how did you wait to say i love you and who should say it first? |
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 Oct 18 2009, 01:37 AM
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 never settle for less than what you deserve.  Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920  |
im wondering how long it should take for me or anybody in general to say "i love you" first? and WHO should say it first?? is it the same old rule still where the guy should it first?
im just afraid of scaring my guy off or be like WTF? i really do want to say it first but the fear of rejection and scaring him off are things im worried about. also, we're not bf/gf yet, dating for almost 3months now..but we've said it in other ways/forms of i love you but not the legit "i love you" form. plus im thinking it maybe too quick but then a friend of mine said i should just say bc i wouldnt be feeling like this if it wasnt what i felt and so that way he just knows and its better than not ever telling him at all. and if he doesnt say it back that it doesnt mean he doesnt care, hes just not ready. im just real confused right now. |
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Oct 18 2009, 02:35 AM
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 R.I.P JDL Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 652,668 |
Saying I love you is different for any relationship. It all depends on how you feel. Some people say it right away, others it takes months/years w/e. If it's the way you feel and you believe he is the one and it isn't just a little fling, then tell him how you feel. It may turn out badly, but it's worth a try isn't it? You never know, he may feel the same. Trust in your friends advice =)
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Oct 18 2009, 11:18 AM
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 i like boobies, yes I do. I like boobies - how 'bout you? Group: Member Posts: 620 Joined: Jun 2008 Member No: 662,457 |
I said it first. In fact, I said it first three times before he said it back. It made my day like WHAM.
Are you sure you actually love him, or are you still in the infatuation stage? There's a difference between loving a friend like crazymad and loving someone you would be happy to spend the rest of your life with. |
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Oct 18 2009, 12:44 PM
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never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
QUOTE(HeartOfPandora @ Oct 18 2009, 09:18 AM)  I said it first. In fact, I said it first three times before he said it back. It made my day like WHAM. Are you sure you actually love him, or are you still in the infatuation stage? There's a difference between loving a friend like crazymad and loving someone you would be happy to spend the rest of your life with. i actually do love him, like i really dont know how else to explain it into words but after 21 yrs of dating guys and being in a relationship w/a few. this current gives me weird feeling ive never felt before..and my heart is agreeing with every little thing that i am. im past the infatuation stage...bc that was for the first few wks before we decided to go out and even the 1st month i was infatuation but after that till now..its past that. |
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Nov 7 2009, 02:00 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 2009 Member No: 751,487 |
if you love him you love him, no questions asked. just dont be the 1st to say it =p
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Nov 8 2009, 12:01 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,938 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 667,832 |
/\ like she said basically
If he really loves you (no matter the situation) he will stay with you no matter how awkward it is i said it to my bf and ran off :p |
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Nov 8 2009, 12:13 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
i think i waited like.. 30 minutes after i realized i like him to say i love you. i think he said it first, i dont remember. sort of the same time. that was kind of really fast but, oh it worked.
different for every relationship though. however i dont think there's a rule to who says it first. if you figure that you really do love this guy, and the moment is right (like, not in the middle of discussing his dead puppy) then you could say it first. |
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Nov 8 2009, 04:56 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 2009 Member No: 751,487 |
but then again think of how he would feel. what if he dont love u back? would u be hurt by that?
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Nov 8 2009, 05:47 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,938 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 667,832 |
Want the easiest answer?
Go to him and say "i love you' There. |
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Nov 8 2009, 07:53 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
QUOTE(JENNYGETSILLAY @ Nov 8 2009, 03:56 AM) but then again think of how he would feel. what if he dont love u back? would u be hurt by that? I don't think anyone would want the person they're dating to lie to them, but I also don't think anyone would want to date someone if the feelings weren't mutual. Even if it might suck to hear that he can't say it back to you, it's better than him lying and you falling more in love with him. |
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Nov 9 2009, 09:11 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 2009 Member No: 751,487 |
QUOTE(karmakiller @ Nov 8 2009, 07:53 PM) I don't think anyone would want the person they're dating to lie to them, but I also don't think anyone would want to date someone if the feelings weren't mutual. Even if it might suck to hear that he can't say it back to you, it's better than him lying and you falling more in love with him. yeah exactlyy |
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