ADVICE NEEDED!~ BOY ISSUE!, he treats me like shit...but i still like him a bit... |
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 Dec 23 2006, 02:33 PM
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 im the monster, hear me roar.  Group: Member Posts: 11 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,612  |
i have a slight problem...
i started new skool in Sept. ... and since about the 2nd or 3rd month of school ive had a crush on this really hot, athletic guy at skool. lets call him Rudy. so i have liked Rudy for the longest...and i have no idea why. something attracts me to him even tho hes the biggest jerk-off that has ever lived. and let me tell you why... one day Rudy and all of his friends were hangin out in the hallway at the end of the day. so one of his friends...lets call him Matt ... asked me if i really liked Rudy. now lets keep in mind that Rudy is standing right in front of me while this question was being asked. thinking i had nothing to lose i did not deny it one bit and said "yes...i do. problem?" and i walked away. about 12-18 minutes later im walking in the hall and i just so happen to see Matt and Rudy and their 'posse' at the lunchroom door. we begin talking about me liking Rudy and i just blurt out.."well he doesnt like me so idc" Rudy says.."how do you know?" meaning that maybe he does have feelings for me. so we get to talking and i give him my #...and..something tells me that it wasnt real. =/ so days go by...and i find out that Rudy has a girlfriend. lets call her Kiana. and not only does he have a g/f...he had been dating Kiana for the past 2 years...uk that made me feel like utter and complete shitake. so as more and more people begin to hear about my once-secret crush on Rudy, they begin to tease me and him about it...like calling me by his name and him by mine...and i just keep getting madder and madder day by day... and to make matters worse...he told his g/f that i had a crush on him. so now she secretly hates my guts...also, Kiana comes to all of Rudy's basketball games...when i have to cheerlead for the team and sits right in front of me. and whenever he makes a basket, she makes it a point to claim her territory by shouting his name at the top of her lungs and adding "thats my baby!" at the end of each sentence. oh...but the drama doesnt stop there... at the last basketball game, i see him and her walking and talking together. so i ignore him and what does he do? he tries to hide from me. yeah. he hid behind the trophee shelf and just stood there. then from the corner of my eye, i see him and her pointing and laughin in my direction. so when i glanced over there, they spun their heads back around. soon i just left and i decided to give him the coldest shoulder ever felt by man for the rest of his high school days... 3 days have gone by and i have been acting like he doesnt even exist anymore. and its goin along well...but idk. i still my like him. should i continue to be mean or not? ADVICE NEEDED. thanks much, rXh |
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Dec 23 2006, 02:58 PM
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Yeesh... Well I've told guys who've had gfs that I liked em but this is.. he's a jerk and so I'd just ignore him. He's not worth gettnig angry over and he's kinda weird because you're appearently important enough that he'll talk about you nonstop so just ignore him. If you don't react they'll get bored and start picking on someone else.
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Dec 23 2006, 03:08 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
what a bitch. kick him in his nuts and spit in his girlfriends face.
jk. well, only if you want to. Real talk that boys a bitch. i suggest you squash shit right now and walk up to him and tell him you dont like him anymore cos he's a f**king dick. even tho you might still, there just so much bullshit you can take from someone. |
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Dec 23 2006, 04:39 PM
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Wooow. You still like him?! Is he still with that girl? Maybe you guys could just be acquaintainces? or just online friends? I have guy friends online that I can talk to for forever but when I see them, there's just no interest in having a meaningful conversation.
