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Posted by: troubled_angel Mar 8 2005, 07:05 PM

Hey, i was just curious what everyone's veiws on Friends with benifits was. Where i am its more popular than actual going out, but then some of my friends still get hurt pretty bad when they start liking the dude. Whatcha'll think of FWB?

Posted by: cRaZiiXbEauTiFul Mar 8 2005, 07:19 PM

umm...im kind of confused..but i think i know what you mean...but if im right about what it is, then, i think its stupid. why dont people just..go out??

Posted by: DaToNeViEtBoI916 Mar 8 2005, 07:21 PM

its a bad idea to have a friend with benefits. somebody's feelings are boudn to get hurt.

Posted by: StarlitxFrosT Mar 8 2005, 07:23 PM

it's disaster waiting to happen. Hearts waiting to be destroyed. Feelings ready to git hurt. Mistakes waiting to take place. very cheap way to hook up

Posted by: Frankie Mar 8 2005, 07:39 PM

embrace the search button, please!!!!

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=65154&hl=benefits

Posted by: _sarcastic_ Mar 8 2005, 07:53 PM

agrees with everything

Posted by: nevernothere Mar 8 2005, 07:55 PM

It's okay. I take what I can get... and I can get FWB easier than GF.

Posted by: swe3ttemptasian Mar 8 2005, 07:55 PM

yuppp

Posted by: EmmalieV Mar 8 2005, 07:59 PM

Dont do it , feelings will eventually start to emerge.

Posted by: CUTEBUNNY160 Mar 8 2005, 08:12 PM

nope i dont do it its just wierd

Posted by: jordanriane Mar 8 2005, 08:18 PM

Friends with benefits are for those who aren't looking for a relationship, but want something (normally, sex is associated with FWB's). Personally, if you're a person who can grow easily attached, then this method of a no-strings-attached friendship is definitely not for you.

I had a fwb in the past, and personally, it was okay for me, since I'm not easily attached to a person.. My friend was on a different path, because a few months later he had wanted to start a real relationship, something I didn't want, so I ended it with him.

Posted by: you suck Mar 8 2005, 08:32 PM

hmm im kinda in that situation now...n it sucks.

Posted by: jordanriane Mar 8 2005, 08:34 PM

What sucks about it? If you need any help/advice, I'd be willing to offer.
PM me if you want to! :)

Posted by: DrEaMgUy2K1 Mar 8 2005, 11:02 PM

ive had 3, sigh , sometimes its good, but feelings always get mixed in it, or sometimes u feel empty and u want something more so yeah....not really a good idea

Posted by: usv04babe Mar 8 2005, 11:16 PM

Friends with benifits can be fun, but it always leads to be a mess. I have had one or two. It depends on the kind of friends with benifits you are. You do have different like stages of it.

Posted by: booger butt Mar 8 2005, 11:30 PM

From personal experience with my ex-boyfriend(we became friends with benefits after we broke up) and its so NOT a good idea. I totally freaked out and became distant and all. A BIG MESS!

But if its your thing, then go for it. No judgement.

Posted by: stephinika Mar 8 2005, 11:32 PM

aren't there topics on this?

anyways, it depends on the person really...they can be okay but sometimes one person ends up having feelings for the other and that just ends up being a mess...

Posted by: AngelicEyz00 Mar 8 2005, 11:36 PM

I was against it... but um... ... i guess I no longer am...? -_-

Posted by: silver rain Mar 8 2005, 11:58 PM

I don't really like it, because someone is bound to get hurt.

Posted by: B1onde_1ns1de Mar 10 2005, 10:13 PM

yea me 2....

Posted by: Fatality Mar 10 2005, 10:17 PM

Friends with benefits is bad because someone always get's attached.

Posted by: royalfreshness Mar 12 2005, 05:57 PM

i think it's hot and i wouldnt mind it. but w/certain friends... i wouldnt want to get emotional about them..

Posted by: mickybeans Mar 12 2005, 06:25 PM

i completely agree with everything you said!

Posted by: Programmer Mar 12 2005, 06:58 PM

...the responsiblility of a relationship....scares most people into not wanting a relationship....but yet we get jelious when the girl...flirts with another guy or visa versa...but yet we were not their boyfriend or girlfriend....

confusing...

Posted by: CRAZEDindian40 Mar 12 2005, 07:57 PM

Friends with benefits gets old, I want something more than just the physical.

