I will NOT say that I will ONLY date Asian guys. That's just stupid to make a claim like that.

[Tung]

^ Word. I thought she was contradicting herself when she said she hates Asian girls who only prefer white guys. She was being a hypocrite as she said she only prefer Asian/Korean men. However, she did say didn't want to date White men because she didn't want to be seen and portrayed by the public as those typical Asian women who date white men only. So I dunno.

But I think if she indeed find a white man who she did really love, I don't think it should matter what the public see's in her.

To be honest, I'm really interacially open. I go for girls of all ethnics. I even had a crush on this black girl back in middle school. I equally express interest in both Asian women and White women as well. And oh back in High School, this Latina chick had a crush on me for like 2 years, and when I found out I was highly surprise b/c it was so shocking to find that a Mexican chick had interest in an Asian guy like me. But enough of my life story, I think this article a nice read. I think she herself needs to be open minded as well.

[SuckDickNSaveLiv...]

I LOLed at the part where she says she wouldn't have got the same reaction had she been dating a black dude. Come on now. Stop playing.

[Simba]

Me-Love-You-Long- Time girl

Yeah, I didn't really like how she contradicted herself, but the piece on American media is true.

[demolished]

np, tung.

^ Word. I thought she was contradicting herself when she said she hates Asian girls who only prefer white guys. She was being a hypocrite as she said she only prefer Asian/Korean men. However, she did say didn't want to date White men because she didn't want to be seen and portrayed by the public as those typical Asian women who date white men only. So I dunno.

But I think if she indeed find a white man who she did really love, I don't think it should matter what the public see's in her.

To be honest, I'm really interacially open. I go for girls of all ethnics. I even had a crush on this black girl back in middle school. I equally express interest in both Asian women and White women as well. And oh back in High School, this Latina chick had a crush on me for like 2 years, and when I found out I was highly surprise b/c it was so shocking to find that a Mexican chick had interest in an Asian guy like me. But enough of my life story, I think this article a nice read. I think she herself needs to be open minded as well.

Yeah. She didn't say she hates white or doesn't want to date them. She just prefers to date Asian. The only reasons she prefer Asian due to the media influences that put that "stereotypical" girl + white boy. (i pretty much reflected on what you say ) Her entry implies that white/western do not understand the Asian culture before they jump into the interracial dating( but i could be wrong about that).

however, It explains the fact that western thinks Asians are all about kung fu and shit.

an addition to that, it also explains the stereotypes of Asians wanting to be white by having eyelid surgery. O_o So, if you're white and tanned, does that mean you want to be black? Or ... Mexican? they don't understand double eyelid is a standard of beauty, not standard of white beauty.

As far as Asians breaking into the media, there are other Asians stars who are trying to break into America's narrow minded entertainment, so most likely, we will be facing more Asians discrimination and stereotypes.

When I was on search engine about Asian plastic surgery, white plastic surgeon included something along the line in in their blog, "Asians wants to look westerner"

SOOOOOOOoo, i think the 21st century would be the interesting time to see the growth of Asians powers!

Lastly, there are just too much misconceptions about Asian's images and roles.

Last week at work, a white male co-worker was shocked when I told him that I prefer dating Korean/Asian men. When I then pointed out that all my ex-boyfriends have been Korean, he was literally stunned.

I LOLed at the part where she says she wouldn't have got the same reaction had she been dating a black dude. Come on now. Stop playing.

Roxy LIKES BLACK PEOPLE

[Just_Dream]

demolished + Tung - Oh, I never stated that I thought she hate white guys, just that she prefers to only date Asian guys. She explicitly states that she will ONLY date Asian guys because she said "I have nothing against interracial dating...but it is just not for me." That's where my insinuation came from.

And since Tung gave us all a little story, I will too. It's cool, I used to like a guy who was half Mexican, half Filipino. He wasn't really a looker, but I thought he was cool personality-wise. I also did like a Mexican guy in elementary school. I also think this OTHER Mexican dude liked me too, but I would never date him because his personality is just baddddd. I did like a white guy back in elementary school too -- lol @ innocent love liking. But yea I am open-minded if the guy is attractive - personality-wise and maybe even looks-wise. I have a preference for Asian guys because I've come across a lot more attractive Asian guys than guys of other races, EXCLUDING celebrities. lol that Korean chick is watching WAYYYYY too many Korean dramas.

Man, it seems like most of the Asians breaking into the American media partake in roles involving, karate/kung fu/taekwondo, street racing (because apparently "all Asians drive rice rockets"), and horror.

