(Ex-) Boyfriend is gay. Options

[pinacoolada]

Hey guys. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this. My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years told me he was gay two days ago. It was a very messy break up, and I'm extremely hurt. He came out to me as bisexual about 2 weeks ago and he said my support and acceptance has helped him accept himself and his sexuality. While I'm happy for him and glad that he got it out to someone, I feel horrible for myself. This person was my best friend and things were great with us. He told me he has always known that he was attracted to guys, and that he suppressed it. He also said he genuinely loved me and was genuinely attracted to me, but the attraction diminished slowly beginning about 4 months ago, when he started admitting his sexuality to himself.

I am utterly lost, and I know I need to get over him, but this just hurts so much. I feel like someone has punched a hole through me. Has anyone else gone through a similar situation? How did you cope? When does it stop feeling so empty?

[sixfive]

want a serious answer? I seriously just took this dump and it was one of those that not only went into the whole but it started to wrap around and came out of the water. That was a serious dump.

[Blyat]

want a serious answer? I seriously just took this dump and it was one of those that not only went into the whole but it started to wrap around and came out of the water. That was a serious dump.

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But look at the bright side, you're his last girl he'll ever have so no girl competition.
But the point is not to blame yourself. He is who he is now and he might not change. And in those last 4 months that got weird, he prolly was experimenting, especially if you had an intimate moment (hence maybe another reason there wasn't so much of it?)