Posted by: purestkiss101 Mar 12 2005, 10:20 PM

been in one once before kinda. --right after a break up-- dont do it..things can get alot worse than before

Posted by: lilsweetdevil08 Mar 12 2005, 10:25 PM

I think FWB is alright. You can't fall in love. You can't get hurt. You can do whatever you want with any of your friends you want, but is it alright with them?

I don't do FWB though. I see people that do it. Yea...That's right.

Posted by: teeners__15 Mar 12 2005, 10:27 PM

friend with benefits? we call it friends with privleges here dont know how to spell it but anywho FWP is okay as long neither one is dating anyone. and if one does start dating the other one it should stop. unless the other one gets jealous...thats where it kinda get messed up.


but im a fan of it =)

Posted by: dani41790 Mar 13 2005, 04:33 AM

i really dont like the idea

Posted by: Shattered_Hope Mar 13 2005, 03:05 PM

It's not a good idea because one or the other always gets hurt...normally anyway.

Posted by: justalanna Mar 13 2005, 05:20 PM

Friends with Benifits only exists because people are afraid of commitment. This fear causes pain because most people who are involved in one of these relationships get hurt. I wouldn't recommend it. Try an actual relationship, with meaningful conversations as well as physicalness. =)

Posted by: LoST SouL Mar 13 2005, 09:53 PM

i thinkt heir good as long as u dun fall head ova heels... friends wit benifits meens no attachments

Posted by: Rachel is love Mar 13 2005, 10:10 PM

most girls can't deal with it....well i guess it can be the guy too...but usually someone just ends up getting hurt.

Posted by: jordanriane Mar 14 2005, 12:49 AM

I did not have FWB relationships because I was afraid of commitment; I've been in a few commited relationships (and a few, because obviously, they were for quite some time). Sometimes people take the route of FWB because they're not looking for anything at the moment, just some casual sex with the same person, no strings attached.

Posted by: DrEaMgUy2K1 Mar 14 2005, 04:09 AM

yea nicely put. Sometimes u just want to get away from all the drama problems and seriousness and kick back and have some casual sex along the road =] .

Posted by: Krunk_Muzik Mar 14 2005, 10:52 PM

I think its GREAT!!!!! I have ALOT of friends with benefits! lol. I dont see nothing wrong with that!

Posted by: jordanriane Mar 15 2005, 12:38 AM

Krunk_Muzik, I used to live in Tinley Park ;)
Also, most of my friends go to U of I.
It's a shame they lost recently, they would've been the first team in awhile to go undefeated. -tear-

Posted by: cleec Mar 16 2005, 12:06 PM

I think it is both good and bad.

The good: You have fun with the person without having to be obligated to talk to them all the time. Bottom line is that kissing is fun, and it's more spontaneous if it just happens

The bad: Usually someone is bound to think of the other person as more than a friend. Feelings can get hurt really badly if the person doesn't return the feeling.

I don't mind it, personally, but I see where everyone else is coming from when they say it is bad.

Posted by: norconlipentut Mar 16 2005, 12:09 PM

i agree completely

Posted by: someflipguy Mar 16 2005, 01:28 PM

Sex - Yes

Friends w/benefits - No

Posted by: blowpops69 Mar 16 2005, 01:50 PM

friends with benifits...sigh.
there fun for a while, then get boring

Posted by: cHuNsAbAbIe012 Mar 16 2005, 02:35 PM

i think that as long as there's no strings attached its ok. but i think that for me n e way i would be really disgusted with myself for wat i was doing. i would be ashamed of myself n it would not b something i would wanna talk about with my friends. n also it's bound to effect someone.

but dont u think ur a better person than that? u guys settle for so much less. u can have so much more. if u have FWB then honestly u SHOULD be ashamed because you r SO much better than that. u think thats all ur body is worth...n that's not good. its something u should cherish. that's wat i mostly think of it...u deserve so much better. that's all i gotta say..

Posted by: s0pnayish Mar 17 2005, 12:57 AM

I don't really like it, but if you're the type who isn't into commitment, then go for it. Whatever floats your boat.

Posted by: Teesa Mar 17 2005, 08:41 PM

I think it's a horrible idea because someone always ends up getting hurt.

Posted by: mickybeans Mar 17 2005, 08:59 PM

i dont like the thought of pseudo- relationships because no matter what, it'll always end up causing one's feelings/heart to be broken and hurt.

