What to do..., when your "fiance" doesnt want to marry you? Options

[Stuckie]

Some of you may know that Im in the army and in Iraq at the moment. But the issue is kinda... yeah. I knew this girl for about 3 years or so. We've been on again off again for all of it. Mostly because of my field of work (A soldier). But I got stationed in Germany around mid July last year, so every time we talked was over the internet. MySpace to be exact. After a few months of messaging and liquor, I proposed to her. Over MySpace. I know its not classy, but I was drunk. And she accepted. So we're still communicating over the internet, and a week before Valentine's Day, I order a bouqet of lilies and a box of chocolate to get sent to her house. The next day I called her to tell her I sent her a gift for Valentine's Day. She told me I shouldn't have done that, because her boyfriend would get upset. So I hang up the phone and try to gather what just happened. I guess its not so much a question, as its more me venting to other random people for feedback. Any comments?

[brooklyneast05]

there's really no excuse to propose to someone over the internet like that. i get that if you're in two different places it's physically impossible to do it in person at the time, but if that's eh case you don't need to be proposing. i think it's pretty pointless to propose to someone you aren't with with at the moment. in that case you should wait until you're REALLY together.

i mean even if it had worked it would still be lame. women like that kinda shit and most of them think the whole proposing thing is a big moment in their life. why you would want them to have such a cold, lame, and unthoughtful memory to look back on for the rest of their life, i have no clue. i think that's pretty unthoughtful on your part. there's no reason a proposal couldn't be romantic. if you can't make that a good experience for the girl then you just aren't doing your job well enough imo.

i don't know. i just don't think you should be that offended that you proposed to someone DRUNK on myspace and it didn't work out. it was a bad way to go about the whole situation. proposing should be a big deal, not just something you do in passing as you're drunk. you're asking someone to be with you FOREVER, that's a pretty big deal and kind of an insult to do so drunk and on myspace.