boyfriend vs. close guy friend, they don't exactly get along Options

[*suddenly she*]

my boyfriend J is a junior in sr. high school and i have a close guy friend who's like my younger brother, K, who is a sophomore at my school (my age).

whenever anything happens at school that involves K and i being friends, like just how we got in trouble today with the algebra teacher for listening to music, J gets irritated when i tell him. it's a habit of ours to just let each other know what goes on at school. J tells me that K always acts immature and like a pansy. today when we spoke, he told me he didn't know any other juniors who liked him, and the fact that i am close friends with K bothers him. he said that we flirted with each other without any bad intentions, and that bothers him as well.

personally, i don't think i do anything like that. i used to be kind of uptight about complimenting my guy friends, but i've loosened up lately and laughed more with them. i honestly dont' think i am a flirt... i try to treat all my friends the same way, except i give J more attention.

this conflict between J and K has gone on for a while. i haven't done anything to prevent it, because they usually don't even talk, but he disapproves of how close K and i are. K doesn't have a low opinion of J, openly. however, J has not tried to convince me to stop being close friends with K. J only lets me know he dislikes him and leaves it at that.

advice would be great.

[orgasm]

Well, he has every right to tell you that he doesn't like the kid and I really respect him for not telling you to cut your friendship with K, b/c that'd be gay.

I'd just try to keep things status quo... but try be more observant of how you act with other guys, particularly K. A lot of times, we don't notice when we flirt. WE don't see it as flirting, but that doesn't mean other people don't see it as flirting... so... i think you should just be more aware of what you do and say.

I don't think it's that big of a deal. Everybody has people they don't like... it doesn't sound like it's been a huge problem so far, so I wouldn't worry about it.

[you stupid fag]

You mean girlfriend, in lieu of a 'boyfriend', right? Cause, afterall, you are a guy. Well, unless you are gay, which is still not acceptable.

[cassjamminx]

i've actually had a similar situation. except the other guy who was my friend (not my boyfriend) liked me and i didn't know it. him i and are still friends, though he doesn't like me anymore. my boyfriend was uncomfortable about us talking as friends because he knew that he liked me and what not. but i proved to my boyfriend by telling him so many times that he has nothing to worry about. i don't know if "K" likes you, but tell "J" that there is nothing for him to worry about- because you're friends. and that's all you want to be K and that J has no need to be so uptight. he doesn't have to like K but he doesn't have to get mad at you everytime for having another friend who happens to be a guy.

[*suddenly she*]

J doesn't get angry because we're friends. i think he's more disappointed by my taste in friends.
anyway, i suppose i'll monitor myself more closely...

You mean girlfriend, in lieu of a 'boyfriend', right? Cause, afterall, you are a guy. Well, unless you are gay, which is still not acceptable.

you're clever.

[***Lucy**]

Well, i guess yor bf is jealous and this happens a lot of times if the bf doesn't have any female friends..I mean he probably thinks that there can't be a true friendship between a guy and a girl. Just talk to him and explain that you are only friends with K and you are like siblings.
My ex-bf used to think similar things but there were other people who told him lies about me..anyway.. tell him that u aren'ealous of HIS female frends.

[*suddenly she*]

^um. J has tons of female friends, and he knows that i don't exactly care at all. he's perfectly aware of what K and i are like.

[***Lucy**]

^um. J has tons of female friends, and he knows that i don't exactly care at all. he's perfectly aware of what K and i are like.

then i guess he worries that K is a bad influence on you.. It's kinda normal, i mean how would you feel if you thought that his closest female friend isn't nice..
I used to tell my ex-bf that his closest female friend was evil and she was trying to make him break up w/ me..he wouldn't listen to me..so i ended up pregnant without my bf and he got together with his female friend..

[mushoo92]

your boyfriend is just jealous and also he might love you a lot and doesnt want you and K to start a real real close relationship so then K might take you away from J