Posted by: M1SSxCHR1SSY Mar 17 2005, 09:19 PM

Well friends with benefits really depends on how many benefits and why you want to just be friends with benefits. Let's say, you just miss kissing someone so you and your friend occasionally make out or something. Then I guess that could be okay as long as you don't get emotionally attached, which is hard not to do. But if you want to be friends with benefits with someone because you possibly just got out of a relationship and it was hurtful so you condemn them, then I would have to say, no. If you're doing it as a way to get out of being hurt then you will be sadly mistaken because many people can still get hurt. If you're doing it just because you want to, you miss how it feels, then sure, why not? Even though there still might be a chance of getting hurt. ....Kind of confusing haha.

Posted by: miss barnes Mar 17 2005, 09:45 PM

i have a friend with benefit right now...i like it

Posted by: krnxswat Mar 17 2005, 09:49 PM

Never had FWB, but it'd be kind of cool.

Posted by: whatiismae Mar 17 2005, 10:51 PM

that is a horrible idea. both parties are being used physically and it can only end in disaster.

Posted by: salcha Mar 17 2005, 11:27 PM

uhhh no no no no no...someone is going to get hurrrrrrrrt.

Posted by: Jhaks Mar 18 2005, 02:31 AM

Agreed





Those who support FWB are simply afraid. As many of them admit they don't want the drama, don't want the head ache. WELL TOO BAD. Life is a head ache, and a blessing too if you can get over the migraine. Why settling for something empty when you can have something much more meaningful and fulfilling? It just takes gumption and drive, the perfection of intent.
I'm sorry; FWB is just a twisted idea of emotionless lust... Emotionless. Stay that way if you really want to.

Posted by: KbabyLS7 Mar 30 2005, 11:23 PM

"hmm im kinda in that situation now...n it sucks."

^yeah same... It's with an ex who i've known and loved forever... don't get me wrong.. the physical part is good lol. But people find out and it ruins your reputation and plus because of it I just can't get over him! So unless you're willing to go throught the heartache to get that pleasure I'd avoid it... plus it make it hard to move on and date other people... no matter how much you want to! And plus I just want a real relationship.. it may not seem like it but it's sooo much easier!

Posted by: illuminessence Mar 31 2005, 10:09 AM

First of all, it's all about being willing to commit. Besides, ppl can just be attracted to other ppl and not want all the commitment that's included in an actual relationship.

I've had my friends with benefits experience and it reaked of havoc. Try to stay away. It may feel good, but there's always a chance of one person wanting something completely different than the other. One person always ends up wanting more.

Posted by: mzkandi Mar 31 2005, 10:14 AM

i had a friends with benefits relationship but the guy i was having it with was started to catch strong feelings when i beginning to think it was time to end the relationship. being in college this type of relationship is so common. i would say half the people involved in this type of relationship can deal with it but with the other half there is usually someone getting hurts, mostly the famales.

Posted by: sammi rules you Mar 31 2005, 10:39 AM

well, if you're not ready for a relationship yet, but you just wanna have fun, i think that's the way to go. and it avoids having a really long relationship and getting more hurt in the end.

Posted by: d3lightx3 Mar 31 2005, 11:48 AM

I think its pretty horrible. Theyre using each other... that sucks.

Posted by: racoons > you Mar 31 2005, 02:21 PM

i agree with sammi for a change. lol

serously. fun with no commitment/complex break ups.
whats better?

Posted by: ItzOnlySydney Mar 31 2005, 02:24 PM

my friend got pregnant of that "friends with benifits" situation. so i no likey.

Posted by: lilliannnn May 1 2005, 07:42 PM

i searched before i started a new topic, you should be proud. :p

but yes, i like friends with benefits. i've been in these situations many times (currently now) and it's fun. it only didn't work out once and i got like depressed over it (i still am meh) but besides that it's fun.

friends + kissing = yay

Posted by: mouse_3k May 1 2005, 08:10 PM

its stupid because someone always ends up hurt.

Posted by: Kneuklid Romance May 1 2005, 08:20 PM

.....I'm simply not for it. I'm a commitment type I suppose..

...Don't know...there's just too much deception and mixed feelings going around. Too many of those can lead to confusion...and only goes weird from there...bleh.

-Kevyn

Posted by: x3__iGiVEup May 1 2005, 08:51 PM

it's not good to have friends with benifits. it gives the other person to go around kissing everyone.

Posted by: WrathOfOnigo May 1 2005, 09:02 PM

I don't see why they just don't go out! If you don't love the other person than why get physical?
.:starts singing the "let's get physical" song:.

Posted by: harlemchick Apr 22 2011, 01:37 PM

I had friends with benifits, it was fun while it lasted before I decided to move on and cut that part of my life out. Feelings for the person no. But if you got caught up while doing so the person needs to be told and may be they can get off the relationship bench