For people in relationships..., how do you know you're loved... Options

[DeadlyKitten]

just curious, i guess, but how do you know your boyfriend or girl friend loves you aside from the fact that they say it? i know every guy and girl are different in how they show emotions so i had to ask. i know i had a post almost identical to this one but this is more for other people then myself...well...more for a friend.

(i talked to a friend about how she knows and i want to see ways other people know)

[DoubleJ]

It is just one of those things that you just know. It is that connection that you sense as soon as you two are together, or you hear the other persons voice, etc. Love is something that people on a forum can't tell you if you have it or not. It has to come from within, and you have to be able to feel it. Somebody may say that they love you, just get what they want from you. You must be able to tell on your own whether that person loves you or not.

[superficial]

Actions speak louder than words. To me, one person could show that they love me if they're there for me at my hardest times, and they accept my flaws. They do sweet little things even if it's from wearing your favorite cologne or looking into your eyes with sincerity. Also, eyes can speak a lot about how that person feels about you. If your boyfriend/girlfriend looks at you with bold, loving, and comforting eyes, you can know that he/she loves you.

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

Hmmm...know I understand when my gf tells me that she can sense it when I look at her...hermmm :P

[Reidar]

Upon interaction with a human female of healthy breeding age, I run tests on pheromone, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin presence afflicting the subject's cognitive processes via neurological diagnostics.

Through extensive research, a cure will be found.

[veronius]

Well, when you know they do what it takes (within reason) to be with you.
When they know when something's wrong, and then try to fix it.
When they gaze straight into your eyes, at the same time you decide to look into theirs.
When you look at her, and you know that nothing else really matters.
When time flies by when you're together.
When she "melts" every time you tell her you love her.
And then, you just know.

[tokyo-rose]

This might help you too.

There's no one way to tell if your boyfriend loves you. Ultimately, you just know. Don't question it so much; when you really love each other, you'll feel it.

[stephinika]

^^
Agreed. The actions speak louder than words thing is so very true in this case.

[miyashu]

I also agree that actions have the most impact. whether it's helping you cope through a tragedy or simply holding you close, these kinds of things are signs of love/friendship. "true" love involves accepting someone despite their flaws and cherishing him/her even in their most vulnerable moments. you don't try to change your partner (unless it's some drug-related problem and you want to help him quit). i know these are generalizations and in the end, it's up to you to find out. like others have said, you'll just know.

I think shakespeare's sonnet 116 pretty much sums it up for me.

[WillTeddy]

it's when no matter what situation you're in, he/she will always forgive you and be there to support you when you need it most.

[DeadlyKitten]

i agree with all of you. my bf is some what...well...he just doesnt show emotions often enough. it bugs me but he does other things that i have to remind myself of. he'll always give me neck rubs when i ask, he'll get things for me when i dont feel like moving (i.e. laziness haha), he drives me almost anywhere (i dont drive), he's willing to give up anything to be with me...aside from friends and ciggarettes which the friends part isnt something i'd ask of him anyways and if it came down to it he'd at least not smoke around me and would quit in the long run if i asked. he may not buy me things for me, like roses and little gifts or tell me he loves me all the time but he will, when it comes down to it, do anything for me. i love him for that...and for that i know he loves me.