[demolished]

demolished + Tung - Oh, I never stated that I thought she hate white guys, just that she prefers to only date Asian guys. She explicitly states that she will ONLY date Asian guys because she said "I have nothing against interracial dating...but it is just not for me." That's where my insinuation came from.

Oh, i wasnt referring to you at all. soryyyyyyyyyy.
And, I was wrong about one too. Sorry. Sometimes I have to reread her entry to absorb informations so I don't misrepresent the false details.

Man, it seems like most of the Asians breaking into the American media partake in roles involving, karate/kung fu/taekwondo, street racing (because apparently "all Asians drive rice rockets"), and horror.

Exactly ... especially the grudge or the girl (one of those ghost looks Asian) I think this guy who was in American Pie for WB portrayed himself all right? I don't
remember.

[Just_Dream]

Oh, i wasnt referring to you at all. soryyyyyyyyyy. And, I was wrong about one too. Sorry. Sometimes I have to reread her entry to absorb informations so I don't misrepresent the false details.

Exactly ... especially the grudge or the girl (one of those ghost looks Asian) I think this guy who was in American Pie for WB portrayed himself all right? I don't
remember.

Naw, it's cool. I also apologize because you bolded the part where Tung was responding to me, so I got confused too. No problemo.

Oh man, and wtf is with these American remakes of Asian films (The Ring, The Grudge, Shutter, My Sassy Girl, etc). =_= ............ They don't even do justice to the original, even though the American version of The Grudge (first one, not Ju-On) was hella scary.

[*chaneun*]

i love me some white boy

[brooklyneast05]

i think tung and others have already pretty much said what i would have said to this. i thought it was a good read, but i was a little confused when she was saying she hated the narrow minded view and then proclaimed the same view for herself a few sentences later.

i can understand preferences to a race, but i can't understand when people assert they will only date one specific one ever in their entire life.

[fagget]

If you're attractive, you're attractive. I have no problem dating different races, especially my own race(s).
I actually wish I was full Asian, maybe then I'll attract some Asian guys.

[queen]

lol, i just finished reading this post on xanga and was about to make a topic ;o
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i've dated different ethnicities/races, although i admit, the entire time in the back of my mind, i couldn't see myself settling down with a non-filipino. casual dating's fine, even falling in love is fine, but when it comes down to it, i wouldn't be able to stand living with cultural differences for more than a year, let alone the rest of my life.

i could understand her preferences 'cause i view it as a more extreme version of my personal opinion.

[demolished]

I dont know if you guys share the same view as i do ... but here,

The point is that she prefers to date Asian men, because she does not want to be any other stereotypical Asian girl BASE ON HER EXPERIENCES. Dating from real love opportunity and dating from stereotypes are two separate ideas.

Yeah, when i read people's comment to her entry in xanga, i wasnt sure if they get her point across ... (but i assume)

If you're attractive, you're attractive. I have no problem dating different races, especially my own race(s).
I actually wish I was full Asian, maybe then I'll attract some Asian guys.

Use skin-lightening products ...?
Anyways, if you wanted to be full Asian, you probably wont look the same and not carry the same genes from different parents. Honestly, you look very fioneee.
I'm Asian.

[ReggieM]

i wouldn't be able to stand living with cultural differences for more than a year, let alone the rest of my life.

the way i feel as well

[brooklyneast05]

the way i feel as well

i don't even know if i can stand living with a black girl the rest of my life either though, they are always getting angry at a for no good reason.

[Tung]

i don't even know if i can stand living with a black girl the rest of my life either though, they are always getting angry at a for no good reason.

I think all you 's really need is a bucket of KFC.

[brooklyneast05]

I think all you 's really need is a bucket of KFC.

[brooklyneast05]

jc -

tung -

[KryMeARiver]

I'm part honky too, so I really wouldn't mind going out with a white girl, but I consider myself Asian and thus prefer other Asians.

[ReggieM]

i don't even know if i can stand living with a black girl the rest of my life either though, they are always getting angry at a for no good reason.

hmm i dont know that many black girls maby i might consider my desicion lol.

[fire]

I don't understand the use of santa smilies.

[Sandraaa]

i don't even know if i can stand living with a black girl the rest of my life either though, they are always getting angry at a for no good reason.

LMAO! I don't think I can actually have a long relationship with a Black guy either. They got no heart. *shakes head*

I used to actually think that dating someone out of your race was a no no. Anyway, my boyfriend is Spanish.

[sixfive]

Retarded.