How to build confidence |
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 Dec 6 2007, 07:36 PM
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I've been teaching my friend how to, I guess, 'dance' for quite some time now. But, he really has very low self-esteem and yet I don't know how to boost it up and such.
Any word or advice to help him build confidence? |
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Dec 6 2007, 07:40 PM
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Is he fat, or something? What's his problem?
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Dec 6 2007, 07:42 PM
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Send him to a shrink.
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Dec 6 2007, 07:42 PM
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Measure how big his dick is. If it's 6 inches and bigger, he'll have so much confidence.
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Dec 6 2007, 07:44 PM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 6 2007, 06:40 PM)  Is he fat, or something? What's his problem? I wouldn't say he's fat, just big boned and such. He's just embarrassed in performance even though no one is watching him except me. It's just like public speaking or so. |
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Dec 6 2007, 07:49 PM
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your "friend" huh?
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Dec 6 2007, 07:50 PM
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Not a lot to be done here except continual reassurances and kind words.
Self esteem takes a long while to build back if it's been knocked down. I was listening to the 'Sunday Surgery' on Radio 1 once, and it recommended anyone with low self esteem should stand in front of a mirror and think of all the positive things that have been said about them by other people - and concentrate solely on those. |
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Dec 6 2007, 07:56 PM
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QUOTE(LianaIsTheShit @ Dec 6 2007, 06:49 PM) your "friend" huh? That was gay. And to keep his self esteem up, go on and volunteer words of encouragement as often as possible. |
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Dec 6 2007, 07:57 PM
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QUOTE(LianaIsTheShit @ Dec 6 2007, 04:49 PM) your "friend" huh? Your "sister" huh? |
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Dec 6 2007, 08:00 PM
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QUOTE(Elba @ Dec 6 2007, 08:57 PM) Your "sister" huh? hahahaha. is your friend white? |
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Dec 6 2007, 08:05 PM
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QUOTE(jeanna @ Dec 6 2007, 07:00 PM) is your friend white? Nope, Asian like me. But He's more prep-ish I guess. |
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Dec 6 2007, 08:09 PM
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idk, there are a lot of dance videos out there. maybe check you tube
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Dec 6 2007, 08:10 PM
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Buy him a gun.
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Dec 6 2007, 08:15 PM
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QUOTE(banhbao @ Dec 6 2007, 07:07 PM) ...he needs to be more social. Mhmm, his friends are my friends, but though I have way more. QUOTE(false @ Dec 6 2007, 07:10 PM) Buy him a gun. I wonder how he would react to that .. |
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Dec 6 2007, 08:43 PM
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Well, thanks for the tips and such.
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Dec 7 2007, 12:30 AM
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QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Dec 6 2007, 04:42 PM) Measure how big his dick is. If it's 6 inches and bigger, he'll have so much confidence. |
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Dec 7 2007, 12:36 AM
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QUOTE(LianaIsTheShit @ Dec 6 2007, 04:49 PM) your "friend" huh? dat was AWESOMEE..   anyway.. hang out with him and you show him.. easy nuff rite../ you the leaderr and he'll follow n mimic. bring him to your group of friends or just hang out together and show him the way.. QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Dec 6 2007, 04:42 PM) Measure how big his dick is. If it's 6 inches and bigger, he'll have so much confidence. LMAO!!! |
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Dec 7 2007, 01:23 AM
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Big Boned?
 that isn't even possible.Anyway...hmm.. Tips for building self-confidence * Know and accept yourself. Know what you can do and want. If you love yourself others will also. * Acknowledge your accomplishment. Prepare a list of positive achievements and personality characteristics. Post this where you can read it daily. * Don't change to please others. Don't compare yourself to or compete with others. Do maximise your strengths. * Believe in yourself. Affirm yourself. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Say, "I can accomplish this easily and effortlessly." "I'm confident, intelligent, caring and attractive" (or whatever you want to be). * Visualise your goals. Imagine yourself going through an anxiety-arousing situation with competence and confidence. * Speak up. Share your thoughts, opinions and preferences. * Reward yourself. Each morning think of something positive to do for yourself. Every time you pull through a challenging or negative experience, give yourself a treat. * Enjoy success. Measure yourself by what you have done, what you are doing, and what you can do. Keep a daily, weekly, or monthly record of your accomplishment and build on these. Each day do something a little better than yesterday. * The exhilaration of achievement will make you feel good. * Become an expert. Research a subject and share it with others. Moved to Relationships.. |
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