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Is it a little too much?
MrStrife
post Aug 12 2010, 11:33 AM
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So I was talking with my friend earlier in the morning and she was crying, in pain, and basically at an all-time low. See, she just got dumped by a dude that left her to go back to his babymama. So I'm there doing my best to comfort her and trying my best to be honest while considering how she'd feel at the same time. But thing is, even though I got to put a smile on her cute face, I can't help but feel as though I was being a little flirty in an inappropiate situation. Like I offered to take her out to make her feel better and let her know she can talk to me anytime. Does it sound like I'm being a scumbag trying to take advantage or I'm just trying a little too hard to be a good friend?
 
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post Aug 12 2010, 11:41 AM
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yes. stop being a flirtatious manwhore
 
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post Aug 12 2010, 11:41 AM
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QUOTE(MrStrife @ Aug 12 2010, 08:33 AM) *
So I was talking with my friend earlier in the morning and she was crying, in pain, and basically at an all-time low. See, she just got dumped by a dude that left her to go back to his baby mama. So I'm there doing my best to comfort her and trying my best to be honest while considering how she'd feel at the same time. But thing is, even though I got to put a smile on her cute face, I can't help but feel as though I was being a little flirty in an inappropriate situation. Like I offered to take her out to make her feel better and let her know she can talk to me anytime. Does it sound like I'm being a scumbag trying to take advantage or I'm just trying a little too hard to be a good friend?



Well, sir. It depends on your point of view? DO YOU LIKE HER AT ALL?
I think you're just being a good friend. There's nothing to worry about.
and wtf that break-up must have sucked.
 
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post Aug 12 2010, 11:46 AM
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Yeah, she's taking it really hard. Like blaming herself and feeling like nothing. Which is ridiculous because like I told her, she is amazing.

Oh and to answer the question, No. I don't like her like that, but I also don't mind being her friend. You know, that friend. That friend that's oh so sweet to her and shares stories/poems you know. It's just that I have no idea what she's thinking.
 
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post Aug 12 2010, 11:55 AM
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Just keep on making her feel better, but if it gets to a point that you're starting to like her or she's starting to like you, then back away.
 
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post Aug 12 2010, 12:20 PM
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yes listen to a f****t's advice
 
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post Aug 12 2010, 12:27 PM
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no? what else are you gonna do? say "hey, i won't take you out to make you feel better and you can't talk to me anytime."


you're just saying the only logical thing there is to say to an upset friend.
 
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post Aug 13 2010, 06:08 AM
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Let's dissect this post.

So I was talking with my friend earlier in the morning and she was crying, in pain, and basically at an all-time low.

Continue, although I have a feeling this is going to turn into an emotional tampon story.
See, she just got dumped by a dude that left her to go back to his babymama. So I'm there doing my best to comfort her
Yep, you are Mr. Emotional Tampon to her.
and trying my best to be honest while considering how she'd feel at the same time.
Honesty is good. But what was there to consider about her feelings? She got dumped by a guy. She's 'sad' while she's on the lookout for a new one.
But thing is, even though I got to put a smile on her cute face, I can't help but feel as though I was being a little flirty in an inappropiate situation.
Why is flirting inappropriate in this situation? If anything that would make her smile more.
Like I offered to take her out to make her feel better
You don't offer to take a girl out. You don't lower your value around a girl. You just f*cking take her out. Are you a man or are you a twig?
And let her know she can talk to me anytime.
Again, that is not very attractive either. You're basically telling her "hey if you want me to soak up some more of your problems, i'm here, your own personal tampon"
Does it sound like I'm being a scumbag trying to take advantage or I'm just trying a little too hard to be a good friend?
The latter, and it's not going to get you anything. You were trying way too hard.

Roissy Maxim #101: For most women, five minutes of alpha is worth five years of beta.
 
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post Aug 13 2010, 02:41 PM
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^ I got to give it you. That was an awesome post and I understand your point. I'm like eff that ish from now on. Also, I love the Roissy Maxim. That's the truth.
 

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