Maybe you could bring up something nice or fun that happened in the past? If that Kiana girl is trying to send out the message that "that's her baby," she's scared to lose him. She's making an effort. Has he tried to talk to you in these 3 years? |
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| *x1227x* |
Dec 23 2006, 05:13 PM
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wtf? how can you like a guy like that? seriously? and that girl is a total bitch. just shrug them off your shoulder. just dont bother with people like that. just try to ignore him, and go on with your life. keke. hope everything works out. :)
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Dec 23 2006, 05:17 PM
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QUOTE(x1227x @ Dec 23 2006, 2:13 PM)  wtf? how can you like a guy like that? seriously? and that girl is a total bitch. just shrug them off your shoulder. just dont bother with people like that. just go up to him and be like "im over you," keke. hope everything works out. :) and ... |
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Dec 24 2006, 07:08 PM
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they're not even worth getting angry over
you're doing the right thing. act like he doesn't even exsist in school anymore |
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Dec 24 2006, 10:58 PM
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how about this. he didn't start anything; it was all you.
you're the cocky one who said, "yes, i like him. got a problem?" you're the one who said, "maybe he does have feelings for me!" just how well did you know this guy or know about this guy before you started to like him? it's neither his fault nor his girlfriend's about anything. he never liked you more than as a friend, if at all. he doesn't even care that you're giving him the "cold shoulder;" in fact, he probably laughs about it with his girlfriend. if this rudy fellow is anything like my boyfriend, then believe me, you're just another random girl trying to take my guy, who just doesn't happen to be interested in the slightest bit - from my point of view. we're in a similar situation, but on opposing sides. |
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Dec 25 2006, 08:15 AM
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 straight as a rainbow and twice as colorful Group: Member Posts: 523 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,415 |
I'd suggest you just ignore him. Dont try to be mean about it. Dont waste your energy on someone who doesnt deserve a second thought. Just move on with your life like nothing ever happened.
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Dec 29 2006, 09:31 PM
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he's a jerk, he doesn't deserve your attention, so just ignore him and move on, you'll find someone better.
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Jan 1 2007, 09:39 PM
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well just keep on ignoring him i mean guys will do any thing if hes inlove wit a girl even if it means that he has to breck up wit his long time girl friend cuz guys are more sencitive then girls
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Jan 1 2007, 10:59 PM
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QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Dec 24 2006, 7:08 PM) they're not even worth getting angry over you're doing the right thing. act like he doesn't even exsist in school anymore i agree. don't waste your time on them. 
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Jan 2 2007, 02:39 PM
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 x_pinaystyle_x Group: Member Posts: 472 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 366,326 |
damnn!! they're both bitches!!
i guess they were made for each other!! that guy is not worth being mean to and so is the girl. don't waste your energy being all mad about it! just get over him and tell him off! i know it's not that simple but hey! you said you liked him right in front of him! it takes a lot of guts to do that! so why don't you do the same thing but say something different?? something like you don't like him anymore!! i know you'll find a better guy than that jerk!! |
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Jan 3 2007, 02:14 PM
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im the monster, hear me roar. Group: Member Posts: 11 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,612 |
i never thought of it like that....if i told him to his face AND in front of his dudes then i can basically do anything! haha thanks everyone for the advice...and here an update:
his gpa died yesterday...and so he hasnt been in skool. thats really sad to think about :^( but yeahh... i havent spoken to him in awhile and when he comes back its going to be just like old times...the cold shoulder and errthang ... i mean ik his gpa died but if i had any impact on his life at all then he would care....but he doesnt care about me obv so i kant hurt him any =) |
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Jan 3 2007, 07:37 PM
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Well, based on what you told us, I don't think you did anything wrong. It was pretty lame for him to do what he did. Instead of leading you on like that he should have told you that he had a girlfriend.
She sounds threatened by you. Sounds like she's afraid she will loose her boyfriend to you. Do you want to extinguish this thing? - You need to confront her. Make sure it's one-on-one, and tell her something along the lines of: Look, I had no idea Rudy was dating you when I told him that I liked him. If had known things would have been difference. I'm not out to cause anyone stress and I apologize for that. - Confront Rudy however you like and say something like: Rudy when I told you that I liked you. You asked for my phone number and acted as if you liked me back. I don't know if you were trying to make me feel better or if you thought it was funny and you were being a jerk. Either way, you would have been better off just telling me you either had a girl friend or you didn't like me. Instead you lead me on, people made fun of us, and it was pretty embarrassing for us both. I don't like you anymore, and probably never will. You're either a complete idiot or a total jerk. After that just don't talk to them. I can't see why you would want to anyways. |
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